Table of Contents
Foreword Adele Faber xi
How It All Started Julie & Joanna xv
A Mote from the Authors xxi
Part I The Essential Toolbox 1
Chapter 1 Tools for Handling Emotions … What's All the Fuss about Feelings?-When kids don't feel right, they can't behave right 3
Chapter 2 Tools for Engaging Cooperation … Feelings Schmeelings, She Has to Brush Her Teeth-Getting kids to do what they have to do 43
Chapter 3 Tools for Resolving Conflict … Avoiding Combat on the Home Front-Replacing punishment with more peaceful, effective solutions 85
Chapter 4 Tools for Praise and Appreciation … Not All Odes Are Equal-Ways to praise that will help, not hinder 135
Chapter 5 Tools for Kids Who Are Differently Wired … Will This Work with My Kid?-Modifications for kids with autism and sensory issues 163
Chapter Five and a Quarter: The Basics … You Can't Talk Your Way Out of These-Conditions under which the tools won't work 203
Part II The Tools in Action 213
1 Food Fights-The Battle at the Kitchen Table 215
2 Morning Madness-Escaping the Intense Gravitational Pull of Your Home 231
3 Sibling Rivalry-Give the Baby Back! 241
4 Shopping with Children-Mayhem at the Market 257
5 Lies-Kids and the Creative Interpretation of Reality 263
6 Parents Have Feelings, Too 275
7 Tattling-Snitches and Whistle-Blowers 283
8 Cleanup-The Dirtiest Word 291
9 Doctor's Orders-Medicine, Shots, Blood Draws, and Other Horrors 301
10 Shy Kids-Fear of Friendly Folks 313
11 Little Runaways-Kids Who Take Off in the Parking Lot and Other Public Places 321
12 Hitting, Pinching, Poking, Punching, Pushing-I Barely Touched Him! 331
13 Sleep-The Holy Grail 339
14 When Parents Get Angryl 357
15 Troubleshooting-When the Tools Don't Work 369
The End? 385
Acknowledgments 387
Additional Resources 389
Notes 391
Reminder Index 395
Index 397