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| ISBN-13: | 9780471655763 |
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| Publisher: | Wiley |
| Publication date: | 11/03/2004 |
| Pages: | 192 |
| Product dimensions: | 9.16(w) x 10.88(h) x 0.53(d) |
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Stuff You Don't Learn in Engineering School
Skills for Success in the Real WorldBy Carl Selinger
John Wiley & Sons
Copyright © 2004 Institute of Electrical and Electronics Engineers, Inc.All right reserved.
ISBN: 0-471-65576-7
Chapter One
STUFF YOU DON'T LEARN IN ENGINEERING SCHOOLWhat you don't know will hurt you and hold you back. -Consulting engineer at Cooper Union seminar
I clearly remember the date when Stuff you Don't Learn in Engineering School was, shall we say, "born." I remember this clearly because I was about to confront something in my career after 20 years of stressing over it. It was the morning of Thursday, October 20, 1992, around 9 AM, on the 61st floor of One World Trade Center, in New York City. I was sitting with about 20 other colleagues from The Port Authority of New York and New Jersey, and we were going to take a two-day course in "Negotiating Skills."
Why was I taking a "negotiating" course? After all, I was a seasoned manager in my forties, with over 20 years' experience, and yet I felt that I finally needed to learn this skill since I was about to negotiate with several bus and limousine companies to start ground transportation services to our regional airports.
You see, I had never learned how to negotiate. To be honest, I had a "thing" about it, and was scared of negotiating: I thought it was too hard, it always involved conflict, and you either won or you lost. As a result of these perceptions, I had avoided negotiating like the plague during my career. So now it was time to give in and finally learn how to do this terrible thing.
People were introducing themselves-who they were, what they did, why they were there, the usual. Then the instructor-a lawyer, whose name I've forgotten-started off the course. "Welcome," he said, "glad you're here," ... then, "Why do you think they hired a lawyer to teach you how to negotiate?" My ears perked up. "We're the world's worst negotiators."
Inside my head I was suddenly tuning him out, thinking, "this guy's a jerk." He continued: "Everyone thinks lawyers know how to negotiate. What we do is get together for lunch, and I say 'We need to settle this for $40,000,' and the other lawyer says, 'No, I'll only go for $30,000,' and, guess what? We 'split the difference,' settle for $35,000, and bill the client for our services."
Just that quickly, I had it with Mr. Negotiating Attorney! I didn't need to hear this bull for two whole days. I was going to call my secretary at the first break so she could come and retrieve me for an "important meeting."
The lawyer continued: "That's what most people think negotiating is. You say a number, I say a number, and we 'split the difference.' Well, I'm here to tell you that you already know how to negotiate." What was he saying?
"You negotiate every day. You've negotiated since you were a kid, asking to stay up later, wanting to borrow the family car. You negotiated all the time in college, begging the professor for more time to do the assignment. And you negotiate every day at work, asking for extensions for due dates, discussing changes in tasks you're supposed to do, selecting places to go for lunch, etc., etc. You just don't call it 'negotiating'."
Suddenly, something went off in my head ... he was right! I HAD been negotiating all my life, and I didn't know it. How could that be?
My mind began silently racing, and I tuned out the next half hour of whatever was being said. How was it that I, a seasoned 46-year-old professional manager with three engineering degrees and successful by many measures, could only find out now that I always knew how to negotiate? And that I had been silently afraid of this demon for over two decades? What was the reason?
The somewhat simple answer came to me that morning: no one had ever taught me this-not in engineering school, not in my work career-at no time in my life had somebody drawn me aside and told me about this important skill.
I then started thinking about my engineering education, and began getting angry. To be sure, I had a wonderful education at three excellent institutions-The Cooper Union, Yale University, and Polytechnic Institute-but now, looking back, it was virtually all in technical education-science and technology-not "negotiating" nor, as I thought about it in the class, many other skills like public speaking, writing, making decisions, setting priorities, dealing with meetings, working with other people, and so on. They didn't, and still don't, teach you this stuff in engineering school: the non-technical "soft" skills so important in the real world of work and life.
I began to make a list, right then and there, of all the things I didn't learn in engineering school, and it quickly became about two pages, single-spaced. So that's how Stuff You Don't Learn in Engineering School was born.
"So what?" you may be asking. Maybe this personal experience happened only to me and perhaps to no one else in the world, given the infinite variations in our personal lives, education, work experiences, and personalities. However, it would not surprise me to learn that many if not most engineers who have gone through engineering school and the early parts of their careers can relate to this. Today's "real world" is so complicated and fast-changing, and engineers are concerned not just with technical competency, but with so many things involving work and family that their engineering education has not prepared them for.
To be sure, engineering schools provide a magnificent education, certainly very tough and demanding, and they do attempt to teach some of these soft skills in more robust programs. But, let's face it, it's just not like the real world of work, especially with the emphasis in school on teaching more and more technical subjects. It seems that most other college educations with more well-rounded curricula help better prepare graduates for the working world that demands skills of both knowing your subjects and dealing effectively with people-your manager, coworkers, clients/customers, elected officials, and the public.
So this book is less about "Why can't engineering schools give engineers a more effective education?" and is devoted instead to helping engineers become acquainted with the most important nontechnical "soft" skills not taught in engineering school that are necessary to be more effective and happier persons. So let's get started!
WELCOME TO THE "REAL WORLD"!
The much-talked-about "real world" is many things to many people, but it certainly is different than engineering school! Even if school is a very difficult time of your life, it is still like a cocoon, in that you are protected from the time when you need to find a job and support yourself and perhaps others. Young engineers have many concerns about the real world; see the Appendices for some fears raised about the uncertainties, expectations, and difficulties of dealing with projects and people.
Although nothing I say can completely settle your worries about the future, I happen to be very optimistic that we live in a wonderfully stimulating time for professionals in engineering and technology. There are no assurances, but there are so many positive factors in the economy and society, and, even with all the troubles in our world, I believe that one would be hard-pressed to identify another time when it was better to live.
Given that, it is important to realize that you have no control over the real world. Change in our world, and it's impact on our lives, is a constant, and the acceleration of change in recent decades has been unnerving to many in our society. The fact that you as an engineer have a lot to do with this by applying advances in science and technology does little to calm your fears about the future. So, if we can't change the real world, we have to realize that we can control our behavior and actions in dealing with the real world.
And there is never enough time in the real world to do all the things you need or want to do. The days of pulling "all-nighters" to finish papers or cram for exams are over. You can no longer afford the time to make things perfect; indeed, you "perfectionists" out there (I was one!) must understand and accept that you can never achieve perfection in your work. You must accomplish the best job you can within the time allotted.
THE REAL WORLD IS NOT NEAT
It is not linear, where you can always plug in numbers in an equation to get a "right" answer. Information you need is not handed to you on a plate. It is not like doing Problem 2.4 in the textbook. People aren't standing there at your beck and call to answer your questions on this or that. Technical issues you're dealing with often must be factored in with policy issues and people issues. Information you need is often imprecise, if it is available at all. Things will pop up that affect what you are trying to accomplish, adversely as often as they may represent a positive opportunity. One of many "Murphy's Laws" says, "If it can go wrong, it will go wrong," and you probably have little or no control over any of this.
So what is an engineer to do? For one thing, understand that there is life after engineering school. You are not alone; engineers have preceded you in entering the world of work and have, for the most part, adapted and succeeded. But do you feel well prepared to do this? Probably not. Let me, therefore, give you some encouragement.
Think about this question for a moment: Do you someday aspire to become a Chief Engineer or a Chief Executive Officer (CEO)? When I ask this of young engineers at seminars I give, about one-third raise their hands. Some hands shoot up and some rise rather haltingly. The other two-thirds seem a bit uncomfortable. Perhaps they feel embarrased that they have such lofty aspirations or are hesitant to appear so ambitious to the others. However, believe it or not, each of you is already a CEO.
YOU ARE THE CEO OF YOU!
You are responsible for your behavior, the decisions you make, your life choices. You and nobody else. Sure, you can and should get advice, but you are the one who is ultimately responsible. That's what a CEO does. So start thinking of what you want to do in life, what actions you will take to make your life better. Don't defer to others to make important decisions in your life. If you do this, you will be well on your way to being more effective and happier in the real world.
GOALS FOR THIS BOOK
What will we try to do in this book? What will we try to accomplish that will be worthwhile to you in your engineering career and in your personal life? I'll boil it down to the following three broad goals:
1. Acquaint engineers with real-world issues. Become aware of the most important soft, nontechnical skills that engineers need.
2. Help build your strengths, but target on your weak areas. We all tend to do well the things we're interested in, but avoid the things we're not good at or afraid of. Hopefully, this book will give you an understanding of all these skills and ways that you can improve in all areas.
3. Be more effective and happier in work and life. I think that this goal derives from the first two: if you are aware of all the soft skills that are important, and you work to improve your abilities in them, you will be more effective and happier in your work and in your personal life. You will be able to accomplish much more, and do things faster, so there will be more time for other things in life.
A few more final introductory thoughts follow. First, I do not subscribe to the old adage that "What you don't know won't hurt you." Rather, I strongly believe that "What you don't know will hurt you, or hold you back." You've gone through one of the toughest educations in engineering school, and you need to commit yourself to life-long learning, so don't feel that there are some areas that you don't need to know to get by. Take, for example, public speaking. Many young engineers feel that they don't have to learn how to speak in front of groups. This is flat-out wrong. Any young engineers who feel that they can succeed in their careers without adequate speaking, writing, and people skills have to adjust their thinking. That's what we talk about, and teach, throughout this book. Not just the importance of the skill, but why it's difficult for engineers and the how to do it part as well.
The nontechnical skills covered in the book are not in any particular order as such. Remember, the real world is not neat and linear. So you can read the chapters in almost any order you prefer-from start to finish, or dip into various skills that you need first, and certainly go back to refresh yourself anytime you need to. It even may be helpful to think of these nontechnical skills as being like a lunch buffet of "stuff" that you need to know. At a buffet you see all kinds of interesting foods, many of which you are familiar with and like or dislike, and some other things that may look like "mystery meat" without the little signs to identify the food. So think of the nontechnical skills we will cover as somewhat analogous to the lunch buffet-you're better at some skills perhaps because you like them already, you avoid some things because you think you don't know how to do them or you dislike doing them, and some other things you won't even try because they look too unappetizing. Well, I'm not your mother who, like mine, urged me to just try things-"How can you say you don't like it if you haven't tried it?" Does that sound familiar? My goal is to give you the incentive to "try things," the important nontechnical skills, and then-to your surprise in many cases, I'm sure-you will like it and get good at it!
As you read this book, please keep in mind and relate the material to the things happening in your work and in your personal life: important decisions you need to make, handling your "to do" list, focusing on important projects, and dealing more effectively with meetings you're going to or leading. One of my personal pet peeves when I went to professional development courses was that they were almost never tailored to my work situation. I left all my work piled up back at my desk, and only learned generic skills-say, about new software or public speaking. Usually, I got a big looseleaf from the course, which I promised myself to read and refer to after the course, but rarely did. I would return from the course with more work added to the pile, phone calls and emails to return, and not too happy about the time spent away.
Make this book help you with things that are on your plate right now and in the future. Use it as a kind of "cribsheet" or "cheatsheet" and refer back to it before, say, you run a meeting. Highlight key tips, dog-ear the pages, use it! In my first summer job a long time ago, I was thumbing through an engineering manual that a senior engineer had, and it was well worn. It turned out that it was the second or third copy that he had bought, showing that it got a great deal of use. So I went out and bought this useful book and still have it on my bookshelf. In the same way, I hope this book will stand the test of your time and application.
FIND OUT WHAT WORKS FOR YOU
This is so important. Each of us are individuals with different backgrounds, abilities, and interests. One size does not fit all. So see what works for you that meets your needs. I'll offer numerous tips and suggestions along the way, many that I've gotten from asking others how they dealt with certain things. Frankly, I've become a very open "sponge" to learn all sorts of ideas and ways of handling things. For example, one time I asked a terrific engineer how he managed to remember to follow up with me on things, some of which I had forgotten, and he whipped out his "steno" book-the small spiral-bound notebook that secretaries used to use to take shorthand or stenography and transcribe into writing. After that, I began to use steno books to take notes at meetings, note follow-ups, and such; and used this for years until I recently shifted over to using a Personal Digital Assistant (PDA), discussed later in Chapter 6 on "Setting Priorities."
Last but certainly not least, remember that technical competency is the core of your success in engineering. Although I maintain that learning the nontechnical soft skills is so important to supplement and complement your career, it is crucial to maintain and enhance your technical abilities in the fast-changing world of technology. That is a job in itself, but one that you are probably very well suited to handle; through continuous learning, additional education, membership in a professional society, and keeping up with your field.
(Continues...)
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Table of Contents
Chapter 1: Stuff you don't learn in engineering school.Chapter 2: Writing.
Chapter 3: Speaking and listening.
Chapter 4: Making decisions.
Chapter 5: Getting feedback.
Chapter 6: Setting priorities.
Chapter 7: Being effective at meetings.
Chapter 8: Understanding yourself and others.
Chapter 9: Working in teams.
Chapter 10: Learn to negotiate.
Chapter 11: Being more creative.
Chapter 12: Ethics in the workplace.
Chapter 13: Developing leadership skills.
Chapter 14: Adapting to the workplace.
Chapter 15: Dealing with stress and having fun.
Chapter 16: Taking action and summing up.
Appendix 1: Manager's survey on nontechnical skills of young engineers.
Appendix 2: Engineers' concerns with the real world and other issues.
Appendix 3: List of professional societies.
What People are Saying About This
"It is terrific....very valuable for engineers.....well thought out and right on the money." - Neil Senturia, Blackbird Ventures
"What a nice surprise to receive it. I've told several people about the book. It's such a great topic, one which you know I especially appreciate. - Susan de la Vergne, www.susandelavergne.com
"Throughout my career, I’ve always said that I’ve been helped a lot by things that I didn’t learn in engineering school. This is especially true of the Dartmouth curriculum for engineers, which requires 5 years, and has a strong liberal arts component. So I planned my speech around the theme of how important it is to be able to do more than technical things. At the same time, I saw your book mentioned in the ASCE newspaper, so I thought that it would make a nice gift to the 150 engineering graduates. I purchased the book through Barnes and Noble (internet, of course). It is a good, useful publication about something that I believe very strongly. I was happy to see that someone has written a book about something that should be a fundamental precept for success in the world of engineering, and I was happy to share it with some young people who will shape the world for the next 40 years." - Tom O'Neill, CEO Parsons Brinckerhoff
"I think that part of what we do as educators, in addition to developing knowledge, skills, and experiences in the curricula, is to equip the students with other useful survival skills. Carl's experiences as reflected in his book are an example of these skills. While the book is written from an engineering perspective, its contents apply across the disciplines. I was so taken by its relevance to the needs of students that I recommended it to the Graduate Honors Program at Baruch. The danger in the book is that may be perceived as relevant only to engineering. This is definitely not the case. It ought, I believe, be done on across all departments and all classes. Perhaps it is my long experience in the business world that accounts for enthusiasm for what Carl has done and can do. My survival kit looks much like Carl's." - James Drogan, Acting Director, Graduate Program in International Transportation Management, SUNY Maritime College
"It was like having my own personal mentor at the tip of my fingers." - Kimberly Gilbert, Track Engineering Manager, SYSTRA Consulting
"I found your book to be perfectly appropriate for this [first job] stage of my life. What a great toolbox for me to start my career with. The examples and tips you give are truly helpful and I plan on keeping it available for referencing at each and every profession that I explore in the future." - Laynie Weaver, National Transit Institute, Rutgers University
"I enjoyed your book and will recommend it highly to everyone I know. You are great encouragement to those in the engineering field." - Darlene Rivera, P.E., Project Manager, Berger Lehman Associates, P.C.
"Those of you who've been following Carl Selinger's monthly "Stuff You Don't Learn in Engineering School" column on the IEEE Spectrum Careers site will be pleased to learn of his book by the same title. The book covers non-technical "real world" leadership skills like decision-making, setting priorities, negotiating, teamwork, running meetings, and better writing and speaking. We're big fans of Carl's friendly, level-headed approaching to tackling these often confusing topics." - IEEE Canada Newsletter
"The book was very readable and filled with insights. I was particularly fond of the chapters on assertiveness and leadership. The book has an excellent combination of helpful business and social tips, reasons to learn them, and methods to gain these traits for yourself. The book is a powerful tool for newly minted engineers and experienced professional engineers." - Dominick Gatto, P.E.
"Selinger offers a condensed, easy to read synopsis of important skills engineers need to know to succeed in business, such as how to conduct meetings, time management, and decision making. The ideas are given in practical, easy to follow, guidelines, with examples. Good sourcebook for career development." - Mary Gennuso, Computer Specialist, NYC Transit
"Carl Selinger is on target for his efforts and employers owe him a debt as well. Managers benefit because they get a window on what Carl discusses with students when they attend his seminars. As we go through many of the current management fads, folks like Carl seem to understand that it is the "software" (i.e., the people) that make the difference. People skills are extremely important if you expect to survive. Every good project manager I have ever worked with or sharp youngster I have had the privilege of developing "gets it" at this basic level. The organization of the book touches on topics that most engineering schools cannot teach. For those of you with lower grades in engineering school than you would have liked, or those of you who know a recent engineering grad or a soon to be engineering grad, this is the book for you." - Steven Marrano, ATCO