Table of Contents
Acknowledgments xv
Synopsis xxi
Welcome 1
Challenge and Opportunity 6
Language Can Liberate 10
Losing to Loosen: Personal Identity 13
IntraConnected 20
Certainty in Identity as Entity 24
Wisdom Traditions 31
An Integrative Self 52
An Ancient Invitation for Modern Times 59
Emergence 65
A Space of Being 65
Formless Into Form, Energy Into Mind and Matter 71
The Force and Matter of Life 75
An Identity Lens: Inner and Outer and a Narrowing of Belonging 77
Conception and Birth 86
A Body Form 87
Our Embodied Brain 89
Simply Being and an Implicit Memory of Wholeness 91
From Being to Doing 95
Refocusing Our Identity Lens from Linear to Systems 97
Infancy 100
Networks, Motivation, and Emotion 101
Doing and the Construction of Perception 107
Inner and Outer: Self and Other 109
Better Together: Relationships, Emotion, Meaning 112
Developing a Core Self 116
Toddlerhood 120
A World of Words 120
Narrative and the Stories We Learn of Self 124
Play, Presence, and Possibility 131
Many States, Many Identities 143
Security, Epistemic Trust, and Our Relational Self 147
School Years 152
The Tree of Knowledge, the Knowledge of Trees 152
Comparison and Competition, Connection and Collaboration 157
Inner and Outer: Private and Public 160
The Stories of Our Lives, the Lives of Our Stories 162
Adolescence 171
The ESSENCE of Adolescence 172
Romance, Relationships, Identity 176
Timeless Wisdom, Timely Action 179
Preparation for Separation and Change 183
Leaving Home 186
A Mindsight Lens 187
From Grief to Growth 191
Lessons from the Wheel of Awareness 195
Science, Spirituality, Subjectivity 198
Travels 205
Selfing as Noun and as Verb 205
Diversity and Possibility 209
Letting Go of Certainty 214
Transcending the Solo-Self with Awe 217
Longing for Certainty in an Uncertain World 220
Let Go and Let G.O.D.: Generator of Diversity 222
Choice 226
Self 228
Identity 229
Belonging 231
Integration 233
Systems 234
Love and Linking 238
Intraconnection 240
Interconnection 242
Our Noosphere 243
Adult Development and the Resistance to Change 245
Hope 253
Appendix 1 Wheel of Awareness Practice 270
Appendix 2 Integrative Movement Series 274
References, Resources, and Readings 289
Index 295