Table of Contents
Foreword xi
Introduction xv
Chapter 1 What's the Big Deal About Middle School? 1
Values and Integrity "It's easier to lie than deal with all the drama." 8
Chapter 2 Making Responsible, Healthy, and Ethical Decisions 11
Chapter 3 Fostering Honesty 24
Chapter 4 Encouraging Kindness and Empathy 35
Chapter 5 Embracing Difference in Self and Others 49
Social Skills "I feel judged and ignored." 65
Chapter 6 Managing Shifting Friendships 67
Chapter 7 Dealing with Bullying 79
Chapter 8 Coping with Gossip and Social Turmoil 91
Chapter 9 Growing Up Sexually Healthy 103
Chapter 10 Preparing for Love 120
Learning "Everyone is getting A's except for me." 129
Chapter 11 Encouraging Balance and Setting Reasonable Expectations 131
Chapter 12 Tackling Homework 141
Chapter 13 Intervening When School is a Struggle 151
Empowerment and Resilience "There are all sorts of people in the world, and we'll all find our place." 163
Chapter 14 Connecting with Boys and Helping them Connect with Others 165
Chapter 15 Raising Strong, Empowered Girls 179
Chapter 16 Taking Risks in a World of No's 193
Chapter 17 Managing Setbacks and Shoring Up Resilience 205
Chapter 18 Preparing Kids for a Changing World 219
Conclusion Moving Forward: "Make mistakes, model self-compassion, and grow alongside your child." 231
Parent Discussion Guide 237
Educator Discussion Guide 249
Resources 257
Acknowledgments 281
Index 283
About the Author 298