Permission to Put Yourself First: Questions, Exercises, and Advice to Transform All Your Relationships

by Nancy Levin

Overview

Worthy author Nancy Levin shows you how to turn the old model of relationship on its head and build something better and more fulfilling than you've had before.

Are you ready to go back to the drawing board in your love life—and end up more satisfied than you've ever been before? In these pages, master coach Nancy Levin takes a truly fresh look at relationships, showing you how to build them better from the ground up—or perform some skillful renovations.

Permission to Put Yourself First is for you if you fit any of these profiles: you're single and looking for a new relationship beyond what you've experienced before . . . you're happy alone but looking toward a great relationship in the future . . . you're divorced and determined never to do that again . . . or you're recovering from the death of a partner and unsure what's next. It's also for you if you're currently in a relationship that you want to refresh and restore; a relationship that challenges or threatens your boundaries; a relationship you're not sure you can salvage; or a relationship you recognize as the exact right teacher for you, even if it's not easy.

Essentially, this book is for you if you're ready for something more in relationship than what the old models have offered. It's based on the essential truth that relationship is first and foremost where we learn to love ourselves. Drawing on many of the same exercises she uses with her clients, Nancy guides you through a 10-step process to dissolve your emotional and psychological roadblocks to self-love so you can have the relationship you truly desire.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781401955113
Publisher:	Hay House Inc.
Publication date:	08/20/2019
Edition description:	Reprint
Pages:	264
Sales rank:	569,778
Product dimensions:	5.50(w) x 8.40(h) x 0.80(d)

About the Author

Nancy Levin is the best-selling author of Worthy, Jump . . . And Your Life Will Appear, and Writing for My Life. She is a Master Integrative Coach and the creator of the Jump Coaching, Worthy Coaching, and New Relationship Blueprint Coaching programs, working with clients—privately and in groups—to design lives in alignment with their own truth and desires. She was the Event Director at Hay House for 12 years and hosts her own weekly call-in show, Jump Start Your Life, on Hay House Radio. Nancy received her MFA in Creative Writing and Poetics from Naropa University in Boulder, Colorado, and she continues to live in the Rocky Mountains.

Table of Contents

Introduction xiii

Step 1 Reframe Relationship as Spiritual Path 1

Step 2 Identify Your Relationship Beliefs 13

Step 3 Revisit Your Relationship History 37

Step 4 Make Peace with Your Past … and Let It Go 59

Step 5 Redefine Intimacy 75

Step 6 Embrace Selfishness 101

Step 7 Go It Alone for a While 123

Step 8 Hone Your New Relationship Skills 147

Step 9 Envision the Relationship You Desire 173

Step 10 Lean into Love 201

"Loving and being loved" Nancy Levin 220

Resources 221

Acknowledgments 222

About the Author 225

Interviews

Boulder, Colorado

Editorial Reviews

A is a revelation and a relationship revolution. Whatever your relationship status, you will find the key to lasting happiness and fulfillment in these pages. And you’ll stop wasting your time trying to fix the relationship that is depleting you.”
— Christiane Northrup, M.D., New York Times best-selling author of Goddesses Never Age and Dodging Energy Vampires

“Nancy Levin is the real deal. What I love about her is that she lives her work, and then she shares it with the world so we all experience deep healing and renewal. . . . In this book Nancy shows you how to fall in love without losing yourself.”
— Gabrielle Bernstein, #1 New York Times best-selling author and international speaker

“Nancy has done it again! In this book she reveals the relationship secret no one is talking about. Spoiler alert . . . having the kind of love you want begins with loving YOU! How I wish I had this book when I was trying to navigate my 20s and 30s! A true gem!”
— Kris Carr, New York Times best-selling author of Crazy Sexy Juice

"If you want to strengthen all of your relationships—on all levels— then you NEED to read this book. This isn’t some schmaltzy dating book; this is a practical guide on how to reframe the way you love.”
— Nick Ortner, New York Times best-selling author of The Tapping Solution 

"A super smart, workable plan that prepares you for the most important decision you will ever make—sharing your life with a new partner after previous relationships have bitten the dust. That dust, used rightly, is nourishing compost in which you can grow true love. I wish I’d had this program after a divorce in my 20s. It would have saved years of angst, cluelessness, and false starts!”
— Joan Borysenko, Ph.D., New York Times best-selling author of Minding the Body, Mending the Mind

“A life-changing model for learning to love . . . Deeply enriching, brilliant, and powerful, a must-read.”
— Anita Moorjani, New York Times best-selling author of Dying to Be Me and What If This Is Heaven?

“Refreshingly honest, Permission to Put Yourself First . . . takes the mystery out of our struggles and gives us fail-proof steps that lead to authentic intimate relationships that actually work.”
— Sonia Choquette, New York Times best-selling author of The Answer Is Simple and Waking Up in Paris

“You no longer need to feel like a victim of ‘bad luck’ when it comes to relationships. Nancy clears the fog so you can clearly see the blocks that are holding you back . . . and navigate your way to a relationship that’s good for your heart and soul.”
— Jessica Ortner, New York Times best-selling author of The Tapping Solution for Weight Loss & Body Confidence

“A breath of freakin’ fresh air! . . . Nancy’s book is the ultimate guide if you want to uplevel and breathe new life into the relationship you’re already in or get support for your next relationship—but ultimately it will show you how to enrich and embrace the most important relationship in your life, the one with you!”
— Colette Baron-Reid, best-selling author and oracle expert

“Nancy Levin walks you through the labyrinth of love, offering profound and practical guidance each step of the way. I love this book—it’s one I return to over and again.”
— Robert Holden, author of Loveability: Knowing How to Love and Be Loved

“Self-love is the greatest love story in each of our lives. . . . Nancy’s book lets us begin again, anchored first and foremost in the love that’s within us, that’s unconditionally here for us, and that’s inexhaustible. The love that makes all other loves possible.”
— Meggan Watterson, co-author of How to Love Yourself (and Sometimes Other People)

“Good relationships help us grow into our highest self . . . but they’re machines that don’t come with instructions. . . . Permission to Put Yourself First will hold your hand as you create something new for you and the partner who deserves you.”
— Alexandra Jamieson, best-selling author of Women, Food, and Desire and co-creator of Supersize Me

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