Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve

by Matthew Hussey, Matthew Hussey (Read by)

Overview

Love is hard. But it doesn't have to be.

Leading relationship expert and rising media personality Matthew Hussey provides what every woman needs to know to find lasting love. Offering invaluable insight into the male psyche, he will change the way you approach men and dating and give you the tools you need to find the man you deserve. Hussey answers every single woman's three most burning questions:

Where do I go to meet good men? Why didn't he call? How do I get him to commit?

In Get the Guy, you will learn specific strategies for getting out there and meeting the best single guys. You will also learn why the guy you like has gone cold and the secrets to reigniting a spark with him. And you'll discover why so many guys seem to be afraid of long-term commitment and the three simple steps you can take that will change his mind.

Hussey also reveals why playing hard to get is a lose-lose game. A man doesn't want to endlessly chase a woman who is impossible to attain; he wants to win over a woman who is “high value." You'll find out how to create nonnegotiable standards for the way you want to be treated—and utilize a foolproof method for determining if a man can live up to them.

Leveraging what he learned from coaching thousands of men to find personal and professional success, Hussey will teach you how to meet more men, how to choose one who is worth your time, and finally, how to keep him enthralled forever. His insightfulness, irreverence, and warmth make the journey to love playful and fun, and his advice ensures success in both romance and life.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781483005324
Publisher:	Blackstone Audio, Inc.
Publication date:	07/08/2014
Product dimensions:	5.20(w) x 5.70(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Matthew Hussey is a relationship coach and the founder of the Get the Guy brand, which connects with thousands of women through live seminars and digital programs. He regularly offers relationship advice on the Today show and on the MTV series Plain Jane. He splits his time between London and Los Angeles.

Matthew Hussey is a relationship coach and the founder of the Get the Guy brand, which connects with thousands of women through live seminars and digital programs. He regularly offers relationship advice on the Today show and on the MTV series Plain Jane. He splits his time between London and Los Angeles.

Table of Contents

Introduction xi

Part 1 Find the Guy

1 Put the Odds in Your Favor 3

2 Being a Woman of High Value 19

3 Get a Social Life That Serves Your Love Life 30

4 The Mindset of the Chooser 46

5 The Traits of Desirable Women 58

6 The White Handkerchief Approach 67

7 From Great Conversation to First Date 84

8 The Joy of Text 94

9 A Word About Online Dating 99

Part 2 Get the Guy

10 The Ultimate Formula for Attraction 111

11 A Word About Insecurity 123

12 The Art of Creating the Great Date 130

13 The Sex Talk (Part I) 143

14 Stuck in the Friend Trap 153

15 Why Hasn't He Called? 168

16 Premature Obligation 180

Part 3 Keep the Guy

17 How to Be the Woman of His Dreams 187

18 Is He Mr. Right? 198

19 What Guys Really Think About the C-Word 207

20 The Sex Talk (Part II) 216

21 If You Want Him to Commit 226

22 Love for Life 240

Acknowledgments 245

What People are Saying About This

Eva Longoria

“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships makes him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.”

Editorial Reviews

Dating coach and TV personality Hussey (from NBC’s forthcoming reality show, Ready for Love) draws from his popular relationship webinar, GetTheGuy, for this compendium of bite-sized suggestions to help women find, get, and keep “the guy.” Sprinkled throughout are links to digital tie-ins (one directs readers to a video of Hussey demonstrating “the look” that’s meant to grab men’s attention), but most of the advice is mind-numbingly bland—”Love is hard;” “A man gets excited by the idea of having sex with a woman he desires;” and so on. Hussey does offer some practical tips—he insists that “the smallest changes in your daily rituals can yield huge results.” To that end, he explains how to “Get Good at WAR (working a room),” instigate physical contact without coming off as aggressive, make dates more spontaneous and fun, and text a guy to hang out (I’m here doing X, “You should come!”). Hussey occasionally goes into an absurd amount of detail—as when he lists nine reasons a guy hasn’t called, when a simple “He’s just not that into you” would suffice; most readers will likely deem their time better spent in some other scene. Agent: Richard Pine, Inkwell Management. (Apr.)

Publishers Weekly

“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships makes him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.” — Eva Longoria, actor/producer

“No crazy gimmicks, no pretending to be something you’re not. Just intelligent, empowering advice.” — Nikki Bayley, Glamour Magazine

“Matthew’s methods are working… Those who would previously never dream of going up to a man are hunting them down in double figures. Phone numbers are collected like the spoils of victory… [We become] an army of women from whose charms no man is safe.” — Emma Messenger, The Daily Mail

“A practical guide to understanding a man’s point of view about love and romance and how a woman can optimize self-esteem and integrity to find the love she deserves.” — Judith Orloff, MD, New York Times best-selling author of Emotional Freedom

“This works, period. No sugar-coating, no gimmicks, no cheesy lines: Matt’s advice is practical, sometimes blunt, and most importantly, effective. You WILL get the guy after reading this, end of story!” — Louise Roe, fashion journalist, TV host

“If you buy this book, you have an unfair advantage over men, and that’s just wrong.” — Bill Rancic, entrepreneur, devoted husband

“Whether you’re in a committed relationship, or you’ve had little luck with men, this book will unravel your man-mystery and put you in control, which seems fair to me, no matter what my husband says.” — Giuliana Rancic, TV host, devoted wife

From the Publisher

No crazy gimmicks, no pretending to be something you’re not. Just intelligent, empowering advice.

Nikki Bayley

This works, period. No sugar-coating, no gimmicks, no cheesy lines: Matt’s advice is practical, sometimes blunt, and most importantly, effective. You WILL get the guy after reading this, end of story!

Louise Roe

Whether you’re in a committed relationship, or you’ve had little luck with men, this book will unravel your man-mystery and put you in control, which seems fair to me, no matter what my husband says.

Giuliana Rancic

Matthew’s methods are working… Those who would previously never dream of going up to a man are hunting them down in double figures. Phone numbers are collected like the spoils of victory… [We become] an army of women from whose charms no man is safe.

Emma Messenger

A practical guide to understanding a man’s point of view about love and romance and how a woman can optimize self-esteem and integrity to find the love she deserves.

Judith Orloff

If you buy this book, you have an unfair advantage over men, and that’s just wrong.

Bill Rancic

“Matthew is a genius whose magic needs to be shared with the world. His incredible understanding of love and relationships makes him the absolute best love guru! This book is a necessary tool for anyone looking for love.”

Eva Longoria

Relationship expert Hussey here relies upon both personal experience as well as his experiences working as a life coach. His book provides women with advice on meeting men, gaining insight into the male mind, and cultivating a rich, satisfying lifestyle—with or without a partner. While the author offers tips that range from interesting conversation topics to effective texting, above all, he stresses the importance of self-worth. VERDICT Not your mother's dating guide. Excellent for singles.

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