Diary of a Stage Mother's Daughter

by Melissa Francis Narrated by Cris Dukehart

Overview

When Melissa Francis was eight years old, she won the role of lifetime: playing Cassandra Cooper Ingalls, the little girl who was adopted with her brother (played by young Jason Bateman) by the Ingalls family on the world's most famous prime-time soap opera, Little House on the Prairie. Despite her age, she was already a veteran actress, living a charmed life, moving from one Hollywood set to the next. But behind the scenes, her success was fueled by the pride, pressure, and sometimes grinding cruelty of her stage mother.

While Melissa thrived under pressure, her older sister - who had tried her hand at acting and shrank from the limelight - was often ignored by their mother in a shadow of neglect and disappointment. Tiffany could do nothing to please her mother, but it wasn't until after Melissa had graduated from Harvard University with a degree in economics, found love, and married that Tiffany's personal problems culminated in a life-and-death crisis. When Melissa realized the role her mother continued to play in her sister's downward spiral, she resolved to end the manic, abusive cycle once and for all.

Diary of a Stage Mother's Daughter is a fascinating account of life as a child star in the 1980s, and also a disquieting tale of a family under the care of a highly neurotic, dangerously competitive “tiger mother.” But perhaps most importantly, now that Melissa has two sons of her own, it's a meditation on motherhood. She asks the questions so many of us ask ourselves: how hard should you push a child to succeed, and at what point does your help turn into harm?

Editorial Reviews

Publishers Weekly

A recounting of her mother’s abusive behavior sets the stage for Melissa Francis’s compelling memoir. Francis, now a broadcast news journalist, once played Cassandra Cooper Ingalls on the television show Little House on the Prairie. By the time she landed the plum role she was already a television pro. Her older Tiffany disliked performing, which antagonized their neurotic mother. She lavished attention on Francis and constantly belittled and harangued her sister, and their mother’s mercurial temperament created continuous family tension. “When we were at home, my sister and I lived in a state of constant wariness, always reading Mom’s mood and bracing for impact when that mood turned ominous.” As Francis departed for Harvard, her older sister’s life was a shambles. Though once very close, their intimacy had dissipated, a fact Francis deeply regrets. The author’s personal and professional life flourished; her sister’s spiraled downward in a cloud of loneliness, depression, and drugs resulting in a family tragedy and her mother’s ultimate act of betrayal: “It had been more than a year since I had given her the choice of coming back to help Tiffany or losing us forever, and she has chosen to throw all of us away.” A thoughtful trek across a troubled family landscape resulting in a bittersweet yet hopeful final act. (Nov.)

Kirkus Reviews

Chilling memoir by a Fox Business Network anchor and child star chronicles the misery of growing up with a cruel, controlling and abusive stage mother. Francis' narrative grabs readers immediately. She became a TV actress at age 8, when she captured the role of Cassandra Cooper Ingalls on the prime-time soap opera Little House on the Prairie. She chafed but thrived under her mother's relentless pressure to succeed: "My mom had a power over me, over all of us, for a long time. I was hostage to her moods, her violence, her praise, her favor, all doled out in random doses and with confusing inconsistency, which had been designed to control me, training me to crave her attention like a starving dog." By contrast, their mother neglected or harangued Francis' older sister, who disliked being in the spotlight. By the time Francis left home to study economics at Harvard, her sister's life was crumbling, and the intense closeness they once shared had evaporated. As the author's romantic life and TV news career began to gel, her sister remained mired in a lonely, directionless existence. This destructive pattern ultimately resulted in a family tragedy; Francis still feels guilty about not doing more for her sister. But now that she is the mother of two children, she understands that each child is unique and requires his or her own style of nurturance. "The one size fits all, hard line approach to pushing children as hard as you can and demanding the very best doesn't fit them both," she writes, "as it didn't fit both Tiffany and me." One of those intimate, heartbreaking, doubled-edged stories that is hard to read, impossible to put down.

Product Details

BN ID:	2940169932546
Publisher:	Brilliance Audio
Publication date:	11/06/2012
Edition description:	Unabridged

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