Walking Through Anger: A New Design for Confronting Conflict in an Emotionally Charged World

by Christian Conte Ph.D.

Overview

Discover a compassion-based method for defusing conflict and creating better relationships in every area of your life
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How do you respond to anger—in yourself or others? Do you fight fire with fire, or run for cover? Dr. Christian Conte created “Yield Theory” as a way to meet conflict without aggression or submissiveness through the practice of compassionate listening, de-escalation, and genuine communication. With Walking Through Anger, he teaches you this revolutionary model for dealing with anger and inflamed emotions in an increasingly divisive world. Combining Buddhist wisdom, neuroscience, and Dr. Conte’s hands-on experience as one of today’s top anger management therapists, he offers powerful tools for resolving conflict in a way that promotes deeper connection and understanding.
 
Yield Theory is a form of radical self-compassion that lets you circumvent the brain’s fight-or-flight responses in yourself and the person you’re talking to. With an accessible style and practical guidance, Dr. Conte takes you through the seven steps of this potent method: acceptance, authenticity, conscious education, creativity, elimination of shame, mindfulness, and non-attachment. “Although Yield Theory has proven to be an effective tool for therapists and counselors,” says Dr. Conte, “it’s ultimately a way of life. In my experience, anyone from career criminals to parents can learn this approach to transform the way we understand each other—and our true Selves.”

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781683643289
Publisher:	Sounds True, Incorporated
Publication date:	10/29/2019
Sold by:	Macmillan
Format:	eBook
Pages:	232
File size:	2 MB

About the Author

Christian Conte
Christian Conte, PhD, is a licensed professional counselor, a certified Domestic Violence Counselor, and a Level V (highest level) Anger Management Specialist from the National Anger Management Association. He is co-host of USA Network’s The Secret Life of Kids and is a frequent guest on many national and local programs, including Good Day, ESPN Radio, and CBS’s KDKA. His Yield Theory training has generated successful results for violent criminals, family therapy, and professional athletes. Visit drchristianconte.com.

Table of Contents

Foreword John Wetzel ix

Foreword Ron Potter-Efron xi

Introduction 1

1 Yield Theory

Compassion as the Cornerstone of Communication 9

2 How Yield Theory Works

Listen, Validate, Explore Options 19

3 Acceptance

Meeting Others Where They Are 37

4 Authenticity

Operating from Essence 49

5 Compassion

Overcoming Anger 67

6 Nonattachment

Letting Go of Ego 83

7 Conscious Education

Plato's Cave and the Expansion of Understanding 105

8 Creativity

Beyond One-Size-Fits-All Problem Solving 127

9 Mindfulness

Being in the Conflict 147

10 The Five Errors of Communication

What Not to Do! 171

Epilogue 189

Acknowledgments 191

Appendix A Essentials of Yield Theory 193

Appendix B Teaching Tales 197

About the Author 211

Editorial Reviews

Highly recommended! Dr. Conte engagingly offers an evolved and insightful perspective on how to effectively deal with one of the most significant issues of our time. If you are interested in an authentic solution to anger and conflict in today’s world—read this book."
—Rich Pfeiffer, MDiv, PhD, author of Anger Management Workbook and Curriculum, president of the National Anger Management Association (NAMA)

“In this truly excellent self-help book, Dr. Christian Conte teaches us that rather than ignoring conflict and anger, the solution is to “walk through” and experience them. In ten clear and engrossing chapters, he offers both a powerful philosophy by which to live life and an evidence-based set of procedures to help you do so. His Yield Theory approach to authentically listening to others with compassion, validating their thoughts and feelings, and exploring options for problem resolution is the cornerstone of conflict reduction and self-improvement. Read this book and you will surely move forward towards personal happiness.”

—Howard Kassinove, PhD, ABPP, author of Anger Management: The Complete Treatment Guide for Practitioners and coauthor of Anger Management for Everyone: Seven Proven Ways to Control Anger and Live a Happier Life

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