A Complaint Is a Gift, 3rd Edition: How to Learn from Critical Feedback and Recover Customer Loyalty

A Complaint Is a Gift, 3rd Edition: How to Learn from Critical Feedback and Recover Customer Loyalty

by Janelle Barlow
A Complaint Is a Gift, 3rd Edition: How to Learn from Critical Feedback and Recover Customer Loyalty

A Complaint Is a Gift, 3rd Edition: How to Learn from Critical Feedback and Recover Customer Loyalty

by Janelle Barlow

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Overview

The third edition of this bestseller (over 275,000 copies sold) builds on the tested formula that helps organizations recognize the value of complaints using updated examples and concepts in the age of COVID-19.

The first edition of A Complaint Is a Gift introduced the revolutionary notion that customer complaints are not annoyances to be dodged, denied, or buried but are instead valuable pieces of feedback—not to mention your best bargain in market research. Complaints provide a feedback mechanism that can help organizations rapidly and inexpensively strengthen products, service style, and market focus. Most importantly, complaints that are well received create customer loyalty.

This new edition condenses the tried and true eight-step formula into a tighter, more efficient three-step formula. From her work with clients, the author has updated industry-specific complaint examples and added in new concepts, such as a process that enables employees to handle complaints with increased emotional resilience—something that is sorely needed since dealing with increasingly difficult customers is a common occurrence in the wake of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Handling complaints doesn’t have to be a negative, soul-crushing experience. Janelle Barlow gives the right tools to treat each of them as a source of innovative ideas that can transform your business.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781523002931
Publisher: Berrett-Koehler Publishers
Publication date: 11/08/2022
Pages: 224
Sales rank: 299,503
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Janelle Barlow is president and owner of All Out Performance and has decades of experience as a consultant, executive coach, speaker, and author. Her past clients include World Bank Group, HP, and DHL. She has served as president for the Global Speakers Federation and the National Speakers Association chapters in both Northern California and New Mexico, and she is a partner with the multinational training and consulting group MoveMinds. Barlow’s numerous awards include the Legend of the Speaking Industry, CSP from the National Speakers Association, and Consultant of the Year from both TMI International and TACK International. She is the bestselling author of A Complaint Is a Gift (over 275,000 copies sold).

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The Customer Speaks

It has been over ten years since the first edition of A Complaint Is a Gift was published. It’s embarrassing to admit that we naively believed poorly handled complaints would be a thing of the past as a result of the widespread distribution the original edition enjoyed. We heard a number of “wow” examples, such as a medical supply company in Kiev, Ukraine, that completely reorganized its approach to complaint handling based solely on the contents of the Russian-translated version. With examples like this from around the world, we assumed we’d soon be able to stop talking about complaints—even though we would miss that. Complaints are a fun topic for speeches. Stories about poorly handled complaints arouse a great deal of eye rolling and tongue clucking. We thought everyone would have understood that complaints are gifts.

It didn’t happen. In a 2006 survey of 3,200 U.S. and European consumers, 86 percent of respondents said their “trust in corporations has declined in the past five years.”1 In 2007, RightNow Technologies reported that after suffering a negative service experience,


80 percent of U.S. adults decided to never go back to that company
74 percent registered a complaint or told others
47 percent swore or shouted
29 percent reported they got a headache, felt their chest tighten, or cried
13 percent fought back by posting a negative online review or blog comment2

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Finally, a Gallup poll commissioned by the Better Business Bureau, conducted between August 22 and September 8, 2007, found that 18 percent of adult Americans said their trust in business had dropped in the last year. Yet 93 percent of those surveyed said a company’s reputation for honesty and fairness is extremely important to them. The report concludes that if companies don’t deliver what they promise (the source of most complaints), customers will go somewhere else.3 It’s not a pretty picture.

While the ideas from this book have influenced a great many people, companies still get things wrong, and customers continue to complain— if we’re lucky. Service providers too often either blame customers for the mistakes they complain about or make them prove their positions. In many cases, they take so long to respond that customers forget what they complained about when they finally hear back from organizations. Customers frequently are forced to talk with robotic electronic voice systems that feebly attempt to replicate real conversations, and unfortunately, in some cases, these exchanges are better than live human interactions. And we won’t even cite the statistics for how long customers wait on telephones to talk with someone. When they finally are connected with a live person, it’s often someone living halfway around the world who reads from a script. Many customers become so frustrated with this type of communication that by the time they get to talk with someone, they start out angry and are automatically labeled problem customers—even though they may have been trying to buy something or have a simple question answered.

The deck is stacked against businesses trying to satisfy their customers. Customers expect satisfactory service. As a result, unsatisfactory service stands out. Because it stands out, it is more likely to be remembered and weighed more heavily compared to everything that went right. Ten transactions can go right, but that one mistake is what grabs consumer attention. This reality demands that we focus on what we can learn from customers who aren’t happy.4

Organizations, however, don’t seem to learn from their customers, as witnessed by the fact that most consumers face repeats of the very problems they already complained about. Most importantly, many service providers still see complaints as something to be avoided, as indicated by the fact that many organizations continue to pay bonuses to their managers based on reductions in complaints. Yet surveys conducted around the world demonstrate over and over again that companies with the best-rated service in their industry are the most profitable. It’s really that simple. And complaint handling is an integral part of that service rating.3

It is true that many people and organizations have learned how to handle complaints better. Several large companies have instituted sophisticated technological approaches to more efficiently respond to complaints. And many companies educate their staff in the best ways to respond to upset customers. But every year, a new group of service providers show up to work in organizations around the world—fresh representatives who haven’t had the advantage of the training offered by their employers. (Given the high rate at which call-center staff leave their jobs, they probably wouldn’t have much use for that knowledge in any case.) Every year, new types of complaints are presented by consumers. Eager and desperate managers somehow continue to delude themselves into thinking that the best tactic is to eliminate all the problems that create complaints, as if zero defects is actually attainable. And today, twelve years since A Complaint Is a Gift hit the bookshelves, more and more complaints are made public on the Internet, posted in vitriolic tones by dissatisfied customers.

Because of what customers are forced to endure, many call-center staff regularly have to serve unpleasant, upset customers whom they personally did nothing to create. Yet to be good service providers, they must be able to calm these customers down and deal with them in a way that makes them want to return to do business again at some time in the future. Unfortunately, many staff take customer bad behavior just as personally as customers take the bad service they have been offered, and staff defensive reactions leak out onto customers.

Is it any wonder that most call centers have such a difficult time holding on to staff unless they offer the best-paying jobs in the area? This rapid and regular loss of staff requires constant hiring of new, untrained staff. As a result, many call centers do not have staff who know how to effectively handle complaints, let alone understand that a complaint is being delivered unless it is spelled out with the precise words “I have a complaint.”4

Academic research on complaint handling hasn’t revealed earth-shaking new information since we surveyed studies for the original book. Greater and greater refinement, however, of what happens in the complaint process has been achieved over the past ten years. For example, more research has been conducted on differences of complaining styles between different national groups.5 This more detailed knowledge about consumer behavior has opened up additional areas to be researched. Here’s our conclusion after reading hundreds of research studies:


The more we know about service recovery, the more complex our understanding becomes.
The more we know, the more we need to know to get the results we want with service recovery.
The more we know, the more we need to experiment to see what works in specific situations.
While specific data may have changed, the research conducted in the 1960s through the 1990s has, more or less, held into the 2000s. No complaints there! In fact, it would be scary to think that a completely new understanding about complaints has popped up, necessitating an entirely new approach to complaint handling. Bottom line: the concept that a complaint is a gift holds true today as much as it did over ten years ago. Complaints are never going to go away, and organizations and their staffs need to adopt a strategy that enables them to recover customer loyalty when things go wrong.


What’s Changed

What has changed is that many organizations, led in this direction by very convincing research,6 have gained a deeper understanding about how important effective complaint handling—service recovery, as it has been referred to since the early 1980s—is in retaining loyal customers. These organizations understand the cost they pay in loss of both customers and staff when upset and dissatisfied customers are not handled well.5

Several organizations have also come to recognize that effective service recovery is an important part of creating powerful brands. In 2004, Branded Customer Service (by authors Janelle Barlow and Paul Stewart) examined the importance to brands of effective complaint handling.7 The conclusion: customers are remarkably forgiving of brands with promises that are not initially delivered as long as brand representatives respond to customers effectively, make good on original promises, and demonstrate that matters are improving. It also helps if the brand has a strong market image. One big key here is to rein in the marketing department so it does not make promises that the rest of the organization can’t deliver.8

Janelle Barlow also coauthored Emotional Value during this period.9 Emotional Value went into depth on how broken promises, mistakes, and inappropriate treatment affect customers emotionally. Some customers will accept outrageous mistakes as long as service providers are sincere, helpful, and concerned. At least they’ll accept mistakes if they don’t regularly recur. If staff maintain an attitude that feedback is one of the best types of communication they can have with customers, strategically they start off on the right foot to build emotional value with customers.

Saying “thank you” for negative feedback is just as powerful today as it was a dozen years ago. More importantly, the strategy behind thanking for feedback is even more important today than it was in 1996. Our mind-sets really do influence how we respond to our customers, and “complaints as gifts” is a powerful business mind-set for delivering service when our best efforts have collapsed and we don’t give customers what they expect.

Before we tell you how this new edition is organized, let us start this tale with an extraordinary “feel-good” example of complaint handling that is going to be talked about for a long time at Family Fare, a North Carolina convenience store chain. It’s a “remember the time,” epochal example for showing Family Fare store operators that they must never dismiss even the smallest customer disappointment that at first glance is due to just an honest mistake.

We’ll set the foundation first. Family Fare aspires to offer the best customer service of any U.S. convenience store—period. It invests a substantial sum of money in educating its store owners and managers about the brand of service it wants delivered and how to handle complaints. The company has created a simple brand promise and works like crazy to deliver it perfectly.6

Family Fare is a classic example—of the type covered by Patrick Barwise in Simply Better—of building a brand by getting the fundamentals right most of the time.10 Family Fare wants to be a midweek grocery store; it knows it can’t compete for the weekend supermarket shopping excursion. But it also doesn’t have to be a bottom feeder, gouging customers with high prices when they have nowhere else to shop. Family Fare stores are clean and well lighted, and staples are often priced the same as at supermarkets. Most Family Fare customers know the store operators (among the nicest and most sincere people you’ll ever meet) personally and love them. They are community for a bunch of people.

Lee Barnes, president, lives and breathes customer service. Complaints sent by e-mail to the Family Fare Web site come directly to him, and he responds personally. The following complaint was, in his words, a “real heart stopper.” Sitting in his car (hopefully not driving!), Barnes read a complaint (on his BlackBerry) from a customer who said she was refused entry into an Xbox sweepstakes because her home address was not close enough to a Family Fare store. She wrote that she owned rental property near one of the stores and that her military husband purchased gas there. She was so incensed, she would never shop again at a Family Fare, and other military families that she knew would follow suit. “What a pity that you overlook customers who WORK near your locations even if they don’t RESIDE by them. There are simply too many other places for us to buy our gas and sodas. Good Bye. Next time maybe you should hire someone with promotional experience to execute future giveaways.” Ouch. Her words stung—and from a military family.

Barnes sent a quick response from his BlackBerry thanking her for contacting him and assuring her that he would make it possible for her to enter the sweepstakes. It turned out that there was no problem with her address. Back-end Web commands unfortunately kicked people in her situation out of the contest. She wasn’t the only one, but she was the only one who complained. Once back at his office, Barnes sent the customer a longer message, again thanking her for bringing the situation to his attention so that he could help her and improve Family Fare’s customer experience. In an engaging letter, he told her that he would never have otherwise known and that he would personally sign her up for the contest.7

Her response to this second letter was considerably toned down. She said that two of her friends had had the same problem. More valuable information was given to Family Fare when she also indicated that the first e-mail she sent to complain didn’t go through because, according to an error message, she was more than ten miles away from a Family Fare store. In a third communication, this “complaining customer” wrote about her life and her children. “Okay well now you’re just being too darned nice so I won’t boycott your stores. I really do love Family Fare.” In a two-page e-mail, the woman revealed that her husband’s company commander had been killed the morning she had sent the original complaint. She had an adopted son and recently had taken in two additional foster children, one born addicted to drugs. The older son’s birthday was coming up and he wanted an Xbox, but they simply couldn’t afford one on their military budget. As she said, “Soooooooooo I see your contest and I’m thinking, ‘hey I will WIN Jess an Xbox,’ but alas, I was unable to enter. It was just sort of the last straw at that moment.”

By this time, Barnes and his customer were on a first-name basis. He was touched and decided to give Jessie an Xbox, whether he won or not. The company’s Web designer, who was also thoroughly involved, offered a video game to go along with the Xbox. The customer’s next letter carefully explained that she wasn’t after sympathy or charity. In fact, she was embarrassed by what she had originally written. As she said, “I don’t expect you to send us a game system. I just find it refreshing that a business truly cares, listens AND responds to a customer’s complaint.” Barnes responded that he hadn’t heard a request for sympathy; the company had an extra Xbox, and he felt that sending it to Jessie and his younger brother was a way to thank her for taking the time to explain her Web site problems so they could be fixed. Two weeks later, Jessie had his Xbox. The thank-you letters from mother and sons are difficult to read without tearing up.8

This example is about much more than just retaining a customer, though you can be sure that will happen. The story line is emotional and human. This mother’s grief and complaint gave Barnes and Family Fare a chance to behave as humanitarians. At a nitty-gritty customer service level, however, Barnes created a classic teaching example that shows all his store owners what can happen when a complaint is received from someone who simply buys gasoline and soda pop at a convenience store.

Most complaints don’t create such opportunities to show how good you really are. Most complaint examples don’t let you in on a person’s personal life in a way you never would have experienced without the complaint. Most complaint examples, however, all have a little piece of what happened in this remarkable situation. When they come along as complete as in this case, treasure them. Everyone benefits.

And don’t worry that the next time you offer an Xbox competition, everyone will write complaint letters with made-up sob stories to get a free one. You’ll recognize the believable when it happens.


The Complaint Is a Gift Metaphor

Without customers, businesses simply do not exist. Yet it seems as if customers have only recently been discovered. It is in the last twenty-five years or so that customers have begun to be talked about in a meaningful way. Today, phrases such as total customer service, customer centricity, customer-driven marketplace, customer satisfaction indexes, customer-oriented culture, customer-centered selling, customer care, core and peripheral customer services, customer sensitivity, internal and external customers, customer focus, and even soft and hard customer relationships regularly roll off the tongues of business people—especially consultants.

Service recovery courses (on how to turn dissatisfied customers into loyal ones) have been among the most popular seminars around the world for quite some time. In the service industry today, the concepts of service and quality have become inexorably linked. For the first edition, we conducted a Dialog computer search of articles written since 1981 mentioning customer complaints in academic journals and uncovered a dramatic increase in articles, reflecting an explosion of interest in the topic. Since that time, the academic interest in complaints and service recovery has steadily increased, as the graph below indicates. And to take full advantage of the Web, we decided to see how many entries about customer complaints were listed by Google for each year within the same time period.11 The results are presented below.9

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DIALOGUE LISTINGS FOR COMMUNICATION, SERVICE, AND MANAGEMENT ARTICLES

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GOOGLE LISTINGS FOR “CUSTOMER COMPLAINTS”

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Obviously, there are repeats in the Google listings, and without going through each year’s listings in detail, it is impossible to know how many earlier entries are relisted. But as the years advance, the numbers continue to steadily increase, except for the period following 2000. It is difficult to say for certain what caused that decline in listings, but many will recall that it seemed almost impolite to complain after the events of September 11, 2001. In 2007, there was a dramatic increase, probably caused in part by all the cross-linking done by bloggers. The steady increase over the years (except for the post-2000 drop) demonstrates that there has been a great deal more information and interest about complaints as each year has passed.

The concept of customer has expanded over the past twenty-five years. Customer means not just the paying customer but anyone who receives the benefit of goods and services, including patients in hospitals, students in schools, and public-transit riders. It has also come to mean internal organizational customers, such as work colleagues and bosses. Though some may not like calling their friends and family members customers, many customer ideas apply equally well to personal relationships. We will discuss some of them in this book.

The message is clear: customers have moved to the center of the discussion. Or you might say, customers have gone to the top of the organizational hierarchy. And every single management book on service and quality will echo Peter Drucker’s original 1951 refrain: customers are the reason we get to stay in business.

Yet all too often we forget this. Many companies have their “we live for our customers” talk down to a fine art but believe that issuing orders about this topic is all they need to do. As service consultants, we have met far too many executives who just don’t comprehend that it’s not enough to tell staff to behave a certain way. “We told them that already,” they lament, as if simply telling people to change will ever be enough. Dozens of customer surveys suggest that there is enormous room for improvement in how customers are treated once they have bought and, at times, before they buy. Employees, and the systems they are forced to operate in, persistently get in the way of customers’ having a positive experience. This is particularly meaningful because of the ever-growing shift from a goods economy to a service economy. In the United States in 1920, the service sector was responsible for 53 percent of the nonfarm workers; by 1960 that percentage had jumped to 62 percent; in 2000 the number increased to 81 percent. This pattern is consistent in every developed economy in the world.1211

If businesses are truly interested in developing a customer-centric culture, heightening customer care, or providing total customer service, then customer dissatisfaction should be of central interest. One of the most direct and meaningful ways customers can express their dissatisfaction to companies is through what we have come to call a complaint.

In fact, most businesses view complaints as either proof of failure on their part that they would rather not admit or as confirmation of their suspicion that customers are out to get something for nothing. However a company is inclined to perceive or experience complaints, most companies desire to eliminate them. Yet complaints are one of the most direct and effective ways for customers to tell businesses that there is room for improvement. And if in a competitive market economy this improvement does not occur, customers will take their business elsewhere. It is very likely that they will eventually receive equally dissatisfying service from another company and will return to the first company after a period of time. But customer churn is very costly to businesses and has a strong negative effect on brand equity.

The metaphor we use in this book is that of complaints as gifts. Complaints are a feedback mechanism that can help organizations rapidly and inexpensively shift products, service style, or market focus to meet the needs of their customers—who, after all, pay the bills. It is time for all organizations to think of complaint handling as a strategic tool—an opportunity to learn something about products or services that maybe they did not already know—and as a marketing asset, rather than a nuisance, a cost, and a royal pain.

Customer complaints provide one of the primary and most direct means to communicate with customers. After all, how many consumers pick up the phone to just chat with organizations if they have no problems? Customers practically have to be bribed to get them to fill out survey forms. But when a complaint situation occurs, there’s at least a small chance that customers will talk with us directly. We’d better be prepared to listen.12

This book speaks to those who deal with customers, those who would like to benefit from customer feedback, and those who have the responsibility of retaining dissatisfied customers as loyal ones. We suggest that a fundamental change in attitude is required if businesses are going to retain complaining customers. If companies get better at complaint management and complaint handling and begin to see complaints as gifts, they will open clearer lines of communication with customers. Our goal is to show you how a strategic shift in how you view customer complaints can be the first step to improve and, indeed, grow your business.


How This Book Is Organized

A Complaint Is a Gift is divided into three parts. The first part, “Complaints: Lifeline to the Customer,” examines the strategy that will help us maintain a positive mind-set toward complaining customers. This part establishes the value of listening to customers. The role of complaint handling as a strategic tool for cultivating more business is presented. We will also consider why most dissatisfied customers rarely complain. (The overwhelming majority of them never do, though the Internet may be impacting that.) We look at what is in the mind of complaining customers in terms of what they say, do, and want when they are not satisfied.

The second part, “Putting the Complaint Is a Gift Strategy into Practice,” focuses on how to handle the complaints you do receive. We review our eight-step Gift Formula for keeping our language, interactions, and actions consistent with the belief that a complaint is a gift. We’ve learned a lot about how that formula can be used even more effectively. We also address specific suggestions for turning angry customers into partners. (We stopped calling them terrorist customers after September 11, 2001.) Complaint letters are discussed as a special category of complaints. When this book was first published, the Web was a forum just beginning to be available for upset customers. Remember, it wasn’t until 1995 that large numbers of people even began to use the Internet. In the last ten years, what used to be a whisper can now easily become a global shout. The good news is that we are far from defenseless to complaints posted on the Web. We therefore consider how organizations can use the Web to their own advantage.13

The first edition of this book had a part titled “How to Make Your Organization Complaint Friendly.” Because this book has been expanded by over fifty pages, we have decided to put the discussion of this topic on the TMI US Web page (www.tmius.com). There you will find papers you can download and comment on. We’ll keep updating (l) how to align your service recovery with your brand position, (2) how to evaluate your policies and systems so they are complaint friendly, and (3) how to develop and sustain a complaint-friendly culture. On our Web page you’ll also find an implementation process for making your organization more customer focused by concentrating on managing complaints.

Because of the considerable feedback we received from readers of the first edition of A Complaint Is a Gift, we decided to add an additional part: “Dishing It Out and Taking It In: The Personal Side of Complaints.” People have told us that applying the Gift Formula within their marriages has actually saved them! One of the best ways to find out what customers want is to listen to their complaints. And one of the best ways to improve a personal relationship is to notice when someone is upset and to respond in a way that leads to resolving the conflict. Quick dialogue, with open lines for feedback from friends, colleagues, and family members, that moves toward resolution of others’ irritations—complaint management, so to speak—can keep relationships harmonious and make them even stronger. If we hint to our partners that we do not want to hear any nagging, our partners may not say anything about what is bothering them, but it does not mean that they are not bothered. Like customers, they may leave without saying much. Or perhaps they’ll bash us on MySpace. Gordon Bethune, CEO of Continental Airlines until 2004, says, “You can’t take your girlfriend for granted, and you can’t take your customer for granted. Every time, it always works out the same way. Somebody else gets them.”13

At the conclusion of each chapter is a set of discussion questions about complaints and what you or your organization can do about them. These questions can be used at staff meetings to stimulate discussion and understanding of customer complaints or as part of training efforts to improve complaint handling.14

Actual cases of successful organizations managing and handling customer complaints are presented. We have expanded our examples and replaced most of the ones used in the original edition. We did receive feedback that our examples were too focused on the airline industry, the industry that so many love to hate. We listened to our readers, and as a result, we have broadened our array of industry examples, even though some of the best examples of bad service and poorly handled complaints are still coming from the airlines. (We, and most of our professional colleagues, happen to spend quite a bit of time sitting in airplane seats, so we hear about or notice a lot of bad service and associated complaints or a lack of them.) We recommend borrowing good ideas from other companies, even other industries, so just because you are not running an airline does not mean you cannot learn from airlines and their disastrous satisfaction records. In fact, many industries eventually go through some type of crisis, just as the airline industry is currently experiencing. September 11 and intense competition from “no frills” airlines shook up an entire industry, and airlines have had to learn how to adjust.14 Wally Bock, blogger par excellence, says, “Ideas that are almost sure to work are the best practices of other companies in your industry. But the breakthrough ideas often come from outside, from an industry that routinely solves a problem that’s new to you.”15 We agree.

All of our examples are very real. If we got some details wrong, we apologize in advance. In most cases, when the experience was negative, we removed the company name unless the company is no longer in existence or the complaint is part of the public record. This was a careful decision. It is tempting to conclude that a company provides poor service or offers poor products after hearing just one example. In fact, some customers will leave a business, never to return, because of one slipup. Every company makes mistakes from time to time. We would not want our readers to decide that a particular company is bad because someone had a reason to complain.15

Finally, this book contains a lot of summarized research data. Readers will quickly learn that there is a great deal of variation in the literature on complaints, but all the research points in the same direction: customers who are dissatisfied generally do not complain, and when they do, their feedback is all too often poorly handled and inadequately managed. If we are to treat complaints as gifts, we have to make major shifts in both our behavior and our thinking. The good news is that opportunity exists for almost all organizations to make dramatic improvements in how they handle complaints.

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