Table of Contents
Dear Men xi
Introduction 1
Self
#1 Don't Hide 11
#2 Do Walk with Mirrors 14
#3 Do Choose Responsibility over Freedom 18
#4 Do Live a Through-Me Life 21
#5 Don't Be a Double Douche 24
#6 Do Starve Your Ego 29
#7 Don't Fuck with People Just Because You Can 33
#8 Don't Whine 37
#9 Don't Peer over the (Metaphorical) Urinal 40
#10 Don't Be Nice, Be Kind 44
#11 Don't Just Wear the Compassion T-Shirt 47
#12 Do Seek Nectar 50
Health 53
#13 Do Sweat Daily 55
#14 Do Calm the Fuck Down 57
#15 Do Slingshot Yourself into the Present 60
#16 Do Get Out of Your Bubble 64
#17 Do Eat Something Green 66
#18 Do Laugh Hard 69
#19 Do Things That Make You Feel Alive 71
#20 Don't Take Yourself Too Seriously 73
#21 Do Dance (Especially If You Don't Know How) 75
#22 Do Go on Man Dates 76
#23 Do Do Things Alone 78
Love and Relationships 81
#24 Do Respond, Don't React 83
#25 Don't Put Your Shoulds on Others 87
#26 Do Say "I Was Wrong" 91
#27 Don't Be the "I Dunno" Guy 95
#28 Don't Pee in the Shower 98
#29 Don't Tear People Down 100
#30 Do Want to Do the Dishes 103
#31 Do Let Go of Your Partner's Sexual History 105
#32 Don't Place Her on a Pedestal 108
#33 Don't Stop Courting Her 110
#34 Don't Just Netflix and Chili 113
#35 Don't Perform in the Bedroom 115
#36 Do Love Hard 117
Career and Success 123
#37 Do Own Your Shit 125
#38 Do Separate Who You Are from What You Do 129
#39 Don't Punch Clocks 131
#40 Do Be Aware of Your Energy 134
#41 Do Make Your Bed 138
#42 Do Fail, Often 140
#43 Do Have a Firm Handshake 142
#44 Do Enter Rooms Like You Own Them 145
#45 Do Believe in Yourself 147
Communication 155
#46 Do Say No Often 157
#47 Do Try to Understand Before Trying to Be Understood 159
#48 Don't Walk Away During a Fight 162
#49 Do Express Your Fucking Feelings 165
#50 Do Put Your Phone Down 168
#51 Do Be Physically Affectionate 170
#52 Don't Drive Like a Dick 171
#53 Don't Debate Everything 174
#54 Don't Inhale Your Food 177
#55 Don't Text Like You're Seventeen 179
#56 Do Tip Well 181
Everything Else 183
#57 Do Keep Your Bathroom Clean 185
#58 Don't Buy Things, Get Gifts 187
#59 Don't Overuse Hair Product 189
#60 Don't Wear Skinny Jeans 191
#61 Don't Speak to Children Like They're Children 192
#62 Don't Go for the Hottest Girl in the Room 194
#63 Don't Be Afraid of Women 195
#64 Don't Be Creepy 197
#65 Don't Chase, Do Attract 198
#66 Do Hold Up 204
Conclusion 207
Acknowledgments 211
My Man Sheet 213
Recommended Reading 217
Recommended Listening 219