Defining Moments: Coping With the Loss of a Child
246Defining Moments: Coping With the Loss of a Child
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Overview
The death of a child is devastating, whether it's a young mother with a stillborn baby or an elderly father mourning the loss of a middle-aged son from cancer. For parents who have suffered the loss of a child, the path to recovery is often scattered with deep emotional struggle. If you look at the world's views on grief, it can be disheartening:
- 19% of the world's population has experienced the loss of a child. That leaves millions of families searching for hope in the grief process.
- The divorce rate of couples who experience the loss of a child is 80% to 90%.
- There is a rise in drug or alcohol use among parents or siblings as they struggle to cope
- Suicide from surviving parents or siblings is on the rise.
Lois Duncan
Mike Reynolds
Gloria Horsley
Dick & Sandy Gallagher
Dean Eller
Dianne Rogers
Martha Tessmer
Doug Griffin
Violeta Astilean
Cookie Bakke
Shari Savage
Jill Hammond Jackson
Jennifer Davis
Charisse Jimenez
Alicia Bertolero
Danielle Lawhead
Dan Cope
Juanita Arroyo
Megan Shank
Celine Ford
Patrick Murphy
Janet Burroway
Steve Roberts
Debbi Rath
Cecilia DiNunno
Mary Johnson
Clara Hinton
Michelene Fitzgerald
Eddie Rivera
Karen Tesi
Dale West
Cindy Brown
Irene Freitas
Joanie Cook
Lo Anne Mayer
Lisa A Bright
Brad & Jan Lopez
Elly Sutherland
Cora Merkley
Gretchan Wheeler
Renee Vigil
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9780578565835 |
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Publisher: | Red House LLC |
Publication date: | 10/08/2019 |
Series: | Defining Moments , #1 |
Pages: | 246 |
Product dimensions: | 6.00(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.56(d) |
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Excerpt from the Forward
It’s been estimated that over fourteen million children every year die under the age of five. Those staggering numbers leave behind many people who are hurting, including parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and close friends. Research has shown us that after the death of a child, families struggle with a high risk of divorce, drugs, alcohol and even suicide to lessen the burden of the seemingly endless despair of this type of tragedy.
So what is the solution? There isn’t just one. For myself, I almost died at the same time my son did. It created a spiritual shift, a desire to do better, to be better. I decided to live my life with purpose and not just go through the business of life. That was the gift my son gave me. I found ways to honor him in the way that I chose to live the rest of my life. Instead of choosing the path of downward spiral, I made a conscious choice to walk through the pain. I learned that there were several stages I had to go through in order to heal my heartache and eventually learned to find joy again without feeling guilty. I learned that the length of time I mourned his death, had nothing to do with the depth of love I feel for my son.
The thing that helped me the most was to talk with other parents who were going through the same pain. When I started hearing their stories, I remember thinking that their story was worse then mine. If you ask them, they would say that someone else’s story was worse than theirs. A loss is a loss and affects everyone differently. The process of healing is different for everyone. But there was a comfort in seeing other people survive it and hear how they walked through that dark journey and survived it intact. The last thing I wanted was someone else telling me what I was supposed to feel, especially someone who never lost a child. I realized that I had joined a club that no one wanted to join and I would be a lifetime member. I hope that you find comfort and solace and healing in these pages. I want to thank all of the courageous parents who shared their emotional, painful, searing stories in order to have the purest intention of helping you through your own journey. May you be blessed as you continue living your own life. Just know that if you look for the reason why your child died, you will rarely, if ever, find an answer that satisfies you. Asking 'why’ always holds us back. Instead, if you look hard enough, you will find the purpose, not only in your child’s life, but in your own. There is a lesson that will help you grow. Instead, start by asking 'what can I learn from this experience?’ Where do I go from here? How can I find a place that allows me to feel joy for my child that died, the same way I feel happiness and joy when I see my other children?
May God bless you on your journey and bring peace to your broken heart.
Melanie Warner
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments 9
Introduction 15
Chapter 1 Creating a Cause 21
Believe What Your Heart Says Lois Duncan 21
A Message to Violent Criminals Mike Reynolds 25
My Life's Detour Gloria Horsley 29
The Gigantic Mattress Dick Sandy Gallagher 35
Miracle in Disguise Dean Eller 38
Chapter 2 Power of Forgiveness 47
A Journey to Forgiveness Dianne Rogers 47
To Forgive, Not Forget Martha Tessmer 56
Molly Day Doug Griffin 60
Two Angels, One Life Melanie Warner 67
Just One Life Violeta Astilean 74
Chapter 3 Angel Babies 81
Seeds of Hope Cookie Bakke 81
Incompatible With Life Shari Savage 87
The Grief Letter Jill Hammond Jackson 91
Three Days, Jennifer Davis 94
I'll Hold You in Heaven Charisse Jimenez 100
The Grateful Eight Alicia Bertolero 105
Chapter 4 Living With Hope 111
A Happy Seed Danielle Lawhead 111
The Sweetest Thing Dan Cope 115
Terminal Hope Juanita Arroyo 119
A New Angel Megan Shank 124
The Smile That Warms Your Heart Celine Ford 127
A Life's Journey Patrick Murphy 132
Chapter 5 Sudden Shock 137
Tolerating Shrapnel Janet Burroway 137
My Only Child Steve Roberts 145
The Power of Choices Debbi Rath 150
The Next Generation Cecilia DiNunno 156
When Can I Go Home? Mary Johnson 159
The Michael Tree Clara Hinton 162
Chapter 6 Faith and Prayer 167
The Brave One Michelene Fitzgerald 167
Lost and Found Eddie Rivera 171
Just For Today Karen Tesi 177
On a Mission Dale West 181
My Friends Need Jesus Cindy Brown 184
Chapter 7 Gifts From Beyond 191
The Unexpected Gift Irene Freitas 191
The Gratitude Letter Joanie Cook 197
Celestial Conversations Lo Anne Mayer 201
New Life For Others Lisa A. Bright 205
Chapter 8 Multiple Losses 211
Walking Through the Fire Brad Jan Lopez 211
When Four Becomes One Elly Sutherland 217
Making a Family God's Way Cora Merkley 219
Unexpected Journey Gretchan Wheeler 231
Faith Through Fog Renee Vigil 236
Meet The Author 243
Share Your Story 245