Nineteen: 19 Insights Learned from a 19-year-old with Cancer

by Adam J.T. Robarts, Karen Malmqvist (Editor), Lou Aronica

Overview

Live a life filled with joy and try to consciously consider
how to bring joy to the lives of those around you as well.
– Haydn Robarts

Nineteen is a book of nineteen lessons learned from Haydn Robarts, whose short life profoundly changed all around him. Written by his father, it combines a personal memoir, universal lessons, insights from religion and science, and perspectives from Haydn and his parents. The result is a work that ultimately inspires an awareness, an awakening, and a mindset toward living this precious life with purpose and clarity. Haydn was a remarkable young man whose dignified response to his own suffering provides essential wisdom and hopeful possibilities for your own life.

The philosopher is not influenced by praise or blame. He knows the truth and is not afraid, regardless of what happens to him in this world.
—Tao Te Ching, LXVII

In December 2018, during a family vacation in Canada, Adam was asked what he would choose to be if he were not an architect. He replied without hesitation, “A hospice nurse.” Five years earlier, he had a profound experience accompanying his father through the final weeks of life before he died of cancer in Uganda. Adam could not have imagined then that nine months later he would begin to accompany his nineteen-year-old son, Haydn, through a battle with a rare brain cancer. Haydn graduated from this physical world in May 2020, one week before his twentieth birthday. Nineteen, Adam’s first book, shares the beautiful and poignant lessons learned on his family’s journey with Haydn.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781682452004
Publisher:	Regan Arts
Publication date:	05/17/2022
Pages:	224
Sales rank:	1,054,647
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 8.80(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Adam Robarts was born in London and raised in Uganda and Kenya before moving back to the UK to read architecture at Cambridge University. In 1993, he moved to China to teach architecture at Tsinghua University in Beijing. Two years later, Adam was awarded the state-level Friendship Award – the highest honor China gives to foreign experts. In 1997, Adam and his wife, Karyn, opened their architecture and design studio in Beijing and, in 2007, Adam was inducted as an honorary member of the Interior Design Magazine Hall of Fame, awarded to outstanding designers for their significant contribution to architecture and interior design. Adam and Karyn have four children who were born and raised in China. They currently live in Bali, Indonesia, with their youngest son.
In December 2018, during a family vacation in Canada, Adam was asked what he would choose to be if not an architect. He replied, without hesitation, “A hospice nurse.” Five years earlier, he’d had a profound experience accompanying his father through the final weeks of life before he died of cancer in Uganda. Adam could not have imagined then that nine months later he would begin to accompany his 19-year-old son Haydn through a similar battle.
Nineteen, is Adam’s first book. It is written in collaboration with Karen Malmqvist and Lou Aronica.





Karen Malmqvist is a recognized journalist, photographer and public speaker. She has written for leaders of nations as well as Fortune 500 companies around the world. She is the co-founder and Executive Director of live it up! and a high-altitude mountaineer.

LOU ARONICA collaborated with Sir Ken Robinson on the New York Times bestsellers The Element and Finding Your Element, and with Jim Kwik on the recent New York Times bestseller Limitless. Lou is also
the co-author of the nonfiction bestseller The Culture Code with Clotaire Rapaille, and The Greatest You with Trent Shelton. He is the author of national bestselling novels The Forever Year, Blue, The Journey
Home, and When You Went Away. He is the President and Publisher of the independent publishing house The Story Plant, and a past president of Novelists, Inc.

Table of Contents

Mapping the mountain

1 Haydn's Path 5

Preparation to climb

2 Acceptance "You get what you get, and you don't get upset." 25

3 Authenticity 'I am who lam, and it is good enough." 33

4 Positivity "Cause health!" 43

Base camp

5 Hope "Where there's life, there's hope." 53

6 Faith "Conscious knowledge expressed in action." 61

7 Prayer "One hour's reflection is preferable to seventy years of pious worship." 75

High camp

8 Nature "Think of yourself as a river." 85

9 Dreams "Maps from the mountain." 93

10 Fear "Danger is real, but fear is a choice." 105

Approaching the summit

11 Detachment "You are not your body!" 117

12 Calm "Be courageous. And don 'I do normous!" 129

13 Happiness "Don't cry because it's over; smile because it happened." 137

The summit

14 Selflessness "Take the "self out of 'self-help'!" 147

15 Mindfulness "To live our lives as if it really mattered …" 157

16 Trust "We have each been entrusted to a family, who will one day return that Trust." 169

Reflections on descent

17 Time "Never miss your moment!" 181

18 Accompaniment "Mutual aid and reciprocity." 191

19 Afterword 197

Notes 203

Acknowledgments 207

About the Authors 211

Editorial Reviews

"This deeply thoughtful tribute by a mourning father teaches us that with profound faith, the astonishing light of the soul will show us the way, even in the darkness of an inevitable and inconsolable loss."

PAYAM AKHAVAN

A book so heart-nourishing and mind-expanding that its words transcend the pages, flow into our hearts, and blossom with a renewed energy to live - truly and fully - with love, joy, and purpose. Haydn was wise beyond his years, and Nineteen will transform your life.”

JUSTIN BALDONI

Haydn’s example is pure inspiration."

RAINN WILSON