Remember back to your wedding day. I’m not talking
about just the ceremony and reception. I want you to
remember how you felt. Think back to looking into the eyes
of your intended spouse and how happy you were. Your
marriage was going to last forever. You were sure of that
much.
Because this man or woman made you feel so special.
Maybe your new husband was the most romantic guy you
had ever met. Maybe your new wife was one of the most
incredible people you had ever met. Both of you knew that
this was a marriage that would work. Your life would always
be as magical as it was in the very beginning.
You spent the first few months of your life settling in as
a married couple. Perhaps you couldn’t keep your hands off
of each other and made those around you roll their eyes as
they watched your PDA with envy. But you didn’t care – you
were in love!
And then, reality sets in. You start to notice little
things about your true love that drive you crazy. You think
you can deal with it, and maybe you can for awhile. But
then, you start to pull away just a little bit. You still love
him or her, but it’s just not the same.
You start to take each other for granted. After all,
you’re married – that’s part of married life, isn’t it? Then
you wake up one morning and look over at your love. You
wonder what happened to that fire – that amazing desire
that couldn’t be controlled. Why don’t you feel like you did
on your honeymoon?
Romance dies, that's a fact, right? When you find the
love of your life, you'll both settle into a daily routine of
financial, household, and child-rearing responsibilities,
forgetting you are a couple, right? Romance will only last
through the initial crush of the
relationship. After that you
and your partner will start taking each other for granted,
right?
It does not have to be this way. There are many
relationships where romance is alive and well. Open up your
local paper and look for the anniversary announcements. It
can actually be very motivating to see those couples who
are celebrating their 25
, 30
, even 50
wedding
th
th
th
anniversaries.
In case you think this is a trivial subject, please know
romance matters to the health and well being of your
relationship. Being romantic is nothing more or less than
appreciating and celebrating your partner.
This means if romance dies, one or both people in the
relationship will begin to feel unappreciated. For many, this
can be the beginning of the end of the relationship, or
perhaps the beginning of an affair.
Is it just a part of life? Do you let that fire die into just
a smoldering pile of ashes? You don’t have to! In fact,
there is no reason at all why you can’t get back what you
had when you were newlyweds. It just takes a little effort.
There are millions of married couples out there who
know what it takes to stay in love and keep their marriage
fresh and new. Want to know their secrets? No problem!
