From Triggered to Tranquil: How Self-Compassion and Mindful Presence Can Transform Relationship Conflicts and Heal Childhood Wounds

by Susan Campbell

Overview

A Therapy-Tested, Real-World Approach to Defusing Anxiety and Anger Reactions

At home, at work, or even out shopping, we’ve all experienced a moment when we’ve gone from feeling just fine to feeling out of control. Something inside us shifts. We instantly feel hurt, angry, shut down, or frozen. In these moments, we’ve been triggered, according to therapist and bestselling author Susan Campbell. In From Triggered to Tranquil, she offers a no-blame approach to conflicts and misunderstandings, empowering us to explore triggers and trauma responses and use these as portals to growth and self-compassion. This accessible, timely, and useful book includes:

• five steps to “trigger mastery” that can be applied to any interpersonal relationship or encounter
• specific techniques for relationships with spouses, partners, children, bosses, coworkers, and friends, as well as a chapter for group facilitators
• ways to address triggers related to politics, racism, climate change, and other hot-button issues

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781608687404
Publisher:	New World Library
Publication date:	08/31/2021
Pages:	248
Sales rank:	343,128
Product dimensions:	5.40(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Susan Campbell, PhD, is the bestselling author of eleven books on relationships and conflict resolution, including Getting Real and Saying What’s Real. She leads seminars internationally and works with private clients through her relationship coaching practice. She lives in Northern California.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Triggers, Trauma, and Trigger Work

The Path to Self-Healing 1

Part 1 Practices for Transforming Reactivity

Chapter 1 Getting from Here to There

The Five Steps of Trigger Work 15

Chapter 2 Admitting and Accepting Your Insecurities

Getting Beyond Shame and Blame 23

Chapter 3 Learning Your Unique Trigger Signature

Catching the Early Warning Signs 53

Chapter 4 Pausing to Regulate Yourself

Restoring an inner Sense of Safety 69

Chapter 5 Being with Sensations and Emotions

Becoming a Spacious, Loving Presence 85

Chapter 6 Repairing and Clearing the Air

Restoring Connection with Others 107

Part 2 Applying the Practices in Relationships

Chapter 7 I'm Triggered with My Intimate Partner 127

Chapter 8 I'm Triggered with My Kids 151

Chapter 9 I'm Triggered with My Friend 167

Chapter 10 I'm Triggered in a Group or Meeting 177

Chapter 11 I'm Leading a Group, and Someone Gets Triggered 191

Chapter 12 I'm Triggered by the World Situation 215

Conclusion 233

About the Author 237