Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing: Emotionally Focused Therapy Techniques to Restore Your Relationship

by Lori Cluff Schade PhD LMFT

Overview

Stop fighting and fall back in love, starting today

If you and your partner are struggling to communicate and connect, you are not alone. The Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing is a helpful toolkit containing expert advice and activities to help both of you cultivate stronger attachment bonds and greater relationship satisfaction through Emotionally Focused Therapy.

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is built on practical, concise steps for recognizing and disrupting negative behavior patterns. This couples therapy workbook uses those principles to help you develop the tools to approach your relationship with curiosity, open-mindedness, and readiness to speak, listen, and heal.

The Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing includes:

• A three-part process—Organized to follow the process of EFT, this couples therapy workbook begins by identifying the distress in your relationship, then navigating the emotions that are causing it, and moving toward positive, long-term change.
• Explore your relationship—This couples therapy workbook offers insightful questions, revealing exercises, self-assessments, and even case studies from other couples who have had success with these techniques.
• Beyond EFT—You'll also learn about the different ways people form attachments, the power of intimacy and vulnerability, and ways to savor your best moments.

If you're looking to reconnect emotionally and overcome relationship obstacles, The Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing can help.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781647391485
Publisher:	Callisto Publishing
Publication date:	09/22/2020
Pages:	182
Sales rank:	76,619
Product dimensions:	8.00(w) x 10.00(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

LORI CLUFF SCHADE, PhD, LMFT is an author, professor, licensed marriage and family therapist, AAMFT approved supervisor, and EFT certified supervisor and clinician. She has been practicing therapy for more than three decades.

Table of Contents

Introduction viii

How To Use This Workbook x

Part 1 Understanding Relationship Distress

Chapter 1 Attachment Theory Basics 3

Chapter 2 Negative Relationship Cycles 25

Part 2 Navigating Emotions 43

Chapter 3 Regulating Emotions Together 45

Chapter 4 Core vs. Reactive Emotions 55

Chapter 5 Surging Sensitivity 65

Chapter 6 Emotional Bonding Conversations 83

Chapter 7 Healing Attachment Injuries 99

Part 3 Strengthening Connections 115

Chapter 8 Maintaining Intimacy 117

Chapter 9 Maintaining Bonds 135

Final Word 148

Glossary 151

Resources 154

References 155

Index 162

Editorial Reviews

This workbook beautifully explores the barriers so many couples face in their quest to find emotional safety and connection. The exercises are rich and powerful, yet simple and easy to navigate. Dr. Lori Schade has brilliantly combined the empirically supported principles of EFT with her gifted understanding of how to help couples find hope and healing. A remarkable resource for couples everywhere!” —Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT, CEFT

“Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing offers advice and exercises based on the best research in the field of marriage and family therapy. And the best part is, it’s laid out in a clear and simple step-by-step process so you can finally find the answers and connection you’ve been seeking. Dr. Schade’s warm and experienced voice is evident on every page as she walks you through these simple but insightful exercises. This practical guide is a roadmap to greater connection and trust in your relationship. You’ll find yourself saying, ‘That’s why we do that!’ or ‘This makes so much sense.’” —Dr. Kim Blackham, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

“Couples Therapy Workbook for Healing is truly an excellent resource for couples wanting to improve their relationship! Dr Schade’s workbook superbly presents the techniques of Emotionally Focused Therapy and is replete with insightful examples, purposeful learning exercises, and rich guidance. I wholeheartedly recommend it!” —Dr. Lance J. Dome, Marriage & Family Therapist and founder of Redwood Family Therapy

“This workbook beautifully explores the barriers so many couples face in their quest to find emotional safety and connection. The exercises are rich and powerful, yet simple and easy to navigate. Dr. Lori Schade has brilliantly combined the empirically supported principles of EFT with her gifted understanding of how to help couples find hope and healing. A remarkable resource for couples everywhere!” —Dr. Debi Gilmore, LMFT, CEFT

“This workbook is clear, readable, and incredibly useful! It lays out the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy in simple, accurate, practical ways. Many couples will find this book incredibly useful in creating strong, loving, safe relationships!” —Scott R. Woolley, Ph.D.

“As a marriage and family therapist, this workbook helps both my clients and I by using the same concepts I teach and giving the guiding influence and language to really get somewhere, even in-between sessions. Whether you’re with a therapist or not, I highly recommend this book to help guide you through your distressing relationships.” —Sandi Williams, MS, MA, LMFT

“I love books like this that provide couples with practical, hands-on experience to make their marriage more awesome! This workbook will transform a couple's relationship by helping them understand the power of attachment and teaching positive step-by-step communication skills. Individual and couple exercises, detailed explanations, and real-life examples teach couples how to stop painful negative behaviors and create a trusting, supportive, and connected relationship. This is a gift to any couple to help them overcome difficulties or start their marriage out on the right foot!” —Laura M. Brotherson, LMFT, CST, Author of Knowing HER Intimately: 12 Keys for Creating a Sextraordinary Marriage

“Dr. Schade has created a straightforward and simple guide to help couples identify how they can reliably reconnect to each other when they aren't getting along. Not only have I been counseling couples for over 20 years, I've also been married for just as long and know how important it is to have clear guidance when trying to make sense of emotions and relationships. I'm confident that couples who spend time working through these exercises will feel relieved as they map out their relationship and discover better ways to connect with each other.” —Geoff Steurer, MS, LMFT

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