Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free

by Terri Cole, I. Matveeva (Translator)

Overview

Mnogih iz nas nikogda ne uchili, kak pravil'no govorit' o tom, chego my hotim, ili otkazyvat'sya ot togo, chto nam ne nravitsya. V rezul'tate my pryachem svoi chuvstva za passivno-agressivnym povedeniem, otricaem sobstvennuyu pravdu i podavlyaem emocii. Kak sledstvie — depressiya ili vspyshki gneva, kotorye podryvayut doverie i razrushayut otnosheniya. U lyudey, dovol'nyh zhizn'yu, est' odna obshchaya cherta: oni umeyut sozdavat' i otstaivat' chetkie, zdorovye granicy. Psihoterapevt Terri Koul rasskazyvaet o tom, kakie navyki pozvolyat vam nakonec perestat' otkazyvat'sya ot sebya radi drugih (bez chuvstva viny) i nachat' kontrolirovat' kazhdyy aspekt svoey emocional'noy, duhovnoy, fizicheskoy, lichnoy i professional'noy zhizni.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9785001953234
Publisher:	Mann, Ivanov and Ferber
Publication date:	06/22/2022
Sold by:	Bookwire
Format:	eBook
Pages:	256
File size:	2 MB
Age Range:	16 Years
Language:	Russian

About the Author

Терри Коул — лицензированный психотерапевт из Нью-Йорка, эксперт по взаимоотношениям, основатель Real Love Revolution, Boundary Bootcamp и соучредитель Crushing Codependency — курсов по расширению прав и возможностей женщин, где обучаются женщины более чем из девяноста стран. До того как сосредоточиться на отношениях и границах, Терри была специалистом по поиску кадров в крупном агентстве и заключала рекламные контракты для супермоделей и знаменитостей. Окончательно разочаровавшись в индустрии развлечений, она в возрасте тридцати лет приняла решение изменить карьеру и стала психотерапевтом и экспертом по расширению прав и возможностей женщин. Терри поставила перед собой задачу научить как можно больше женщин легко проводить и поддерживать эффективные границы, а также здоровые яркие отношения. В течение по­следних двух десятилетий Терри работала с самыми известными личностями — от звезд мировой эстрады, спортсменов, бродвейских актеров и телеведущих до лидеров мнений и руководителей компаний из списка Fortune 500. Еженедельно она расширяет возможности более 250 000 человек с помощью статей и сообщений в блогах, видеороликов, терапевтических медитаций, онлайн-курсов и своего популярного подкаста «Шоу Терри Коул». Подход Терри сочетает лучшее из практической психологии и восточных практик осознанности. У нее есть дар делать сложные психологические концепции доступными и действенными, чтобы клиенты и студенты добивались устойчивых перемен — истинной трансформации. Она снималась как опытный психотерапевт и тренер по личностному росту в шоу A&E Monster In-Laws, TEDx, The Lisa Oz Show, Real Housewives. Вела еженедельное радиошоу на Hay House Radio. Писала в HuffPost, Positively Positive, The Daily Love, Well + Good. О ней писали в Woman's Day, Psychology Today, The Boston Globe, Italian Elle, Forbes, Origin, CNN, Vogue, Self. Ее фотография была удостоена чести украсить собой обложку журнала Inspired Coach.

Table of Contents

Introduction 1

Part 1 Connecting the Dots to the Past

Chapter 1 From Boundary Disaster to Boundary Master 13

Chapter 2 Boundary Basics 31

Chapter 3 The Codependency Connection 47

Chapter 4 Corrupted Boundary Data 73

Chapter 5 Digging Deeper: Now Is Not Then 95

Part 2 Creating the New Normal

Chapter 6 The 3Rs:Recognize-Release-Respond 115

Chapter 7 From Reactive to Proactive Boundaries 135

Chapter 8 Things Are Getting Real 161

Chapter 9 Boundary Destroyers 183

Chapter 10 Real-World Boundaries (Scenarios & Scripts) 205

Chapter 11 Life as a Boundary Boss 223

Go Deeper 237

Acknowledgments 253

Notes 255

About the Author 259

Editorial Reviews

This powerful book is a clear path to deep healing work. If you’re ready for true emotional freedom, let Boundary Boss show you the way. And thank you, Terri Cole! Your brilliant (and often hilarious!) guidance is a blessing to us all.” —Kris Carr, New York Times bestselling author

“This is a crash course in communication integrity––with so many clear and comforting techniques. Terri is a straight-talking psychotherapist who knows how to get us from unhealthy compromise to loving engagement.” —Danielle LaPorte, creator of The Desire Map and Heart Centered

“Terri helps to make boundary setting tangible with practical steps to being a boundary boss. Her raw and relatable take on boundaries is a breath of fresh air. She presents with clear guidelines on how to take boundaries to the next level.” —Mariel Buqué, PhD, trauma psychologist

“With Boundary Boss, Terri Cole, powerhouse healer and transformational therapist, serves up the psychologically savvy medicine that you need to step out of destructive habits, stop people-pleasing, and set your soul free.” —Gabrielle Bernstein, #1 New York Times bestselling author of The Universe Has Your Back

“If you struggle with boundaries and are in need of a compass, seek no more! Terri Cole’s exquisitely interesting, articulate, and profoundly practical Boundary Boss will rock your world. Her book masterfully engages the reader’s heart and mind, while affirming and empowering their decisions to rise above their lifelong boundary-setting limitations.” —Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome

“In a brilliant balance of stories, instruction, and opportunities to reflect, assess, and practice what we’re learning, Terri Cole has written the book on boundaries we’ve all needed for-friggin’-ever. Somehow she also managed to deliver it in a super-loving, straight-to-the-point style that makes this deep and delicate topic easy to digest and apply. Five Stars.” —Elizabeth DiAlto, founder of the Institute for EMBODIED Living and Wild Soul Movement

“Terri Cole’s advice is game-changing! After having her on my Off the Gram podcast, I went home and broke up with a toxic friend, then wrote about it in my own book! Terri is the ultimate boundary boss and communication queen and in this powerful book, she shows us how to become the same. The world needs this book right now!” —Meaghan B Murphy, content chief for Woman’s Day magazine, author of Your Fully Charged Life

“Riddle me this: How can you possibly chase your dreams if you’re bogged down by people-pleasing, codependent, and time-wasting tendencies of overworking and overfunctioning? Spoiler alert: You can’t. If you’re ready to create and live a life on YOUR terms, Boundary Boss is about to become your roadmap.” —Amy Porterfield, entrepreneur and host of The Online Marketing Made Easy Podcast

“Most people don’t think about clear boundaries until they are violated. And then we feel stuck in our relationships. But imagine what your life would look like if someone had schooled you at an early age on the importance of boundaries and how to establish them? Terri Cole is that someone—and in Boundary Boss, she masterfully reveals how to find your most authentic voice, step into your power, and own your impact. You’ll feel like you’re being counseled by a dear, wise friend who truly has your back. This brilliant book is a must-read!” —davidji, author of Sacred Powers

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