Table of Contents
Guidelines iii
List of Exercises xv
Preface to the Twenty-fifth Anniversary Edition xix
Kaddish de'Rabbanan: In Appreciation xxiii
Foreword Rabbi Jack Riemer xxvii
Introduction to the Second Edition xxxi
Introduction Rabbi William Cutter xxxv
Preface: My Time to Mourn; My Time to Dance 1
Timeline: The Major Phases of the Jewish Year of Mourning 7
Part I Tzimtzum Contraction
1 Avelut (Mourning): The Mourner's Path 10
2 Hesped (Eulogy) and Truthtelling: Mourning as a Process 20
3 Mekom Hanekhama: Finding a Place of Comfort 32
4 B'tzelim Elohim (In God's Image): Before Covering the Mirror 42
5 The Shekhinah (God's Presence) at the Bedside: Remembering the Illness and the Death 58
6 Aninut (from Death to Burial): Suspended between Two Worlds 72
7 Shiva (First Seven Days of Mourning): A Community Embrace 86
8 Sheloshim (The Thirty Days Following the Burial): Finding Your Footing in a Changed World 113
Part II Shevirat Kelim The Breaking of Vessels
9 Keriah (Tearing of Cloth After Hearing News of the Death) and Deep Feelings: Rending the Garment to Expose the Heart 120
10 Keriah and Kaddish (The Mourners' Prayer): Keeping the Conversation Going to Heal the Hurt 146
11 Keriah and Prayer: Speaking Out from the Distress of Your Soul 164
Part III Tikkun Healing
12 Immortality in Olam Hazeh: Living On in the World of the Living 186
13 Olam Haneshamot: Immortality in the Next World: A Walk through the World of Souls 202
14 Matzevah (Monument or Tombstone): The Unveiling: Raising the Curtain on the Rest of Your Life 216
15 Yizkor (Memorial Prayer), Yahrzeit (Anniversary of the Death), and the Cycle of Seasons 226
16 Shalom: Hello, Goodbye, and Peace 254
17 Those Who Say "Amen": How to Comfort the Bereaved 260
Epilogue: The New Mourner's Path-Navigating the Wilderness of Grief 273
Source Acknowledgments 301
Glossary 304
Books to Consult for Further Help 309