Table of Contents
Acknowledgments ix
List of Illustrations and Tables xi
Introduction: Living Peaceably with All xiii
Part 1 Basic Skills in Compassionate Communication
1 By the Renewal of Your Mind: Transforming Church Conflict 2
2 Rooted and Grounded in Love: The Beauty of Human Needs 20
3 Search Me and Know My Heart: Identifying and Expressing Feelings 38
4 Do Not Judge: Making Observations and Requests 56
Part 2 Skill Sets: Empathy, Self-Empathy, and Honesty
5 God's Compassion Is over All: Listening with an Open Heart 78
6 Loving Your Neighbor as Yourself: The Art of Self-Empathy 96
7 Speaking the Truth in Love: Honest Expression 116
Part 3 Advanced Skill Sets in Compassionate Communication
8 Blessed Are Those Who Mourn: The Path of Healing 136
9 Be of the Same Mind: Staying in Dialogue 154
10 Strive for God's Kingdom: Transforming Conflict in Church-Wide Crises 174
Conclusion: Learning the Secret of Contentment 196
Appendixes
Appendix 1 Feelings Inventory 203
Appendix 2 Needs Inventory 207
Appendix 3 Conflict Intensity Chart 209
Notes 217
Bibliography 235
Index of Scripture 239
Index of Subjects 241