Sex After Grief: Navigating Your Sexuality After Losing Your Beloved

by Joan Price

Overview

“A profoundly compassionate, deeply personal, and exceptionally practical guidebook for moving forward after loss with both purpose and joy.” —Lynn Comella, PhD, author of Vibrator Nation

Winner of the American Society of Journalists and Authors (ASJA) Writing Award in Service/Self-Help

Sex after Grief is the first book to address sex and grief together and treat sex as a normal, positive, life-affirming part of emerging from such a difficult time. Joan Price, the top expert on senior sex, draws on her own experiences as a widow since 2008, when she lost the love of her life to cancer. She shares her raw grief journey, sexual reawakening (and the many stumbles along the way), and attempts to dip back into dating, along with excellent advice on handling each step.

As Price says, there’s no right or wrong method or timeline for bringing our sexuality back into into our lives, whether it’s with our own hands, a friend with benefits, a hook-up, a new companion, or any combination. Sex After Grief includes a variety of people’s personal stories from folks of all genders and orientations. Some jumped into sex quickly. Some took years. Some withdrew from sexual possibility. No one was wrong, and no choice is defective or shameful.

Sex After Grief includes:

Inspiring tales of how different people brought sex back into their lives after the loss of their spouse or partner

Guidelines for dating again and getting sexual with a new person

Reasons that solo sex is healthy and can be the path to feeling sexual again

Advice from therapists, grief counselors, and sex coaches

Self-help takeaways for creating an action plan

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781642500349
Publisher:	Mango Media
Publication date:	01/01/2021
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	122
Sales rank:	392,014
File size:	4 MB

About the Author

Joan Price (www.joanprice.com) calls herself an advocate for ageless sexuality. She is the author of the Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life; the award-winning self-help book, Naked at Our Age: Talking Out Loud about Senior Sex; and the sexy memoir, Better Than I Ever Expected: Straight Talk about Sex After Sixty. At age 74, Joan continues to talk out loud about senior sex -- partnered or solo – in speeches, workshops, and webinars, and on her zesty blog about sex and aging, www.NakedAtOurAge.com, where she has been offering senior sex news, views, and sex toy reviews since 2005.

Table of Contents

Table of Contents

Chapter 1: Why a Book about Sex and Grief?
Chapter 2: Myths about Sex and Grieving
Chapter 3: My Own Struggle with Sex after Grief
Chapter 4: Solo Sex
Chapter 5: Dating Again
Chapter 6: For Non-Grievers Who Want to Date Us
Chapter 7: It’s Okay If You’re Not Ready
Chapter 8: Your (New) First Time
Chapter 9: It’s Not All or Nothing
Chapter 10: The Pilot Light Lover
Chapter 11: Friend with Benefits
Chapter 12: After Caregiving Your Partner
Chapter 13: Massage or More?
Chapter 14: Sex of Many Stripes
Chapter 15: Journaling Your Journey
Chapter 16: Grief Counselors, Sex Coaches, and Support Groups
Chapter 17: What’s Next?
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What People are Saying About This

From the Publisher

“Price’s latest book begins a much-needed conversation on what has long been considered a taboo question: what happens to your sex life after the death of a partner? Price offers valuable advice and guidance in an accessible writing style that brims with passion and compassion.”
—Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life

“Joan Price has crossed taboo boundaries again—this time about the impact on sex of loss and grieving. All of us who cope with rebirthing sex after facing loss of a beloved wish we had a roadmap to follow. This book lights a path that sets us on the journey to recovery, with content that is relevant, necessary, and inspiring for grievers and the professionals that serve them. It is truly a gift to humankind!”
—Patti Britton, PhD, co-founder of SexCoachU.com, known worldwide as the Mother of Sex Coaching

“Joan Price is one of the smartest thinkers around about sex, regardless of your age—or hers!”
—Dan Savage

“With her characteristic clarity and insight, senior sexpert Joan Price zeros in on an experience that many people navigate but very few discuss: the experience of reclaiming sex after the death of a beloved. Sex After Grief is a profoundly compassionate, deeply personal, and exceptionally practical guidebook for moving forward after loss with both purpose and joy.”
—Lynn Comella, PhD and author of Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure

“Deeply, honestly sourced in her own experience but aware that other people's mileage may vary, this wise, compassionate, moving, sex-positive, and so necessary book breaks silence and lucidly tackles an all-too-common source of pain and shame. Author Joan Price has stitched ‘patches of [her] grief quilt’ together with other bereaved lovers' insights and experiences woven throughout. It will prove a source of comfort for those who are grieving, and advice and support for those who are ready to open back up to sex, pleasure and love.”
—Carol Queen PhD, Good Vibrations sexologist, co-founder of Center for Sex & Culture, San Francisco

“I always love Joan’s books because they are real, honest, inspirational, and audacious. Sex After Grief will advise and surprise you, whatever your age, gender, or orientation.”

—Betty Dodson, PhD, author, artist, sexologist, and orgasm educator since the early 1970s

Editorial Reviews

Price’s latest book begins a much-needed conversation on what has long been considered a taboo question: what happens to your sex life after the death of a partner? Price offers valuable advice and guidance in an accessible writing style that brims with passion and compassion.” 
—Dr. Justin Lehmiller, author of Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life

“Joan Price has crossed taboo boundaries again—this time about the impact on sex of loss and grieving. All of us who cope with rebirthing sex after facing loss of a beloved wish we had a roadmap to follow. This book lights a path that sets us on the journey to recovery, with content that is relevant, necessary, and inspiring for grievers and the professionals that serve them. It is truly a gift to humankind!”
—Patti Britton, PhD, co-founder of SexCoachU.com, known worldwide as the Mother of Sex Coaching

“Joan Price is one of the smartest thinkers around about sex, regardless of your age—or hers!”
—Dan Savage

“With her characteristic clarity and insight, senior sexpert Joan Price zeros in on an experience that many people navigate but very few discuss: the experience of reclaiming sex after the death of a beloved. Sex After Grief is a profoundly compassionate, deeply personal, and exceptionally practical guidebook for moving forward after loss with both purpose and joy.”
—Lynn Comella, PhD and author of Vibrator Nation: How Feminist Sex-Toy Stores Changed the Business of Pleasure

“Deeply, honestly sourced in her own experience but aware that other people's mileage may vary, this wise, compassionate, moving, sex-positive, and so necessary book breaks silence and lucidly tackles an all-too-common source of pain and shame. Author Joan Price has stitched ‘patches of [her] grief quilt’ together with other bereaved lovers' insights and experiences woven throughout. It will prove a source of comfort for those who are grieving, and advice and support for those who are ready to open back up to sex, pleasure and love.”
—Carol Queen PhD, Good Vibrations sexologist, co-founder of Center for Sex & Culture, San Francisco

“I always love Joan’s books because they are real, honest, inspirational, and audacious. Sex After Grief will advise and surprise you, whatever your age, gender, or orientation.”
—Betty Dodson, PhD, author, artist, sexologist, and orgasm educator since the early 1970s

“We predict that this will be one of the most important books to have been published around death and dying. Joan's words are delivered with kindness and her advice is true to the heart. There are two things in life that can change you: the books you read and the people you meet. Do yourself a favour, grab a copy of Sex After Grief. We believe that this book is relevant to anyone who has experienced loss of a partner, not just from death, but also as a result of the end of a relationship.”
—The Spicy Boudior YouTube show

“I am so happy this book exists in the world. I think it is a solid resource written in a way that is inviting and not overwhelming. I hope libraries add it to their collections and grievers can find and be helped by this book.”
—Unlaced Librarian

From the Publisher