Table of Contents
Preface: A Good Name 19
I Family Secrets
Chapter 1 Brain Storm 31
Chapter 2 Bright Things Kept in the Dark Tend to Tarnish 46
Chapter 3 Hiding Is My Heritage 57
Chapter 4 The Plastic Shopping Bag 66
Chapter 5 The Palestine Letters, Spring 1939 70
Chapter 6 She Could Hide a Hippo in a Hatbox 80
Chapter 7 The Florida Letters, Winter 1940-41 87
Chapter 8 The Day I Learned My Parents Were Liars 93
Chapter 9 Papering Over Marital Misery 113
Chapter 10 "Just Put a Pillow Over Your Head and Turn Up the Radio" 119
Chapter 11 It Was Easier to Fib Than to Fail 131
Chapter 12 "All My Life I Led a Double Life" 137
Chapter 13 Our Kitchen Was Kosher, Our Stomachs. Cheated 142
Chapter 14 No One Would Tell Simma about Sadye 148
Chapter 15 The Less You Know 158
Chapter 16 The Knippel 165
Chapter 17 Don't Leave Me and Take Your Secrets with You 168
Chapter 18 Like All Children Reared among Radicals, We Hid Things That Could Get Us in Trouble 176
Chapter 19 The Antithesis of a Secret 180
II Private Shame
Chapter 20 They'll Say I'm Not Ready for Kindergarten 189
Chapter 21 She Lied to Enhance Her Past and Preserve Her Dignity 193
Chapter 22 Name Changers, Game Changers 200
Chapter 23 My Missing Uncles 211
Chapter 24 I Didn't Own a Cashmere Sweater 214
Chapter 25 Rather Than Live in Disgrace, I Decided to Kill Myself 224
Chapter 26 Family Envy 237
Chapter 27 "Of Course Not, He's Just Artistic" 241
Chapter 28 "Concealment Makes the Soul a Swamp; Confession Is How You Drain It" 246
Chapter 29 I Never Reported the Men Who Molested Me 253
Chapter 30 Were You Ever Ashamed of Your Mom? 260
III Guilty Secrets
Chapter 31 Two-Timing Judah Maccabee 271
Chapter 32 The Menorah 273
Chapter 33 Thank God Nothing Like That Is Happening in My Family 278
Chapter 34 Pity Is Better 288
Chapter 35 At Last, Rena 293
Chapter 36 Girlhood Pain, Grown-up Guilt 308
Chapter 37 Just Skip Supper 312
Chapter 38 Jews Go to College. End of Story. 323
Chapter 39 Motherguilt 328
Chapter 40 I Couldn't Give Her My Blessing 336
IV Public Shame
Chapter 41 Twenty Million People Knew Our Secret 343
Chapter 42 Period. End of Sentence. 349
Chapter 43 Loss, Shame, and What I Wore 354
Chapter 44 We Lived in the Tension between Pride and Paranoia 360
Chapter 45 Portnoy and Me 372
Chapter 46 My Cousin, Israel 376
Chapter 47 Busha v'Charpa 384
Chapter 48 Some Secrets Save Lives 389
Chapter 49 The Mouse That Roared 396
Chapter 50 Of All Her Wishes, Only This One Came True 400
Chapter 51 "You Think That's Bad?!!" 403
Chapter 52 A Secret-Free Life 411
Acknowledgments 415
About the Author 417
Discussion Questions 419
Glossary 423