Table of Contents
Introduction ix
1 Conversations Evolve 1
2 What We Have in Common 10
3 An Exploration of Difference 19
4 Intimacy with Identity 28
5 What Is True: The Importance of "I," You," and "It" 39
6 Having a Clear Intention 49
7 Conversation Essentials 57
8 Hidden Biases 69
9 A History of Injury 80
10 Strong Emotions in Conversation 88
11 Clarifying Power 101
12 Talking about Social Privilege 111
13 Politically Correct 121
14 Growing through Conflict 131
15 Shadow in Conversation 141
16 Miraculously Resilient 150
17 To Atone and Forgive 160
18 Becoming Wholehearted 171
19 Freedom Here and Now 179
20 In It Together 187
Acknowledgments 197
Notes 198
Selected Bibliography 211
Index 214
About the Authors 224