Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well
Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project

Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.”

Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time).
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Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well
Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project

Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.”

Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time).
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Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well

Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well

by Wendy Paris
Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well

Splitopia: Dispatches from Today's Good Divorce and How to Part Well

by Wendy Paris

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Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project

Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.”

Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time).

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781476725529
Publisher: Atria Books
Publication date: 05/30/2017
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 336
Product dimensions: 5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Wendy Paris is a journalist and essayist whose work on marriage, relationships, and contemporary culture has appeared in The New York Times, Psychology Today, Glamour, Brides, QZ.com, Salon.com, Travel & Leisure, Essence, and Marketplace radio. She was a 2014 Fellow with New America Foundation, a 2013 Fellow with Encore.org, a MacDowell Colony Fellow, and a Visiting Artist at the 18th Street Arts Center. She has an MFA in creative nonfiction writing from Columbia University and blogs about the good divorce at WendyParis.com and PsychologyToday.com. She and her ex-husband and son moved together, separately, from the New York area to Santa Monica, California, while she was writing this book. Find out more from WendyParis.com and follow her on Twitter @WendyParis1.

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Splitopia



Many people assume divorce destroys relationships, but some former spouses get along better after they part. Fears about being single, miserable, and broke tend to be overblown. My husband and I set off on a quest to separate, together.

Table of Contents

Note to Reader 1

What We Talk about When We Talk about Divorce

Part 1 Love, New American Style

Chapter 1 The Joy of Ex 15

My Quest for a More Perfect Disunion

Part 2 Doing It Well

Chapter 2 Principles of Parting 39

Laying the Groundwork for a Good Divorce

Chapter 3 The Expanded Family 71

Break Up a Marriage, Not a Family

Chapter 4 The Opposite of an Engagement 96

Telling Others about Your Divorce

Chapter 5 Friends… and Lack Thereof 122

Loneliness and How Divorce Affects Non-Romantic Relationships

Part 3 The Tunnel of Darkness

Chapter 6 Hurricane 145

When Crisis Hits

Chapter 7 I Love You, You're Perfect (Now That You're Gone) 166

The Need for Boundaries

Chapter 8 Don't Buy Your Lawyer a Country House 180

Making It Legal

Part 4 Signs of Light

Chapter 9 Transformative Acts 201

Making It Feel Real

Chapter 10 Does This Couch Match My Personality? 212

Creating a Home, Alone

Chapter 11 Am I Free Tonight? Let Me Check with My Husband 231

Dating While Divorced, or even Just Separated

Chapter 12 Happily Ever After Divorce 250

The Evolving Post-Marriage Relationship

Acknowledgments 267

Resources for Readers 273

Resources for Professionals 279

Policy Suggestions & Reforms 283

Notes 293

Index 313

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