Table of Contents
Prologue: It's Us Now: Snatched from Life 1
What to Wear to a Funeral: All Set for Black, Thanks 7
Who Gets the Spot Next to Mom: Eternity in Jersey 16
Dividing the Spoils: I'll Take the Guitar 29
Grandparents Go First: Millie's Chaise Longue 43
Why We Mourn Celebrities: Flowers in Their Plastic Shields 57
Losing a Friend: Getting the Retro Dress 67
Organized Religion and Death: What I Believe 82
What to Do with Inherited "Treasure:" Saving Just Enough of the Stuff 91
How We Handle a Sudden Death: Whiplash 98
How to Deliver Those Final Words: Best Eulogy Ever! 114
One Way Trip: The Lights Are on Timers, Eventually They Go Out 126
Naming the Living After the Dead: Oh Baby! 130
What to Do with Those Ashes: The Space on Susan's Mantle 137
The Way We Keep Remembering: This Is a Prayer That You Say Standing Up 143
How We Get Ready to Die: Love Lies Bleeding 154
Staging a Funeral: Open Casket 161
Mourning How-To: For Brilliant People Who, Through No Fault of Their Own, Find Themselves Hacking Out Their Own Path through the Dense Woods 167
Where I'm Going: Clearing in the Woods 174
Regrets: Tood's Birthday 180
How We Become the People We've Lost: Winter Boots 187
How Are We Going to Die? Who by Fire 191
Epilogue: Friends Forever 199