Table of Contents
Introduction 1
Section I Reviving Free Play
Rule 1 Don't Steal Play 9
Rule 2 It's OK if it's Not Hurting People or Property 23
Rule 3 Kids Need Conflict 36
Section II Wild Emotions
Rule 4 All Feelings are OK. All Behavior isn't 61
Rule 5 Let Kids Hit and Kick 72
Rule 6 "I Hate You!" is Nothing Personal 83
Rule 7 Take Dictation from Your Tot 94
Rule 8 Go Ahead: Let Him Hate the Baby! 105
Section III Sharing people and Toys
Rule 9 It's OK Not to Share 115
Rule 10 Let Her Hog That Toy All Day! 131
Rule 11 We're Not All Friends Here 140
Rule 12 You Can't Play = A-OK 155
Rule 13 Hang Up a "No Girls" Sign 173
Rule 14 Take Rejection in Stride 185
Section IV Running Room: Kids, Power and Action
Rule 15 Ban Chairs-Not Tag 195
Rule 16 Give Kids Power 205
Rule 17 Only Punch Friends 218
Rule 18 Bombs, Guns and Bad Guys Allowed 234
Rule 19 Boys Can Wear Tutus 254
Section V Creativity, Persistence and Empty Praise
Rule 20 Pictures Don't Have to Be Pretty 269
Rule 21 Paint off the Paper 278
Rule 22 Stop Saying "Good Job!" 286
Section VI Bad words, Polite Words and Lies
Rule 23 Kids Don't Have to Say "Sorry" 297
Rule 24 Let Your Kid Swear 306
Rule 25 Love Your Kid's Lies 316
Section VII Sensitive Subjects
Rule 26 Sex Ed Starts in Preschool 329
Rule 27 Be Buddies with Dead Birds 342
Section III Renegade Rules in the Real World
Rule 28 Make Some Enemies at the Playground 357
Rule 29 Goof Up 368
Appendix 371
Acknowledgments 377