Table of Contents
Foreword xi
Introduction xvii
Chapter 1 F the Shoulds. 1
Chapter 2 Do the Wants. 17
Chapter 3 Shoulds Are at the Root of Our Doubts and Fears. 33
Chapter 4 Seeing and Healing the Resentment, Disappointment, Guilt, and Shame that Shoulds Breed. 53
Chapter 5 Stop Beating Yourself Up for What Already Happened-The Should Haves. 75
Chapter 6 Trust Yourself. 97
Chapter 7 What Will This Mean about Me?-The Fear of Being Judged. 115
Chapter 8 Quit Questioning Your Enough-Ness. 131
Chapter 9 But I Really Don't Want To … 145
Chapter 10 I Want To-But I Don't Have Time (and Other Excuses). 157
Chapter 11 What Are You Really Saying? 173
Chapter 12 What Is Motivating Your Choices? Being In-and Staying In-Integrity. 185
Chapter 13 Be a Yes to You. (Saying No and Creating Boundaries.) 195
Chapter 14 Choose It or Change It. 215
Chapter 15 I Am Allowed! Own Your Choices, Own Your Life, Own Who You Are! 231
Chapter 16 I Should. I Want To. I Will. I Am! 249
Conclusion: This Is the End-But It Never Ends. 265
Acknowledgments 269
About the Author 271