To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power
Many mendespite achieving great jobs and lifestylesfind themselves burdened with dissatisfaction, disconnection, and self-doubt. Robert Augustus Masters has helped thousands of men work through such issues, by facing their unresolved wounds and shame, bringing their head, heart, and guts into full-blooded alignment.

With To Be a Man, this acclaimed psychotherapist and relationship expert offers a groundbreaking and deeply insightful guide to masculine power and fulfillment.

In this book, readers will explore:
• How your past may be dominating your present
• Shame in its healthy and unhealthy forms, and how to make wise use of it
• How vulnerability can be a source of strength
• Emotional literacy—an essential skill for relational well-being
• Releasing sex from the obligation to make you feel better
• How to disempower your inner critic
• Bringing your shadow (whatever you’ve disowned in yourself) out of the dark
• What women need from men
• Understanding and outgrowing pornography
• Discovering the heartland of true masculine power

If you’ve read your share of popular advice on relationships and being a man—but realize on a gut level that it’s going to take some serious inner work—To Be a Man is a fantastic entry into the modern challenge of embracing a mindful, considerate, passionate, and fully embodied masculinity. Join Robert Augustus Masters to discover what’s needed to enter a manhood as strongly empowered as it is vulnerable, a manhood at home with intimate relationship and with life itself.

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To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power
Many mendespite achieving great jobs and lifestylesfind themselves burdened with dissatisfaction, disconnection, and self-doubt. Robert Augustus Masters has helped thousands of men work through such issues, by facing their unresolved wounds and shame, bringing their head, heart, and guts into full-blooded alignment.

With To Be a Man, this acclaimed psychotherapist and relationship expert offers a groundbreaking and deeply insightful guide to masculine power and fulfillment.

In this book, readers will explore:
• How your past may be dominating your present
• Shame in its healthy and unhealthy forms, and how to make wise use of it
• How vulnerability can be a source of strength
• Emotional literacy—an essential skill for relational well-being
• Releasing sex from the obligation to make you feel better
• How to disempower your inner critic
• Bringing your shadow (whatever you’ve disowned in yourself) out of the dark
• What women need from men
• Understanding and outgrowing pornography
• Discovering the heartland of true masculine power

If you’ve read your share of popular advice on relationships and being a man—but realize on a gut level that it’s going to take some serious inner work—To Be a Man is a fantastic entry into the modern challenge of embracing a mindful, considerate, passionate, and fully embodied masculinity. Join Robert Augustus Masters to discover what’s needed to enter a manhood as strongly empowered as it is vulnerable, a manhood at home with intimate relationship and with life itself.

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To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power

To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power

by Robert Augustus Masters Ph.D.
To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power

To Be a Man: A Guide to True Masculine Power

by Robert Augustus Masters Ph.D.

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Overview

Many mendespite achieving great jobs and lifestylesfind themselves burdened with dissatisfaction, disconnection, and self-doubt. Robert Augustus Masters has helped thousands of men work through such issues, by facing their unresolved wounds and shame, bringing their head, heart, and guts into full-blooded alignment.

With To Be a Man, this acclaimed psychotherapist and relationship expert offers a groundbreaking and deeply insightful guide to masculine power and fulfillment.

In this book, readers will explore:
• How your past may be dominating your present
• Shame in its healthy and unhealthy forms, and how to make wise use of it
• How vulnerability can be a source of strength
• Emotional literacy—an essential skill for relational well-being
• Releasing sex from the obligation to make you feel better
• How to disempower your inner critic
• Bringing your shadow (whatever you’ve disowned in yourself) out of the dark
• What women need from men
• Understanding and outgrowing pornography
• Discovering the heartland of true masculine power

If you’ve read your share of popular advice on relationships and being a man—but realize on a gut level that it’s going to take some serious inner work—To Be a Man is a fantastic entry into the modern challenge of embracing a mindful, considerate, passionate, and fully embodied masculinity. Join Robert Augustus Masters to discover what’s needed to enter a manhood as strongly empowered as it is vulnerable, a manhood at home with intimate relationship and with life itself.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781683641285
Publisher: Sounds True, Incorporated
Publication date: 03/01/2018
Edition description: Reprint
Pages: 320
Sales rank: 628,329
Product dimensions: 5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 1.00(d)

About the Author

Robert Augustus Masters
Robert Augustus Masters, PhD, is an integral psychotherapist, relationship expert, and spiritual teacher whose work blends the psychological and physical with the spiritual, emphasizing embodiment, emotional literacy, and the development of relational maturity. He is the author of fourteen books, including Transformation through Intimacy and Spiritual Bypassing.

Table of Contents

Introduction: True Masculine Power xiii

Softening Does Not Necessarily Mean Emasculation

Shame Left Unattended is Shame That Runs Us

Shame, Aggression, and Sex

Toward True Masculine Power

Part I Orientation and Groundwork

Chapter 1 Tarzan Must Also Weep: Manhood ReEnvisioned 3

Longing to Belong

When Power Gets Derailed

Sex as an Initiation into Manhood

Neither Rejecting nor Succumbing to the Dark Side of Male Power

Chapter 2 Navigational Pointers: Things to Consider for the Journey 15

Shame

Vulnerability

Empathy

Emotional Literacy

Turning toward Your Pain

Distinguishing between Anger and Aggression

Distinguishing Thought from Feeling

There's More to Sex than Meets the Eye

Connecting the Dots between Your Past and Present

De-Numbing

Chapter 3 Working with Shame: From Humiliation to Humility 29

Signs That Shame Is Present

Healthy and Unhealthy Expressions of Shame

Getting Better Acquainted with Your Shame

Shame and Performance

Shame and Aggression

Disempowering Your Inner Critic

How to Work with Your Shame

Chapter 4 Bringing Your Shadow Out of the Dark: Facing What You've Disowned in Yourself 45

Facing Your Shadow

Practice: Getting More Familiar with Your Shadow

Cultivating Intimacy with Your Shadow

Chapter 5 The Gift of Challenge: An Edge That Can Bring Out Your Best 55

Being at Your Edge

Cutting through Your Illusions

Challenge as a Relational Practice

Part II Power and the Modern Man: Anger, Aggression, and the Hero

Chapter 6 Fighting for Power: From Overpowering to Empowering 69

Fight Club: Meeting Masculinity in the Bare-Knuckled Raw

A Deeper Empowerment

Chapter 7 Anger: Tending the Fire… 79

Anger and Aggression Are Not the Same Thing!

Shifting from Aggression to Healthy Anger

Reactive Anger

Being Vulnerable in Your Anger

Four Approaches to Working with Anger

Practice: Anger-In, Anger-Out. Mindfully Held Anger, and Heart-Anger

Chapter 8 Aggression Unveiled: When You Shift into Attack Mode… 95

Aggression as Instinct

Aggression as Social Construction

The Many Faces of Aggression

Antidotes to Aggression

An Integrative View of Aggression

Chapter 9 Violence: The Brass Knuckles of Aggression… 109

A History of Violence

How We Relate to Our Violence

The Many Faces of War

Working with Violence

Chapter 10 The Hero: Courage, Pride, and Embodying Your Natural Heroism… 125

Heroism in Avatar: A Full-Blooded Awakening

Courage: Having the Heart to Persist Regardless of Your Fear

Keeping a Compassionate Eye on Your Pride

The Presence and Evolution of the Hero

The Anti-Hero

The Hero as Human

Part III Relational Intimacy

Chapter 11 Clearing the Relationship Hurdle: Some Preparatory Considerations 147

The Vulnerability and Challenges of Relating

Chapter 12 Relational Intimacy for Men: Relationship as a Sanctuary for Transforming Your Life 153

Essential Steps to Authentic Intimacy

Chapter 13 Deep Communication: When Dynamic Receptivity and Expression Work Together 165

The Way Back to Connection Deep Listening

Chapter 14 Fighting for the Relationship: Transitioning to Shared Power 173

Chapter 15 What Women Need from Men: An Invitation to Be a Full Partner 177

Chapter 16 Gay Men: Outsiders No Longer 185

Chapter 17 Deep Connection: Foundational Practices for Intimate Relationship 193

Part IV Sex

Chapter 18 Eros Illuminated: An Introductory Look at Sexuality 201

Chapter 19 Sex Uncovered: Freeing Your Sexuality from the Obligation to Make You Feel Better 205

The Selling of Sex

The Language of Sex

Bringing Sex Out of the Closet

Chapter 20 Eroticitis: Obsessive or Compulsive Interest in Sexual Activity and Possibility 213

Eroticitis and Sexual Excitation

Sex without Eroticitis

Chapter 21 Eroticizing Our Wounds; Acting Out Old Hurt Through Sexual Channels 217

Why the Eroticizing of Our Wounds Gets Little Recognition

How the Eroticizing of Our Unresolved Hurt Happens

What Our Sexual Fantasies Dramatize

Chapter 22 Pornography Unplugged: Understanding and Outgrowing Porn 225

Pornography Illuminated

The Price of Being Possessed by a Pornographic Mindset

Facing the Pain That Drives Us toward Pornography

Outgrowing Pornography

Chapter 23 Taking Charge of Your Charge: Responsibility and Sexual Arousal 235

Chapter 24 The Penis: A Sensitive Topic 241

Chapter 25 Breasts: Mammary Mania 247

How the Original Appeal of Breasts Gets Eroticized

When Breast Fantasies Are Stripped of Their Eroticism

Moving beyond Breast Fixation

Chapter 26 Fully Facing Rape 257

Do All Men Have an Inner Rapist?

The Issue of Consent

Cutting the Ties to Rape

Chapter 27 Ecstatic Intimacy in the Raw: Awakened Sex 269

Part V Wrapping Up

Chapter 28 Full-Spectrum Healing: Bringing Together All That You Are 275

When Your Past Occupies Your Present

Integrating Body, Mind, Emotion, Psyche, and Spirituality

Embodying Wholeness

Chapter 29 The Passage to Authentic Manhood: Your Flaws No Longer in the Way 285

Appendix Having a Conscious Rant 287

Acknowledgments 289

About the Author 291

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