A Best Book of the Year at Cosmopolitan
A Must-Read at The New York Times, The Chicago Tribune, The Bay Area Reporter, Glamour, Literary Hub, Shondaland, and CNN
“Achingly beautiful . . . Goetsch has a poetic sensibility that illuminates without simplifying . . . This Body I Wore tenderly sketches out a history of the budding trans communities that developed in the late 20th century . . . Here is an excavated history that endures in the only way it could: in the fleeting memories of those who survived, who endured and who now, like Goetsch, thrive.”
—Manuel Betancourt, The New York Times Book Review
“Rarely does a book arrive so on time, blowing out the noise . . . A hilarious personal history of the full life as a trans woman. It’s never pedantic or even inspirational, which is exactly why it is.”
—Christopher Borrelli, The Chicago Tribune
“[Goetsch] writes about coming of age and into adulthood in an earlier era, when she didn't have the language or knowledge to understand what it meant to be trans.”
—Terry Gross, NPR’s Fresh Air
“A nuanced and beautiful story of a person who wants the most out of life and does everything she can to build on what that means for her.”
—Sarah Neilson, Shondaland
“[This Body I Wore] not only chronicles [Goetsch’s] own transition but beautifully weaves together the story of the trans community over the course of her lifetime.”
—Jasmine Ting and Gretty Garcia, Cosmopolitan
“This exquisite self-portrait explores gender and trans culture from an intimately personal and enlightening perspective.”
—Jim Piechota, The Bay Area Reporter
“Goetsch is an impeccable writer . . . As trans people, especially children, are now under constant and increasing attack by state governments, it’s an especially urgent read.”
—Jenny Singer, Glamour
“An extraordinary read that only deepens over time . . . Reading This Body I Wore is an emotional experience . . . felt just as viscerally as [it is] intellectually.”
—Mara Sandroff, Newcity Lit
“Vulnerable, honest, and unabashed, so fully itself; beautiful and poetic and painful, and often very funny—a story of transition, a document of a life.”
—Melissa Faliveno, Autostraddle
“Striking.”
—Lesley Kennedy, CNN
“Exquisite . . . The hard-won wisdom [of] This Body I Wore offers a new generation of trans and nonbinary youth a guiding hand from a previous generation.”
—Catherine Hollis, BookPage (starred review)
“Goetsch fashions a brilliant and tapestried story of her late-in-life gender transition . . . A gorgeous self-portrait that defies categorization. The result obliterates binary confines around gender with breathtaking finesse.”
—Publishers Weekly
“Enthralling . . . Told with unique eloquence and tenderness . . . Hope blooms within these pages . . . A mesmerizing memoir [that] will appeal to fans of Melissa Febos and Roxane Gay.”
—Alana R. Quarles, Library Journal (starred review)
“Rich, compelling . . . Often lovely and emotionally affecting . . . A valuable memoir enriched by years of personal and societal insight into the fraught subject of gender identity.”
—Kirkus Reviews
“An important and beautiful memoir.”
—Emily Firetog, Lit Hub
“Lyrical, harrowing, and wise. This Body I Wore, the story of one woman doing everything she can to avoid becoming herself, is a universal and profound meditation on the price of authenticity.”
—Jennifer Finney Boylan, author of She’s Not There and Good Boy
“Moving and vividly recalled, This Body I Wore conjures the pain of a life in search of language for who you are. Diana Goetsch has written a powerful testimony of the need for transgender acceptance.”
—Alex Marzano-Lesnevich, author of The Fact of a Body
“In This Body I Wore, Diana Goetsch the poet is present in every line of prose. The writing is spacious, beautiful, precise, and poignant. The reader floats through the sentences, entranced. ‘Magnificent’ is not an overstatement.”
—Thomas Peele, Pulitzer Prize–winning journalist and author of Killing the Messenger
“One of the most honest, unflappable, important books I’ve read in a long time. Diana Goetsch writes with lyricism and grace about her struggles and triumphs with family, love, and gender identity. Everyone should be required to read this book.”
—Ann Hood, author of Kitchen Yarns: Notes on Life, Love, and Food
“A book that many will cherish and few will forget. Some of us need another world, a world of the spirit, before we can live or become ourselves in this one, and Diana Goetsch has now shown us why.”
—Stephanie Burt, author of Don’t Read Poetry
“Clear, thoughtful, and deeply moving, This Body I Wore is an affirmation to anyone who has struggled to live an authentic life.”
—Ellen Bass, author of Indigo
“The perfect prescription for today’s world—compelling and lyrical in equal measures. A riveting read!”
—Danielle Ofri, MD, author of What Doctors Feel
“This Body I Wore is startling, humorous, haunting, and truly illuminating. I had chills when I began reading it and was floored by the end. A pitch-perfect memoir.”
—Laurie Gwen Shapiro, author of The Stowaway
★ 04/01/2022
Goetsch, an award-winning essayist and poet, captivates and educates with this enthralling memoir/coming-out story. Told with unique eloquence and tenderness, the memoir follows the emotional and physical transition of someone who spent 50years living in someone else's skin. Goetsch's lyrical talent mesmerizes with an honest and heartfelt recall of the crossdressing culture of the 1980s, as well as her openness about the evolution of her trans community over the span of several decades. Her memoir opens a window into the cultural evolution of trans communities, gender identity, authenticity, and mental health, with nothing held back as she ascends shame through intimacy. Hope blooms within these pages. Readers will witness first-hand the tragedy of living a life closeted and the miracle of discovering it's never too late to shed your old skin and become the person you were always meant to be. VERDICT Powerful and beautifully written, this is a mesmerizing memoir and will appeal to fans of Melissa Febos and Roxane Gay.—Alana R. Quarles
2022-02-11
A trans poet and essayist who transitioned later in life reflects on decades of discovering, reckoning with, and finally embracing her gender identity.
Poet and author Goetsch opens with a section about her mid-20s, when she was living as a man whose public persona concealed severe depression, aching loneliness, and the cross-dressing as a woman that exhilarated and confused her as well as isolated her from the human connection she craved. While studying at Wesleyan in the 1980s, the author tried desperately to understand herself and her “unmoored” perception of gender, struggling with feelings for which there were few avenues of expression at the time. At the beginning of the book, she includes a note about the language she uses throughout, which reflects the often offensive attitudes of the time period she describes. The narrative follows a nonlinear structure, with chapters indicated by years as well as titles. In the second part of the book, Goetsch returns to her childhood and adolescence, marked by family dysfunction, bullying, abuse, and loneliness, and the third section delves into the last significant relationships the author had with women while living as a man, her blossoming affinities for poetry and Buddhism, and the process of coming out as trans at age 50. Goetsch recalls periods and important locations in her life with rich, compelling detail, but sometimes her revelries are sprawling and unevenly paced. The prose is often lovely and emotionally affecting, as when she describes writing a painful goodbye to an ex-girlfriend’s sons after the breakup, and her insights into what it means to be trans, both on a personal and societal level, are valuable. Readers may find her blunt quips about transphobia even within the queer community sadly relevant, highlighting how much work still needs to be done: “The institutional transphobia was appalling: L, G, and B didn’t give a fuck about T.”
A valuable memoir enriched by years of personal and societal insight into the fraught subject of gender identity.