Publishers Weekly
06/27/2022
“We are all—yes, ALL—capable of having good, if not totally mind-blowing, sex,” contends sex therapist Tallon-Hicks in her stimulating debut. Drawing on client stories, she provides worksheets, self-reflection questions, and solo and partner exercises meant to “inspire you and your partners to talk about, think about, and have authentically pleasurable sex without the shame, secrecy, self-doubt, and misinformation.” The author tells of a client whose anxiety during sex stemmed from feeling unable to communicate her desires, and Tallon-Hicks suggests that readers with these “pleasure pessimistic thoughts” change the beliefs that underpin them by contemplating, “What assumptions am I making that are influencing these thoughts?” Tallon-Hicks decries the unrealistic expectations set by movies and porn that sexual partners are supposed to intuit each other’s turn-ons, and instead urges readers to talk about their preferences with their partners and feel free to make physical adjustments that would make them more comfortable. Exercises impart tips for having “sex without boners,” asking for what one wants during sex, and setting boundaries. The advice is inclusive and mindful of different body types and abilities, as well as the myriad possible partner configurations and definitions of sex. Additionally, the author’s casual and humorous tone ensures the guidance entertains throughout. The result makes for a superb manual on having more fun in bed (or wherever). (Aug.)
From the Publisher
"In Hot and Unbothered, Yana Tallon-Hicks balances open-hearted curiosity with warm compassion, creating space for readers to understand themselves and their erotic world more fully." — Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., New York Times bestselling author of Come As You Are and Burnout
“Yana Tallon-Hicks weaves essential advice into a clever, comprehensive, and inclusive primer for curious humans. Hot and Unbothered is for anyone who desires to experience, navigate, embrace and enjoy a happy, healthy sex life.“ — Elle Chase, CSE, certified sex educator & coach and author of Curvy Girl Sex
“Yana Tallon-Hicks has given us a friendly and remarkably thorough pleasure-positive map to unlock the joys of sex, rich with wise advice about avoiding communication pitfalls and excellent guidelines for securing enthusiastic consent. Read it when you are starting out on any new adventure; keep it in your library as the definitive reference work.” — Dossie Easton, marriage and family therapist and co-author of The Ethical Slut
"Yana just wrote the guide to pleasurable, intimate, and hot sex we've all been waiting for. This book is relatable and practical, handing you the roadmap to a deeper, more fulfilling sexual connection with yourself and others." — Shaun Galanos, host of The Love Drive podcast
"[Yana's] advice is inclusive and mindful of different body types and abilities, as well as the myriad possible partner configurations and definitions of sex. Additionally, the author’s casual and humorous tone ensures the guidance entertains throughout. The result makes for a superb manual on having more fun in bed (or wherever)." — Publisher's Weekly
Elle Chase
Yana Tallon-Hicks weaves essential advice into a clever, comprehensive, and inclusive primer for curious humans. Hot and Unbothered is for anyone who desires to experience, navigate, embrace and enjoy a happy, healthy sex life.“
Emily Nagoski
"In Hot and Unbothered, Yana Tallon-Hicks balances open-hearted curiosity with warm compassion, creating space for readers to understand themselves and their erotic world more fully."
Dossie Easton
Yana Tallon-Hicks has given us a friendly and remarkably thorough pleasure-positive map to unlock the joys of sex, rich with wise advice about avoiding communication pitfalls and excellent guidelines for securing enthusiastic consent. Read it when you are starting out on any new adventure; keep it in your library as the definitive reference work.
Shaun Galanos
"Yana just wrote the guide to pleasurable, intimate, and hot sex we've all been waiting for. This book is relatable and practical, handing you the roadmap to a deeper, more fulfilling sexual connection with yourself and others."
