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Passed and Present is a one-of-a-kind guide for discovering creative and meaningful ways to keep the memory of loved ones alive.
Inspiring and imaginative, this bona fide "how-to” manual teaches us how to remember those we miss most, no matter how long they’ve been gone. Passed and Present is not about sadness and grieving. It is about happiness and remembering. It is possible to look forward, to live a rich and joyful life, while keeping the memory of loved ones alive. This much-needed, easy-to-use roadmap shares 85 imaginative ways to celebrate and honor family and friends we never want to forget.
Chapter topics include: Repurpose With Purpose: Ideas for transforming objects and heirlooms. Discover ways to reimagine photographs, jewelry, clothing, letters, recipes, and virtually any inherited item or memento. Use Technology: Strategies for your daily, digital life. Opportunities for using computers, scanners, printers, apps, mobile devices, and websites. Not Just Holidays: Tips for remembrance any time of year, day or night, whenever you feel that pull, be it a loved one’s birthday, an anniversary, or just a moment when a memory catches you by surprise. Monthly Guide: Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and other special times of year present unique challenges and opportunities. This chapter provides exciting ideas for making the most of them while keeping your loved one’s memory alive. Places to Go: Destinations around the world where reflecting and honoring loved ones is a communal activity. This concept is called Commemorative Travel.
Also included are suggestions for incorporating aspects of these foreign traditions into your practices at home. Being proactive about remembering loved ones has a powerful and unexpected benefit: it can make you happier. The more we incorporate memories into our year-round lives as opposed to sectioning them off to a particular time of year, the more we can embrace the people who have passed, and all that’s good and fulfilling in our present. With beautiful illustrations throughout by artist Jennifer Orkin Lewis,Passed and Present also includes an introduction by Hope Edelman, bestselling author of Motherless Daughters.
Inspiring and imaginative, this bona fide "how-to” manual teaches us how to remember those we miss most, no matter how long they’ve been gone. Passed and Present is not about sadness and grieving. It is about happiness and remembering. It is possible to look forward, to live a rich and joyful life, while keeping the memory of loved ones alive. This much-needed, easy-to-use roadmap shares 85 imaginative ways to celebrate and honor family and friends we never want to forget.
Chapter topics include: Repurpose With Purpose: Ideas for transforming objects and heirlooms. Discover ways to reimagine photographs, jewelry, clothing, letters, recipes, and virtually any inherited item or memento. Use Technology: Strategies for your daily, digital life. Opportunities for using computers, scanners, printers, apps, mobile devices, and websites. Not Just Holidays: Tips for remembrance any time of year, day or night, whenever you feel that pull, be it a loved one’s birthday, an anniversary, or just a moment when a memory catches you by surprise. Monthly Guide: Christmas, Thanksgiving, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and other special times of year present unique challenges and opportunities. This chapter provides exciting ideas for making the most of them while keeping your loved one’s memory alive. Places to Go: Destinations around the world where reflecting and honoring loved ones is a communal activity. This concept is called Commemorative Travel.
Also included are suggestions for incorporating aspects of these foreign traditions into your practices at home. Being proactive about remembering loved ones has a powerful and unexpected benefit: it can make you happier. The more we incorporate memories into our year-round lives as opposed to sectioning them off to a particular time of year, the more we can embrace the people who have passed, and all that’s good and fulfilling in our present. With beautiful illustrations throughout by artist Jennifer Orkin Lewis,Passed and Present also includes an introduction by Hope Edelman, bestselling author of Motherless Daughters.
Product Details
ISBN-13: | 9781580056137 |
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Publisher: | Basic Books |
Publication date: | 04/12/2016 |
Sold by: | Hachette Digital, Inc. |
Format: | eBook |
Pages: | 280 |
File size: | 19 MB |
Note: | This product may take a few minutes to download. |
About the Author
Allison Gilbert is the author of Always Too Soon. She has written for numerous newspapers and magazines, including the New York Times, and is a now a frequent contributor to the Huffington Post. She is the founder of Parentless Parents, a nationwide network of parents who have experienced the loss of their own mothers and fathers. Allison is also a public speaker and an Emmy award-winning television news producer. She graduated from Georgetown University and lives in New York with her husband and their two children.
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Passed and Present
Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive
By Allison Gilbert
Seal Press
Copyright © 2016 Allison GilbertAll rights reserved.
ISBN: 978-1-58005-613-7
In my experience, one of the most difficult parts of coping with the loss of a loved one is how to manage the years that follow. Most of us receive the immediate help we need friends attend funerals, relatives pour over photographs and reminisce, colleagues send emails expressing sympathy. But
consider the vacuum that happens later. I’ve never met anyone who’s stopped completely thinking about the person he or she loved, our memories flood in and out and wash over us at anticipated and unexpected times. Yet for the most part, a year after, five years later, 15 -- the outreach that once provided so much
comfort is mostly gone. How odd is it that despite how connected we are today, finding meaningful ways to celebrate those who have passed away can be so hard to do?
The reason it’s often frustrating is because there are so few guidelines to follow. A search on Amazon offers thousands of books on grieving, but hardly anything on concrete steps for remembering. And think about your local bookstore or library. Usually there are two or three shelves devoted to coping
with death, many offering helpful advice and specific guidance for moving on. But when it comes to identifying explicit ways to keep the memory of loved ones alive? I can’t say I’ve come across a satisfying option.
And there’s another explanation why it’s challenging. Mourning generally follows a precise choreography. Between the rituals of burial and the recitation of certain prayers, between the wakes and shiva calls -- the bereaved, and those who console them, know their role and take their place. To say it another way, when someone we love dies, we usually benefit from being the passive recipients of support. But when it comes to sustaining connections after loss, that work is up to us.
Not long ago hundreds of people attended the memorial services for my parents. Both times, in those first awful days and weeks that followed, I never had to look far to share a memory or hear one. Conversations were effortless. In some ways, looking back, mourning was made slightly easier because it
seemed I’d always have the opportunity to talk about my mom and dad. But a few years after they were gone, that cozy cocoon burst open.
While I no longer needed traditional grief support, I craved a new and different type of advice. How could I recognize their absence without making my family and friends uncomfortable? And what should I do with their belongings, not just the clothing and furniture, but all those pieces of paper the ticket stubs, the
birth certificates and marriage licenses, the emails and letters they wrote me? In some respects, because strategies like these are seldom discussed, I felt lonelier than when my parents died.
This is the experience of nearly every mourner not just those who’ve lost a parent. Despite our social media circles, news feeds, and virtual support groups, ensuring those closest to us aren’t forgotten is often an isolating task. And while it feels good to make a donation or run a race in their memory, we
have opportunities to do so much more. What’s become pressing to me is finding and sharing tools for
remembering that can be incorporated into anyone’s life, whenever or however suddenly the mood strikes.
(Continues...)
Excerpted from Passed and Present by Allison Gilbert. Copyright © 2016 Allison Gilbert. Excerpted by permission of Seal Press.
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Table of Contents
ContentsForeword by Hope Edelman
Note by Jennifer Orkin Lewis
Introduction by Allison Gilbert
One: Repurpose With Purpose
Two: Use Technology
Three: Not Just Holidays
Four: Monthly Guide
Five: Places to Go
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