The Words of My Father: Love and Pain in Palestine

by Yousef Bashir

Overview

“A work of profound spiritual beauty. . . . Offers all of us hope that this seemingly intractable conflict can find a solution that is just to both sides.” — Yossi Klein Halevi, author of the New York Times bestseller Letters to My Palestinian Neighbor

A Palestinian-American activist recalls his adolescence in Gaza during the Second Intifada, and how he made a strong commitment to peace in the face of devastating brutality in this moving, candid, and transformative memoir that reminds us of the importance of looking beyond prejudice, anger, and fear.

Yousef Bashir’s story begins in Gaza, on a verdant ten-acre farm beside an Israeli settlement and military base. When the soccer-mad Yousef was eleven, the Second Intifada exploded. First came the shooting, then the occupation. Ordered to leave their family home, Yousef’s father refused, even when the Israeli soldiers moved in, seizing the top two floors. For five long years, three generations of the Bashir family were virtual prisoners in their own home. Despite this, Yousef’s father—a respected Palestinian schoolteacher whose belief in coexisting peacefully with his Israeli neighbors was unshakeable—treated the soldiers as honored guests. His commitment to peace was absolute.

Though Yousef’s family attracted international media attention, and received letters of support from around the world, Yousef witnessed the destruction of his home, his neighborhood, and the happy life he had known with growing frustration and confusion. For the first time he wondered if his father’s belief in peace was justified and whether he was strong enough—or even wanted—to follow his example. At fifteen, that doubt was tested. Standing in his front yard with his father and three United Nations observers, he was shot in the spine by an Israeli soldier, leaving him in a wheelchair, paralyzed from the waist down, for a year.

While an Israeli soldier shot him, it was Israeli doctors who saved Yousef and helped him eventually learn to walk again. In the wake of that experience, Yousef was forced to reckon with the words of his father. And like the generous, empathetic man who raised him, he too became an outspoken activist for peace.

Amid the tragedy of the ongoing Middle Eastern conflict, The Words of My Father is a powerful tale of moral awakening and a fraught, ferocious, and profound relationship between a son and his father. Bashir's story and the ideals of peace and empathy it upholds are a soothing balm for these dangerous and troubled times, and a reminder that love and compassion are a gift—and a choice.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062917331
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	05/26/2020
Pages:	240
Product dimensions:	5.31(w) x 8.00(h) x 0.54(d)

About the Author

Yousef Bashir is a Palestinian-American from the Gaza Strip, the son of Khalil Bashir, a highly respected educator. Still suffering the effects of a near catastrophic injury at the hands of an anonymous IDF soldier, Yousef made his way to the United States where he earned a BA in International Affairs from Northeastern University and an MA in Co-existence and Conflict from Brandeis University. Now living in Washington DC, Bashir has worked on Capitol Hill, and served as a member of the Palestinian Diplomatic Delegation to the United States. Yousef is an accomplished author, a vigorous advocate of Israeli-Palestinian peace, and much sought-after public speaker.

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Table of Contents

Before I Start 1

Part 1 Paradise

1 Our Land, Our Neighbors 7

2 My Family 21

3 The School 29

Part 2 Inferno

4 Intifada 37

5 The Soldiers 49

6 House Guests 63

7 Occupation 77

8 Ramadan 87

9 The Bullet 95

Part 3 Angels

10 Tel Aviv 107

11 The Sheekum 115

12 The Miracle 123

Part 4 The Journey

13 Escape 133

14 Seeds of Peace 147

15 Return 157

16 Ramallah 165

17 Desperation 173

18 "Forward, Yousef!" 181

Part 5 Legacy

19 America 197

20 My Father 205

A Letter 213

The Words of My Father 215

Glossary 219

Acknowledgments 223

Editorial Reviews

An urgent, impassioned call for peace between Palestine and Israel. . . . Eloquent and affecting memoir… An inspiration to peace activists in all theaters of war and struggle and a book that deserves a wide audience.” — Kirkus Reviews

“At one of the darkest times in the elusive effort to end the conflict in the Middle East. . . [comes a] remarkable new memoir. . . . full of youthful exuberance, unlikely adventures, and raw discovery. . . .Captivating.” — Robin Wright, The New Yorker

“A work of profound spiritual beauty, one of the great memoirs to emerge from this terrible conflict. . . . The Words of My Father offers all of us hope that this seemingly intractable conflict can find a solution that is just to both sides.” — Yossi Klein Halevi, author of the New York Times bestseller Letters to My Palestinian Neighbor

“To experience love and humanity on many levels, read this story. Beautifully told by a young man whose voice deserves to be heard — even if the world is not yet ready to listen.” — Diana Darke, author of My House in Damascus: An Inside View of the Syrian Crisis

“In a year that has seen a relentless focus on life and death in the Gaza Strip, Yousef Bashir’s memoir is a moving reminder of the normality of Palestinian aspirations in what has been an abnormal situation for far too long. This book is a remarkable testimony to overcoming hatred and fear.” — Ian Black, author of Enemies and Neighbours: Arabs and Jews in Palestine and Israel, 1917-2017

“The Words of my Father is a book about loss—the loss of land and dignity for Palestinians living in the Occupied Territories, the increasing loss of humanity among many of the occupiers, and the loss of the author’s beloved father who spent most of his life preaching peace, but tragically died in the midst of increasing polarization between Palestinians and Israelis. By making us feel the plight of the Palestinians from the inside, this poignant and beautifully written book should inspire us all to raise our voices for change.” — Robert Greene, New York Times bestselling author of The Laws of Human Nature

“Bashir’s childhood in Gaza and his life under occupation meld in this retelling, and his charming earnestness shines through. This moving tribute to Bashir’s remarkable father is also a compelling argument for peace.” — Library Journal

From the Publisher

In a year that has seen a relentless focus on life and death in the Gaza Strip, Yousef Bashir’s memoir is a moving reminder of the normality of Palestinian aspirations in what has been an abnormal situation for far too long. This book is a remarkable testimony to overcoming hatred and fear.

Ian Black

The Words of my Father is a book about loss—the loss of land and dignity for Palestinians living in the Occupied Territories, the increasing loss of humanity among many of the occupiers, and the loss of the author’s beloved father who spent most of his life preaching peace, but tragically died in the midst of increasing polarization between Palestinians and Israelis. By making us feel the plight of the Palestinians from the inside, this poignant and beautifully written book should inspire us all to raise our voices for change.

Robert Greene

At one of the darkest times in the elusive effort to end the conflict in the Middle East…. [comes a] remarkable new memoir.... full of youthful exuberance, unlikely adventures, and raw discovery … captivating.

Robin Wright

06/10/2019

Bashir’s candid and deeply felt coming-of-age story unfolds largely during the Second Intifada. Starting when Bashir was 11, Israeli soldiers occupied his family’s farm on the Gaza Strip. He led a fairly average adolescent life—playing video games and watching soccer—while witnessing abuse, such as when soldiers would force his father, a respected school headmaster who advocated for peace with Israel, to submit at gunpoint to a daily strip search. Bashir’s father remained a pacifist, even after 15-year-old Bashir was shot by an Israeli soldier from a watchtower outside his house just minutes past curfew. He was left paralyzed from the waist down for a year, and despite his anger, he recognized the complexities of his country: “It was a Jewish soldier who had shot me, but the nurses were also Jewish.” Three years later, attending college in Boston, Bashir advocated for Israeli-Palestinian peace and later became a member of the Palestinian Diplomatic Delegation to the U.S. Throughout, his father’s words resonated: “Violence only leads to more violence.” Even in the face of great adversity, Bashir prevails as an optimistic champion of peace, as he eloquently and subtly writes, “all I had to offer this world were my little words about the need for peace.” This moving meditation of a young man’s struggle to find peace amid turmoil will resonate with readers concerned with Israeli-Palestinian relations. (May)

Publishers Weekly

A work of profound spiritual beauty, one of the great memoirs to emerge from this terrible conflict.... The Words of My Father offers all of us hope that this seemingly intractable conflict can find a solution that is just to both sides.

Yossi Klein Halevi

To experience love and humanity on many levels, read this story. Beautifully told by a young man whose voice deserves to be heard — even if the world is not yet ready to listen.

Diana Darke