A Fellowship of Differents: Showing the World God's Design for Life Together

by Scot McKnight Narrated by Van Tracy

Overview

In this compelling book, Scot McKnight shares his personal experience in the church as well as his study of the Apostle Paul to answer this significant question: What is the church supposed to be?

For most of us the church is a place we go to on Sunday to hear a sermon or to participate in worship or to partake in communion or to fellowship with other Christians. Church is all contained within one or two hours on Sunday morning.

The church the Apostle Paul talks about is designed by God to be a fellowship of difference-how people differ socially-and differents-how people differ culturally. God did not design the church to be a two-hour experience on Sunday but a mixture of people from all across the map and spectrum: men and women, rich and poor, Caucasians and African Americans, and Mexican Americans, Latin Americans, Asian Americans, and Indian Americans, and a mixture of people with varying personalities and tastes.

The church McKnight grew up in was a fellowship of sames and likes. There was almost no variety in his church. White folks, same beliefs about everything, same tastes in music and worship and sermons and lifestyle. Because of his experience, he writes incisively and compellingly.

The church is God's world-changing social experiment of bringing unlikes and differents to the table to share life with one another as a new kind of family. When this happens we show to the world what love, justice, peace, reconciliation, and life together is designed by God to be. The church is God's show-and-tell for the world to see how God wants us to live as a family.

Product Details

BN ID:	2940172607219
Publisher:	Zondervan
Publication date:	02/24/2015
Edition description:	Unabridged

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A Fellowship of Differents

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By Scot McKnight

ZONDERVAN

Copyright © 2014 Scot McKnight
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ISBN: 978-0-310-27767-5

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CHAPTER 1

Growing Up in Church

When I was a teenager, my youth pastor asked me to preach one Wednesday night to the youth, which was a big deal in my church. Truth be told, we all went to church on Sundays just to hear our head pastor give the sermon upstairs, which was the biggest deal of all. He would preach through books in the Bible verse-by-verse in what we called expository preaching. Other churches called their sermons "homilies," which lasted about ten minutes or less, though most of us had no idea whether this was true since we never stepped through their doors anyway. They also called their pastors "priests" or "fathers" — a sure sign you weren't saved. We weren't even sure they believed in the Bible.

For my sermon that Wednesday, I chose one line from the apostle Paul in the King James Bible that read, "Be ye separate." I talked about how important it was to stay away from sin and sinners like Methodists and to avoid the temptation to go to movies and to resist with all our might the evil of drink and dancing and cursing and tobacco. I went on and on, until about an hour later "Pastor Dave," our youth leader, told me to knock it off, and I sat down among my glassy-eyed peers. We sang and prayed some more, and finally all of us went home into the night.

Growing up in First Baptist Church in Freeport, Illinois, I observed that our church was about four things: getting people saved, separating from the world, singing full throttle, and listening to sermons by our pastor — though certainly not in that order. Getting people saved mostly meant getting Methodists, Presbyterians, and Lutherans to come to our church, preferably for a revival. We would ramp up our efforts and try to get them to walk down the aisle and accept Christ into their heart, going to the backroom to say the Sinner's Prayer. Our biggest prize came when a Catholic prayed to receive Christ, but that didn't happen often. When it did, we sang louder and told the story over and over.

Singing was big for us too. The Sunday morning official choir wore Old Testament-like priestly robes and sashes. I sang in the young peoples' choir, where the show-offs sang the main parts while the rest of us sang harmony, if we could. I never really got to that level, so when I could hit the notes, I pressed the gas a little harder to show the show-offs what I was capable of.

The worst part about singing in my church was that someone, no doubt with a holy motive, made us guys a vest, a kind of mustard yellow Ringo Starr vest with no buttons. We wore light-colored, long-cuffed, four-inch collar shirts; brown bell bottom burlap-bag-like pants; and hip sixties shoes. The girls wore the same outfit as the guys except with skirts, because wearing pants was worldly and secular and modernist, the words we used for everyone else in the town who didn't go to our church. Another sign of worldliness was rock music, so we had no guitars for our choir. Playing the instrument might make someone's hair grow over his ears.

If you haven't figured it out yet, going to church for us was also about being separate, or holy. Someone way back in our denominational history had drunk the wine of the Puritans, though I'd have to admit that's a serious license, since neither the Puritans nor we drank wine or beer — or anything alcoholic for that matter. We even protested grocery stores that sold alcohol, and my friend's mom inked out alcohol after the word Isopropyl to preserve her testimony.

We were definitely separate, which means we didn't (or weren't supposed to) do all sorts of things. We didn't drink alcohol, we didn't go to school dances or smoke cigarettes of any kind, we didn't "do sex" before marriage, and we didn't go to movies that popped some skin and created lust in teenagers. We kept away from the world lest we fall away and become Lutheran or Methodist or Presbyterian or, worst of all, Catholic. In our town the Catholics would team up with the Lutherans, Methodists, and Presbyterians for dances and movies, while we felt excluded or holy.

Now don't get me wrong. There was plenty of godliness and goodness in the folks at First Baptist Church, Freeport, Illinois. Nor do I want to suggest that our church didn't do a lot of good for the kingdom of God, because it certainly did. But some of the stuff we did was ... well, just weird.

Since marrying my wife, Kris, who grew up among the Presbyterians, we've been to all sorts of churches in our hometown over the decades. We've "gone to church" with the Anglicans, the Baptists, the Presbyterians, the Methodists, the Episcopalians, the Plymouth Brethren, the Evangelical Free, the Evangelical Covenant, and all sorts of evangelical nondenominational churches. We went to a Catholic church, San Giorgio Maggiore, on a little island in Venice, and though we hardly understood a word, it was cool being in such a historic church on Pentecost. Each of these churches we've attended over the years is a shade different from the others, but — when you get down to it — they're really not all that different.

So here's my claim after that romp through the church of my youth: Everything I learned about the Christian life I learned from my church. I will make this a bigger principle: a local church determines what the Christian life looks like for the people in that church. Now I'll make it even bigger still: we all learn the Christian life from how our local church shapes us. These three principles are a way of saying that local churches matter far more than we often know.

Some churches focus on holiness, some on love, some on fellowship with one another, and some on evangelizing outsiders. Some focus on sermons and Sunday School classes and Bible studies and theology and orthodoxy. Others focus on worship and have all kinds of beliefs determining who says what from where and how it is said and who can do what from where and when and why. Whether we admit it or not, a local church really does shape what we think the Christian life is all about.

Richard Foster, who has studied what we call "spiritual formation" his entire life, breaks down the history of how churches have understood the Christian life into six themes:

1. A prayer-filled life

2. A holy and virtuous life

3. A Spirit-empowered life

4. A compassionate or just life

5. A Word-centered life

6. A sacramental life

I could easily find the church of my youth in the first, second, and fifth of these, because we were into prayer, holiness, and the Word, though our first note was about holiness. But these elements don't exist on their own; it was my church that shaped, led, guided, and drove me to those three items all the time in my Christian development. I never thought about justice and barely thought about the Spirit, and we wouldn't have been caught dead talking about sacraments, because other churches in Freeport did that. Churches determine the direction of our discipleship.

Which leads to one big question:

What then is the church supposed to be?

I believe for most of us the church is a place we go on Sunday to hear a sermon, or to participate in worship, or to partake in communion. Some will add Sunday School classes and time together in the fellowship hall. But by and large it is all contained within one or two hours on Sunday morning. After two hours, we go home and "church" is over. No one wants to admit that is what church really is in practice, but it's true!

So we ask that question again, only this time we add a second one:

What is the church supposed to be?

and

If the church is what it is supposed to be, what does the Christian life look like?

To answer that question I want us to explore the image of the salad bowl, which reflects the ways all us "differents" — from different socioeconomic groups, genders, educational and ethnic backgrounds, and life situations — struggle to come together in fellowship as the church God intended.

CHAPTER 2

A Salad Bowl

There are three ways to eat a salad: the American Way, the Weird Way, and the Right Way.

The American Way of eating a salad is to fill your bowl with some iceberg lettuce or some spinach leaves, some tomato slices and olives, and maybe some carrots, then smother it with salad dressing — Ranch or Thousand Island or Italian or, for special occasions, Caesar.

The Weird Way is to separate each item in your salad around on your plate, then eat them as separate items. People who do this often do not even use dressing. As I said, weird.

Now the Right Way to make and eat a salad is to gather all your ingredients — some spinach, kale, chard, arugula, iceberg lettuce (if you must) — and chop them into smaller bits. Then cut up some tomatoes, carrots, onions, red pepper, and purple cabbage. Add some nuts and dried berries, sprinkle some pecorino romano cheese, and finally drizzle over the salad some good olive oil, which somehow brings the taste of each item to its fullest. Surely this is what God intended when he created "mixed salad."

THE CHURCH IS A SALAD

In our last chapter, I highlighted just how important the church is in our spiritual formation, so if we want to get the church right, we have to learn to see it as a salad in a bowl, made the Right Way of course. For a good salad is a fellowship of different tastes, all mixed together with the olive oil accentuating the taste of each. The earliest Christian churches were made up of folks from all over the social map, but they formed a fellowship of "different tastes," a mixed salad of the best kind.

Understand that these early Christians did not meet in churches and sit apart from one another in pews, and then when the music ended get in their chariots and go home. No, their churches were small, and they met in homes or house churches. A recent study by a British scholar has concluded that if the apostle Paul's house churches were composed of about thirty people, this would have been their approximate make-up:1

• a craftworker in whose home they meet, along with his wife, children, a couple of male slaves, a female domestic slave, and a dependent relative

• some tenants, with families and slaves and dependents, also living in the same home in rented rooms

• some family members of a householder who himself does not participate in the house church

• a couple of slaves whose owners do not attend

• some freed slaves who do not participate in the church

• a couple homeless people

• a few migrant workers renting small rooms in the home

Add to this mix some Jewish folks and a perhaps an enslaved prostitute and we see how many "different tastes" were in a typical house church in Rome: men and women, citizens and freed slaves and slaves (who had no legal rights), Jews and Gentiles, people from all moral walks of life, and perhaps, most notably, people from elite classes all the way down the social scale to homeless people.

Do you think these folks agreed on everything? (Impossible is the right answer.) Were they a fellowship of "differents"? (Yes is the right answer.) Was life together hard? (Yes, again.) That's the whole point of what it means to be a church. The Christian life is not just about how I am doing as an individual, but especially about how we are doing as a church, and how and what I am doing in that mix of others called the church.

God has designed the church — and this is the heart of Paul's mission — to be a fellowship of difference and differents. It is a mixture of people from all across the map and spectrum: men and women, rich and poor. It is a mix of races and ethnicities: Caucasians, African Americans, Mexican Americans, Latin Americans, Asian Americans, Indian Americans — I could go on, but you see the point. The church I grew up in, bless its heart, was a fellowship of sames and likes. There was almost no variety in our church. It was composed entirely of white folks with the same beliefs, the same tastes in music and worship and sermons and lifestyle; men wore suits and ties and women wore dresses and not a few of them wore church hats.

Getting the church right is so important. The church is God's world-changing social experiment of bringing unlikes and differents to the table to share life with one another as a new kind of family. When this happens, we show the world what love, justice, peace, reconciliation, and life together are designed by God to be. The church is God's show-and-tell for the world to see how God wants us to live as a family. But there's something deeper going on too.

CHURCH LIFE SHOULD MODEL THE CHRISTIAN LIFE

My claim is also that local churches shape how its people understand the Christian life, so let's think about this briefly. If the church is a mixed salad, or a fellowship of differents, then ...

We should see different genders at church. Do we?

We should see different socioeconomic groups at church. Do we?

We should see different races at church. Do we?

We should see different cultures at church. Do we?

We should see different music styles at church. Do we?

We should see different artistic styles at church. Do we?

We should see different moral histories at church. Do we?

We should see different forms of communication at church. Do we?

We should see different ages involved at church. Do we?

We should see different marital statuses at church. Do we?

Even more, if the church is a mixed salad in a bowl ...

We should understand the Christian life as a fellowship. Do we?

We should understand it as a social revolution. Do we?

We should understand it as life together. Do we?

We should understand it as transcending difference. Do we?

We should understand it as honoring difference. Do we?

We should understand it as enjoying difference. Do we?

We should understand it as love, justice, and reconciliation. Do we?

No, in fact, we don't. We've turned the church, as we have done with some of our salad making, into the American Way and the Weird Way.

What does that mean? If the American Way is smothering the salad with dressing so that it all tastes like dressing, we have smothered all differences in the church so that everything is the same: designed for one gender, one socioeconomic group, one race, one culture, and one theology. We have become ingrown, like a toenail. Anyone who doesn't fit becomes invisible, gets ignored, is shelved, or goes AWOL.

Put differently, we've made the church into the American dream for our own ethnic group with the same set of convictions about next to everything. No one else feels welcome. What Jesus and the apostles taught was that you were welcomed because the church welcomed all to the table.

Let's be even more honest. While we might like to think we have smothered everyone with one tasty culture, what we have actually accomplished is closer to the Weird Way of making and eating a salad. We like ourselves, our way of thinking, our music, and our ... our everything. So we separate all the difference and differents and scatter them across the towns and cities so that each group worships on its own. Churches for men and not really for women, churches for the wealthy and churches for the middle class and churches for the poor, churches for whites and Mexican Americans and African Americans and Asian Americans and Indian Americans. Churches for liberals and churches for fundamentalists, churches for those who follow Calvin, Wesley, Luther, Aquinas, Menno — or for those who follow Hybels, Warren, Stanley, Hamilton, Chandler, or Driscoll. Sunday morning then becomes an exercise in cultural and spiritual segregation, and this has a colossally important impact on the Christian life itself!

The reality is that each of our churches has created a Christian culture and Christian life for likes and sames and similiarities and identicals. Instead of powering God's grand social experiment, we've cut up God's plan into segregated groups, with the incredibly aggravating and God-dishonoring result that most of us are invisible to one another.

Here's a heart-breaking example. Recently I was having lunch with a gifted Northern Seminary student named Phil, during which he mentioned to me the Hampton Ministers' Conference. I must have looked stone-faced because he said to me, "Have you ever been to the Hampton Conference?" I said, "Well, no, and neither have I ever heard of it." So he told me about it (you can Google it yourself). In June 2014, the Hampton University Ministers' Conference gathered for its one hundredth annual event. So I wrote to a few publishers and to some of my pastor friends to ask if they had ever been to the Hampton Conference, and I got back the same stunning response from each person I wrote: "Never heard of it." Not one person — pastor or publisher — I wrote to had ever heard of it. It is the longest running pastors' conference in the USA, attended by seven thousand, and I was embarrassed at my whiteness for not knowing that my brothers and sisters were gathering. They were invisible to me.

(Continues...)

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