Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between: A Clinician's Guide
512Doing Imago Relationship Therapy in the Space-Between: A Clinician's Guide
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Overview
Developed by Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt in the 1980s, Imago Relationship Therapy helps couples—and everyone in significant relationships—shift from conflict to connection by transforming the quality of their interactions.
Now, for the first time, the essential principles and practices of Imago, as illustrated in the New York Times bestseller Getting the Love You Want, are presented for the benefit of both novice and seasoned clinicians.
Using the Imago processes, couples create a Conscious Partnership in which they feel safe, fully alive, and joyful, learning to be mutually empathic for each other’s childhood challenges and present to each other without judgement. Hendrix and Hunt help couples learn and practice Imago Dialogue, moving from blame and reactivity to mutual acceptance, affirmation, and empathy, thus deepening their connection.
Joining theory and practice with elegance, and filled with examples, exercises, and dialogues, this is a book no couples therapist can afford to be without.
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9780393713817 |
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Publisher: | Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc. |
Publication date: | 04/20/2021 |
Pages: | 512 |
Sales rank: | 269,547 |
Product dimensions: | 6.30(w) x 9.30(h) x 1.50(d) |
About the Author
Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD, is an internationally respected couple’s therapist, educator, speaker, and New York Times best-selling author. She lives in New York City.
Table of Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Preface: A Brief Intellectual Autobiography xi
Introduction 1
Part I Imago Metatheory
Introduction to Metatheory
1 The Space-Within 17
2 The Space-Between 36
Part II Imago Clinical Theory
Introduction to Clinical Theory
3 Our Connecting Brain 67
4 The Human Agenda: Restoring Connecting 81
5 The Human Problem: Ruptured Connecting 100
6 The Imago: The Search for Original Connecting 124
7 Conscious Partnership: Sustaining Connecting 150
8 Developmental Challenges of Connecting 174
Part III Imago Clinical Processes
Three Couples Starting Imago Relationship Therapy
9 Imago Dialogue: The Process of Connecting 190
10 The Imago Therapist: Facilitator of Connecting 226
11 The Imago Therapist: The Mechanics and Artistry of Connecting 246
Part IV Imago Clinical Practices
Six Steps to a Conscious Partnership
12 Revisioning 267
13 Recommitting 284
14 Reimaging 304
15 Removing Negativity 324
16 Restructuring Frustrations 339
17 Re-Romanticizing 363
Conclusion: From the Clinic to the Culture 385
Appendices
1 Dialogue: Appreciation 392
2 Sample Script: Guided Visualization 394
3 Worksheet: My Relationship Vision 396
4 Dialogue: Our Relationship Vision and Our Relationship Potential 398
5 Worksheet: Our Relationship Vision 400
6 Worksheet: Our Relationship Potential 401
7 Worksheet: Implementing Our Relationship Vision 402
8 Worksheet: Shared Relationship Vision Scale 404
9 Worksheet: Deepening Your Commitment by Identifying Exits 405
10 Dialogue: Sharing an Exit 406
11 Dialogue: The Commitment 408
12 Worksheet: Imago Profile 410
13 Worksheet: My Childhood Challenge 412
14 Worksheet: My Relational Need 413
15 Worksheet: Minimizers and Maximizers 414
16 Dialogue: Childhood Challenge, Relational Need, and Defense 415
17 Worksheet: Childhood Challenge, Relational Need, and Defense (Summary) 418
18 Dialogue: The Parent-Child Dialogue 419
19 Worksheet: Summary of Partner's Childhood Challenge and Needs 422
20 Dialogue: The Zero Negativity Pledge 423
21 Contract: The Zero Negativity Pledge 425
22 Calendar: 30-Day Zero Negativity Challenge 426
23 Worksheet: The Space-Between 427
24 Worksheet: My Frustrations List 428
25 Worksheet: My Partner's Frustrations List 429
26 Worksheet: The Core Scene 430
27 Flow Chart: The Behavior Change Request 431
28 Dialogue: The Behavior Change Request 433
29 Worksheet: Opportunities for Change in Our Space-Between 437
30 Worksheet: Caring Behaviors 438
31 Dialogue: Caring Behaviors 439
32 Worksheet: Positive Flooding 441
Figures
4.1 Expressions of the Four Human Functions 98
5.1 Messages of Repressive Socialization 105
5.2 The Sequence and Consequence of Ruptured Connecting 121
7.1 Journey to a Conscious Partnership 151
A Six Steps to a Conscious Partnership 263
14.1 From Symbiosis to Differentiation 310
16.1 Cycle of Frustrations 341
Tables
1.1 Individual Versus Relational Paradigm 35
4.1 Imago's Psychosocial Journey of Childhood Development 92
5.1 Childhood Challenges and Defensive Character Adaptations 115
8.1 Characteristics of the Connecting-Challenged Couple 176
8.2 Characteristics of the Exploration-Challenged Couples 179
8.3 Characteristics of the Identity-Challenged Couple 181
8.4 Characteristics of the Competence-Challenged Couple 183
8.5 Manifesting of Defensive Adaptations in Adulthood 185
9.1 The Reactive Monologue versus the Imago Dialogue 191
A Safety in the Space-Between 265
12.1 Mirroring Dream Relationship Statements (Overview) 274
12.2 Mark and Diana: Our Relationship Vision 280
13.1 Sharing an Exit in Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 296
13.2 Commitment Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 298
14.1 Differentiation Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 313
14.2 Childhood Challenge and Need Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 316
15.1 Zero Negativity Pledge Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 329
15.2 Dialoguing Around a Put-Down (Sentence Stems) 334
15.3 The Space-Between Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 336
16.1 Restructuring Frustration (Sentence Stems) 350
16.2 The Core Scene (Sentence Stems) 354
16.3 The Core Scene Rewrite (Sentence Stems) 354
16.4 Behavior Change Request Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 355
16.5 Gifts of Change Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 361
17.1 Caring Behaviors Dialogue (Sentence Stems) 371
References 443
Resources 453
Notes 457
Index 463