Carol Tavris
"Every new mother, potential mother, and experienced sacrificial mother should read this important book. Rubenstein shows convincingly why martyrdom and utter selflessness aren't good for mothers, their chidren, or their husbands -- and how women can learn to care for their families without losing themselves." -- Author of The Mismeasure of Women
Dalma Heyn
"Well-researched and practical, Dr. Rubenstein gives the lie to the popular notion that the best mother is the one who has the least left of her self once the child-raising is done -- as if her job were quite literally to pour her whole self into her children. A welcome reminder that such self-sacrifice makes a woman eligible for sainthood, perhaps -- but that, as a criterion for motherhood, sainthood is highly overrated." -- Author of Marriage Shock:The Transformation of Women Into Wives
Phillip Shaver
"A higly original and insightful approach to women's roles, Rubenstein's book is based on an impressive body of new research presented in an approachable, personal, and eloquent style. A must-read for social scientists interested in women, marriage, and parenting and for parents who want to be complete human beings as well as competent mommmies and daddies." -- Professor of Psychology, UC at Davis
Pepper Schwartz
"We have lauded sacrifice in women to the poin to masochism and this book is a very welcome whitle-blowing. It's a sympathetic book; Rubenstein does not demonize dedicated mothers, but she does show obsession for what it is: self-destructive to the woman, her marriage, and yes, even her children." -- Author of Love Between Equals
