Bringing in Finn: An Extraordinary Surrogacy Story

by Sara Connell Narrated by Sara Connell

Overview

Sara Casey Connell and her mother hadn't been particularly close for a long time. But when Connell lost a third pregnancy after years of fertility treatments and one late-term stillbirth of twins, her mother offered to be a surrogate for her child-and Connell and her husband accepted. Two years later, Finnean Lee Connell-a healthy baby boy-was born.

Bringing in Finn is the remarkable story of one woman's hard-fought, and often painful, journey to motherhood. In this achingly honest memoir, Connell recounts the tragedy and heartbreak of losing twin sons twenty-seven weeks into pregnancy; the process of opening her heart and mind to the idea of her 61-year-old mother carrying her child for her; and the profound bond that blossomed between the two of them as a result of their unique experience together. Moving, inspiring, and ultimately triumphant, Bringing in Finn is an extraordinary story of despair and hope, forgiveness and redemption, and the discovery that when it comes to unconditional love, there are no limits to what can be achieved.

Editorial Reviews

From the Publisher

"Riveting narrative trumps all, and readers found it here in spades: After an ordeal of fertility treatments and lost pregnancies, the author and her husband accept her 61-year-old mother’s offer to become the gestational carrier of their child—a saga that transforms a strained mother-daughter bond and creates a new family."
—ELLE magazine

“Sara Connell burns through abstract questions about the ethics and limits of medicalized fertility and gets to the heart of things. The result is a powerful testament to the depth and complexity of mother love. “
—Ariel Gore, founding editor of Hip Mama and the author of Bluebird

“Sara Connell’s journey to motherhood is a modern miracle. Her lyrical book chronicles an adventure that leads us into uncharted territory. Connell reaches deep into her heart to write about the desire for children, the sacred trust of marriage, the enduring bonds between mothers and daughters, and the sustaining power of hope. I couldn’t put it down.”
—Dominique Browning, Senior Director, Moms Clean Air Task Force

“Be prepared to be blown away. Bringing in Finn is about a family so determined to bring a baby into the world that they push every convention possible and succeed in making a miracle.”
—Michelle Lowe, playwright, author of Inana, winner of the 2010 Francesca Primus Prize

“Bringing in Finn is a must-read for anyone who is in any stage of yearning—for a child, for a mother, for a family, for faith. This is a story for anyone with an unfulfilled longing or desire.”
—Christie Tate, author of Outlaw Mama

“…this is an amazing journey, beautifully shared. It calls us to celebrate what matters most, persevere in times of despair, and know the Truth that Love always prevails.”
—Marian Baker, author of Wake Up Inspired

"Bringing in Finn is Sara’s bracingly honest memoir, and it’s a testament to the power of family. Far from being sensational, it’s a moving and inspiring look at unusual choices made with love."
—Reader's Digest

"The remarkable story of a family coming together when a 61-year-old woman becomes a surrogate carrier for her infertile daughter."
—Shelf Awareness

Kirkus Reviews

The story of a 61-year-old woman who served as the gestational carrier for her grandson. At the beginning of the book, Connell's struggles with her fertility don't seem that unusual. In fact, she isn't the most sympathetic narrator, as we see her dismiss Western medicine entirely after a single appointment with a gynecologist with a bad bedside manner. After spending two years trying acupuncture and herbal tea in an effort to restart her cycle "naturally," the author finally consulted a medical professional and eventually became pregnant through in vitro fertilization. When she experienced the devastating loss of her twin boys at 22 weeks gestation, the author thanked the doctors for attempting a risky medical procedure with a small chance of success. After another pregnancy and miscarriage, Connell and her husband began to consider surrogacy. This would be an unremarkable point in the story except for what happened next: The author's mother, recently retired, offered to act as the surrogate. They accepted, and their second IVF cycle was successful, with Connell's mother delivering Finn, a healthy baby boy. A life coach by trade, the author tends to emphasize mystical experiences, which are certainly powerful and meaningful. However, though she has more reason than most to be thankful for the extraordinary advances in medical fertility treatments, she never seems to acknowledge that science had a lot more to do with her son's birth than vision boards and trusting in the "Divine Mother." Noteworthy mainly due to the remarkable circumstances of Finn's birth.

Product Details

BN ID:	2940170864430
Publisher:	Tantor Audio
Publication date:	08/28/2012
Edition description:	Unabridged

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