How to Find a Four-Leaf Clover: What Autism Can Teach Us About Difference, Connection, and Belonging

by Jodi Rodgers

Overview

A powerfully moving read from beloved Love on the Spectrum star and disability rights advocate Jodi Rodgers, sharing lessons from her work within the autistic community that can help create a more inclusive society for us all.

In How to Find a Four-Leaf Clover, Jodi Rodgers gives us inspiring, heartwarming stories from her years of experience as a teacher and counselor supporting autistic people. While acknowledging our differences, these stories invite us to expand our empathy and compassion for the neurodivergent people in our lives. Throughout, Rodgers explores the powerful impact of embracing neurodiversity and forming meaningful connections with those around us. Each chapter highlights a different story and an aspect of human behavior, including:
 

• How we perceive the world, and our own unique experience of thinking, sensing, and feeling
• How we communicate our perspective to others, understand one another, and express ourselves
• How we can better connect with one another

 
With dozens of moving stories, How to Find a Four-Leaf Clover will give readers a deeper understanding of and appreciation for the neurodiverse community around them. Above all, it will inspire a profound sense of belonging, revealing that we’re much more similar than we think.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780316472173
Publisher:	Little, Brown and Company
Publication date:	02/20/2024
Sold by:	Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format:	eBook
Sales rank:	769,405
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

Jodi Rodgers is a qualified counselor, sexologist, and special‑education teacher with thirty years of experience in the education, disability, and sexuality fields. During her career, she has worked with clients of all ages and their families. Her private practice, Birds and Bees, helps neurodivergent people learn about the complex areas of sexuality and relationships and how to create love and connection. She has become well known as the relationship counselor on the hit Netflix show Love on the Spectrum.

Editorial Reviews

11/06/2023

Rodgers, a relationship counselor on Netflix’s Love on the Spectrum, draws from 30 years’ worth of experience working with autistic individuals in her sensitive debut exploration of neurodivergence. Writing that “the skills of empathy are... tested by difference,” Rodgers sheds light on the behavior of people she’s encountered throughout her career, among them six-year-old Emily, who threw a fit when she discovered that her neighborhood grocery store layout had shifted (“rigid and repetitive thinking” makes it tough for people with autism to accept change), and Sebastien, an elementary schooler who struggled to participate in classroom activities that didn’t reference Spider-Man (an “incredible capacity to hyper-focus” on one topic “to the exclusion of everything else” is a classic autism trait). Elsewhere, Rodgers draws broader lessons about the nuances of human needs and behaviors—a discussion of how autistic people can struggle to understand reciprocity leads to her observation that “it’s about knowing each other’s needs... we can demonstrate reciprocity by giving to people, but they might support us by giving back in a completely different way.” Basing her conclusions on fine-grained observations of her clients, Rodgers illuminates the contours of the autistic brain and in the process makes a deeply felt case for the value of embracing others’ neurological particularities. It’s a persuasive testament to “the beauty in difference.” (Feb.)

Publishers Weekly

"An empathetic counselor with more than 30 years of experience, Jodi Rodgers enters the world of many individual autistic people. She will serve as your guide to their inner experiences. This book will provide greater acceptance and understanding."—Temple Grandin, author of Visual Thinking

“While reading Jodi’s stories, I was warmly and consistently reminded that different does not mean less than.”—Jory Fleming, author of How to Be Human

“We all know Jodi Rodgers from the fabulous TV show Love on the Spectrum. As a psychologist myself, I have been able to see on TV what an excellent clinician she is. It is no mystery why her autistic patients place their trust in her. They recognize that she is not just ‘assessing’ them; she is genuinely interested in them. In this marvelous book, Rodgers makes it clear that neurodivergent and neurotypical people all want the same things: love, security, and to be free of loneliness.”—Cathy Gildiner, author of Good Morning Monster

“We could all use a Jodi in our lives.”—New York Times

“Basing her conclusions on fine-grained observations of her clients, Rodgers illuminates the contours of the autistic brain and in the process makes a deeply felt case for the value of embracing others’ neurological particularities.”—Publishers Weekly

From the Publisher

01/01/2024

With more than two percent of the U.S. population diagnosed with autism, it behooves neurotypical people to have a better understanding of their neighbors, coworkers, and friends on the autism spectrum. Rodgers, drawing on over three decades of experience as a therapist and educator (and as a participant on the TV series Love on the Spectrum) suggests that readers develop new ways of perceiving individuals and forming deeper connections. Vignettes of her experiences with autistic clients and friends demonstrate the similarities and differences between neurotypical and autistic individuals. Astute readers will be able to extend the ideas to improve other relationships. Rodgers discusses various ways of sensing, thinking, feeling, and communicating, the role that personal connections play in individual mental health, and the ways many autistic people mask their condition and adopt various personae to fit in with mainstream society. She says that exhibiting patience and leaving space for autistic individuals to become their authentic selves can lead to fuller relationships. VERDICT Memorable, poignant, and heartwarming, Rodgers's stories provide welcome insight into the lives of autistic people.—Lydia Olszak

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