Andrew R. Gottlieb
NEIL KAMINSKY HAS DONE IT AGAIN! Combining vast clinical experience, good common sense, and unexpected wry humor, he shows us in this, the third in his trilogy of books on gay male relationships, how to negotiate the ambivalence, the confusion, and the contradictions inherent in human connection. Simply written, free of technical jargon, Kaminsky goes directly to the heart of those central dilemmas that confront couples in their quest to remain together or, in some cases, who choose to separate and move on. PARTICULARLY INSIGHTFUL are the sections on better managing anger and developing greater cultural sensitivity, both of which can either make or break a budding relationship or a long-term one. Suggested exercises, for either one partner or both, only serve to enhance the usefulness of this text, one that I would highly recommend to those gay men—in therapy or not—as well as to those of us therapists who struggle hard to help. (Andrew R. Gottlieb, PhD, author of Out of the Twilight: Fathers of Gay Men Speak and editor of Interventions with Families of Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender People: From the Inside Out)
Thomas J. Caldarola
Neil Kaminsky has humbly, wisely, and experientially tackled an important, often unexplored, area of gay men's relationships and intimacy. His writing is ACCESSIBLE, STIMULATING, AND PRACTICAL. When he explores complex issues like male communication, couple dynamics, passive aggressive behavior, interracial issues, he approaches the explanation of theory in a commonsense, CLEAR, COMPREHENSIVE, AND WITTY manner. As a therapist in private practice, I would refer to Kaminsky's guide myself for ideas, especially the great chapters on sex, anger, and The Seven Taboo Topics. I would be excited to refer my individual gay male clients and gay couples to this book for challenge, inspiration, and a clearer understanding of their situation and choices. (Thomas J. Caldarola, MA, MDiv, MFT, Psychotherapist in private practice)
Robert H. Hopcke
Kaminsky's common sense, comprehensive and good-humored advice for gay couples is invaluable. I'M GOING TO MAKE IT REQUIRED READING FOR EVERYONE I WORK WITH IN COUNSELING. (Robert H. Hopcke, MFT; Author of Jung, Jungians and Homosexuality)
Adelardo M. Ferrer
UTILIZES STRAIGHTFORWARD LANGUAGE AND CONCRETE EXAMPLES to make complex psychological issues more understandable to the general reader. . . . Uses a non-judgmental approach to common emotional issues while providing tools to understand ourselves better and try to improve our capacity to relate to others, whether in a gay, intimate relationship or even in platonic friendships. Mr. Kaminsky addresses difficult issues such as sexuality and cultural norms in a very open fashion that allows the reader to feel comfortable with societal taboos. He's also careful to define the limits of the book and refers the reader to more specialized treatment when needed. . . . EASY TO READ AND VERY INFORMATIVE. . . . A GOOD RESOURCE FOR ANY THERAPIST working with relationship issues in the Lesbian, Bisexual, Gay and Transsexual community. (Adelardo M. Ferrer, MD, General and child psychiatrist in private practice; child psychiatrist, ACCESS Team, San Mateo County Mental Health Services, San Mateo, CA)
