Say More: Consent Conversations for Teens
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Say More: Consent Conversations for Teens
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Product Details
| ISBN-13: | 9781990869518 |
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| Publisher: | Thornapple Press |
| Publication date: | 04/26/2024 |
| Pages: | 160 |
| Product dimensions: | 5.25(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.50(d) |
| Age Range: | 12 - 18 Years |
About the Author
Heather Corinna is the founder, director, designer and editor of Scarleteen, the first truly comprehensive sex, sexuality and relationships education site and resource for young people of its kind. She is also the author of S.E.X: The All-You-Need-To-Know Sexuality Guide to Get You Through Your Teens and Twenties (DaCapo Press); with Isabella Rotman, Wait, What?: A Comic Book Guide to Relationships, Bodies, and Growing Up (Oni Press) and the menopause memoir-slash-survival guide What Fresh Hell Is This? Perimenopause, Menopause, Other Indignities and You (Hachette Go!).
Table of Contents
ForewordNote to Adults
Acknowledgements
Introduction
Why Does Consent Feel So Weird?
Why Is Consent So Complicated?
Why Is Consent So Often Treated as a Gendered Thing?
How Do We Normalize Consent in Our Culture?
Is Consent Sexy?
When and How Do I Need to Ask for Consent?
Is It Nonconsensual If the Other Person Says Yes But Doesn’t Mean It?
What’s the Best Way to Tell Someone You’ve Changed Your Mind?
What’s the Difference between Coercion and Consent?
What Should You Do If Someone Doesn’t Respect Your Boundaries?
What Should I Do When I've Crossed Someone's Boundaries?
When Is a Boundary Healthy?
Can Boundaries Be Detrimental?
Consent and Authority: How Do You Pick Your Battles?
What Does It Mean to “Navigate Your Own Consent”?
The Boundary Toolbox
How to Say “No” While Saving Face and Letting Others Save Face
I Consented to Something, But Now I Regret It. What Do I Do Now?
I Crossed Someone’s Boundary. How Do I Fix It?
A Checklist of Check-Ins
Physical and Emotional Signs
Current Capacity
Relationship Assessment
TL;DR: A Brief List of Consent Tips
Final Thoughts
Resources
Books and Essays
Websites
Crisis Resources
Glossary
What People are Saying About This
This book is an accessible guide to navigating consent in multiple contexts! It's practical, insightful, and respects the individual as well as the cooperative nature of preferable human interaction. There is not enough teen-appropriate material on this subject and thank goodness Kitty Stryker brings her nuanced, respectful and helpful language to the discussion!
Don't be fooled into thinking this book is just for teens. It's terrific for adults too. In a rare combination of clarity and nuance, it's useful for everyone. And it's a joy to read.
Kitty Stryker dives into the complexities and nuances of consent while giving straightforward and concise information and advice on how to navigate it all. I think teens will find this book more like a talk with a big sister than a ‘how to’ book on consent. Each chapter tackles tough questions that we all wrestle with. I wish I could have read a book like this when I was a teen!
Say More is an accessible, practical, friendly guide to consent and healthy boundaries in all kinds of relationships. Stryker answers questions from real teens and uses examples young people are likely to relate to without ever condescending, making the advice and tools in this book useful for anyone who wants to get better at awkward and necessary conversations.
A crucial resource for all teens, and an absolute godsend for neurodivergent teens! Say More turns the nuanced social cues of consent into concrete frameworks, providing clear scripts and step-by-step guidance for critical conversations that too often go unspoken. Teens will not only learn how to understand and communicate their own authentic levels of consent, but also how to seek and respond gracefully to someone else’s.
As cisgender guys, we're not always socialized to have the kind of background in consent that we should. Had I had a whole-ass book to teach me in my teens vs. learning it all clumsily through trial and error in my adulthood, I'd probably have far fewer awkward interactions to cringe about for the rest of my life. Kitty is not only tackling the right topic but aiming at the exact right audience to make the most amount of positive impact.
Say More is an earnest, funny, thought-provoking exploration into not just consent, but good communication as a whole. The book approaches navigating consent with a blend of sensitivity and unapologetic, straightforward clarity, making it an essential read for anyone—not just teens—looking to enhance their communication skills. Kitty's emphasis on authenticity and compassion makes it a standout addition to the conversation. This book belongs in every sex-ed classroom and every relationship therapist's office.
Kitty Stryker makes exploring the nuances of consent interesting and fun. A joyous, galaxy brain read.
Consent conversations are so important, yet they often happen exclusively in the context of sex (if they happen at all). What I appreciate about Say More is that Kitty provides an expansive perspective of what consent is and can look like in teenagers' everyday lives, including in friendships and with adults, and how to respect and prioritize autonomy in a culture that doesn't. There's no assumption that consent is simply 'sexy' in this book, and I believe readers will appreciate that, in addition to the fundamentals, it intentionally addresses the fuzzy, murky parts of consent that are often left out of pop-culture sex and relationship resources.
Kitty Stryker is the perfect companion with whom to properly tuck into the important, intelligent, meaty conversations young people want and need to have about consent... Nothing’s rushed over, and nothing’s hushed up. Say More truly gets into the nitty gritty, so readers emerge not only with a more profound understanding of what navigating consent can look like, but also with a toolkit of skills to help them do so with greater confidence, comfort and safety.
Kitty Stryker has followed up her powerful book on consent culture with an essential resource for young people. Say More is crystal clear and complex without being dense or academic and is brimming with compassion and identification. Boundaries and consent are rarely discussed with our teens and children and should be commonplace in homes and schools. If I had had this book when I was thirteen and struggling alone with an abuser, it would have been a game changer. Say More will change the game for many young people and parents, whether dealing with extreme situations or the everyday challenges of interpersonal relationships and maintaining one’s agency.
Say More is a brilliant overview of all things consent. It gives teens spot-on, realistic advice about how we might navigate all our relationships more consensually, and about how to handle things when we, inevitably, don’t manage it at times. Kitty Stryker is just the friendly mentor required to guide us through this complex territory with clarity, steadiness, and a whole lot of relatable experience.
Say More provides a growth-oriented approach to the topic of consent. Through unpacking common consent slogans and rules, Stryker gives teens the space and permission to reflect on their understanding of consent and their own consent practices. The chapters are short, the stories are relatable, and the tools are practical. I continue to be impressed by the way Stryker helps deepen our capacities to build a culture of consent.