Thriving After Divorce: Transforming Your Life When a Relationship Ends

by Tonja Evetts Weimer

Overview

Author and relationship coach Tonja Evetts Weimer offers readers a grounded approach to growing through the difficult life transitions that arise from the breaking of our most defining partnerships.

The end of a significant relationship initiates painful and powerful change in one's life, daily habits, and even in one's personal identity. Tonja Evetts Weimer's book will guide readers through a potentially tumultuous time to a safe place by showing how to put one's actions in alignment with one's needs and values for positive outcomes that will strengthen and prepare the heart for a new path.

The key is in learning how to create an authentic new life, and therefore, a different relationship with the partner in the absence of shared romantic love. This relationship allows the possibility of any continuing combined goals, while building and sustaining necessary boundaries and guidelines for new interactions.

Weimer shows readers how to deal with shared responsibilities involving children, mutual business interests, the care of family members, and other situations that require both parties to work together in the new space of the relationship.

Thriving After Divorce speaks to anyone who has gone through a breakup, providing hope, alternatives, empowerment, and inspiration to find a new way to relate to former situations and relationships that, in the past, could have been fractious.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781582702483
Publisher:	Atria Books/Beyond Words
Publication date:	03/16/2010
Edition description:	Original
Pages:	240
Product dimensions:	5.62(w) x 8.52(h) x 0.59(d)

About the Author

Tonja Evetts Weimer has an M.A. in Human Development, is a Master Certified Single’s Relationship Coach and a Certified Life Coach with the International Coach Federation (ICF). She is a graduate of the Relationship Coaching Institute, and the Institute for Life Coach Training. She has been a keynote speaker in almost every U.S. state, as well as in Europe and India. She has appeared on numerous regional and national television interview shows, including CNN’s ShowBiz Today. Tonja was selected to be the Dating Expert for the USA/NBC TV Network mini-series, “The Starter Wife.” She wrote a weekly column for their website, and produced three self-inquiry tests for their readers and viewers. Tonja is also an award-winning newspaper columnist, and has written a weekly dating column for five years that is carried by newspapers in hundreds of cities and towns across America and Canada. She has also been published in New Woman, Hope, Grand, and House Beautiful Magazines. Her columns and articles have won three Matrix Awards.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Introduction xi

1 The TAO of Divorce 1

Part I Your Take

2 Laying the Groundwork for Transformation 15

3 Taking Stock 29

4 Strengthening Your Boundaries 47

Part II Your Actions

5 Cleaning House 77

6 Getting into Alignment 97

7 Building a New Foundation 115

Part III Your Outcome

8 Growing Your New Life 135

9 Getting What You Want 151

10 Thriving with Creativity 167

Part IV Living From Your New Tao

11 Considering New Relationships 185

12 Defining Your Legacy 211

Afterword: Continuing the Journey 225

Editorial Reviews

This book—the fruitful wisdom of Tonja Weimer’s many years of experience as a coach—will give you a constructive way to make sense of the past and present, but more importantly, will give you a future. If we reap what we sow, Tonja provides you with the long lasting tools to live in the rich harvest of a new life. Welcome to the rest of your life.”

—Dr. Madhavi Nevader, lecturer in Theology, Oxford University

“Tonja Weimer is the Professional’s professional. After representing children and litigants in family court for nearly twenty years, I would recommend Tonja's book to anyone contemplating, in the middle of, or in the aftermath of divorce. Her sage advice will save the reader years of drama and heartache.”
—Dottie C. Ingram, JD, Department of Social Services, Anderson, SC

“Tonja Weimer’s work is ground-breaking. The combination of new information and seasoned wisdom, gained from her life and coaching experience, gives people what they need most at this time: hope. Those who are struggling with breakups will find effective tools and cogent insight in her new book, Thriving After Divorce: Transforming Your Life When a Relationship Ends. I highly recommend it for anyone who wants to grow a new life after the disintegrating effects of divorce.”
—Dr. Roberta Dimond, professor of psychology, College of Southern Maryland

“Tonja is a treasure. She is an outstanding writer and an incredible life coach. One of the most amazing things about her is her incredible gift of perception. In all situations, she has the ability to clearly articulate and explain what is going on in such a way; she is able to transform lives. If you are reading this, you have the good fortune of being able to gather her pearls of wisdom and flourish. Grab on with both hands, and don’t look back!”
—Amy Richmond, attorney and former client

“What a pleasure it is to read this personable, insightful, much-needed book. If you’ve gone through the divorce from hell, Tonja Weimer can help. Like a trusted, wise, caring friend, she shows how to take the high road (even if other people aren’t) and use this experience to become a stronger, clearer person. Read it and reap.”

—Sam Horn, author of Tongue Fu! and What's Holding You Back?

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