What to Do When It's Not Fair: A Kid's Guide to Handling Envy and Jealousy

by Jacqueline B. Toner, Claire A. B. Freeland, David Thompson (Illustrator)

Overview

Gold Medal, 2013 Mom's Choice Awards

Have you ever noticed how pirates use a spyglass to focus in on other ships or land in the distance? While they focus in on small things in the distance, they miss seeing other things around them. Sometimes they miss having fun. Sometimes they miss the beautiful treasure they already have!
 
Just like a pirate using a spyglass, kids may focus in on one thing that they want, and not notice all the good things they already have. If you’re a kid who thinks “it’s not fair,” this book is for you!
 
What to Do When It’s Not Fair guides children and their parents through the difficult emotion of envy and jealousy using strategies and techniques based on a cognitive-behavioralprinciples. This interactive self-help book is the complete resource for educating, motivating, and empowering children to cope with envy—so they can sail the high seas with pleasure!

This book is part of the Magination Press What-to-Do Guides for Kids® series and includes an “Introduction to Parents and Caregivers.” What-to-Guides for Kids® are interactive self-help books designed to guide 6–12 year olds and their parents through the cognitive-behavioral techniques most often used in the treatment of various psychological concerns. Engaging, encouraging, and easy to follow, these books educate, motivate, and empower children to work towards change.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781433839016
Publisher:	American Psychological Association
Publication date:	07/15/2021
Series:	What to Do Guides for Kids Series
Sold by:	Barnes & Noble
Format:	eBook
Pages:	96
File size:	5 MB
Age Range:	6 - 12 Years

About the Author

Claire A. B. Freeland, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice, working for more than thirty-five years with youth and their families. Interested in bringing the general principles of cognitive–behavioral therapy to families everywhere, she is the co-author of What to Do When It's Not Fair, What to Do When Mistakes Make You Quake, and What to Do When You Feel Too Shy. She lives with her husband in Baltimore. They have two grown children. Visit Dr. Freeland at www.clairefreelandphd.com

Jacqueline B. Toner, PhD, is the co-author of several self-help books. She has been in private practice working with children, teens, and families for over thirty years. Dr. Toner earned her PhD from the University of Virginia and completed two post-doctoral programs (in pediatric psychology and adolescent medicine) at the University of Maryland Medical School. Dr. Toner also serves as lead facilitator and consultant on a project on medical ethics led by Johns Hopkins Hospital and the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. She is the mother of three grown children and lives with her husband in Baltimore.

David Thompson, illustrator of What to Do When It's Not Fair, is a third-generation artist living in Baltimore, Maryland, with his wife and two daughters. 
Claire A. B. Freeland, PhD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice, working for more than thirty-five years with youth and their families. Interested in bringing the general principles of cognitive–behavioral therapy to families everywhere, she is the co-author of What to Do When It's Not Fair, What to Do When Mistakes Make You Quake, and What to Do When You Feel Too Shy. She lives with her husband in Baltimore. They have two grown children. Visit Dr. Freeland at www.clairefreelandphd.com

Jacqueline B. Toner, PhD, is the co-author of several self-help books. She has been in private practice working with children, teens, and families for over thirty years. Dr. Toner earned her PhD from the University of Virginia and completed two post-doctoral programs (in pediatric psychology and adolescent medicine) at the University of Maryland Medical School. Dr. Toner also serves as lead facilitator and consultant on a project on medical ethics led by Johns Hopkins Hospital and the University of Pittsburgh Medical Center. She is the mother of three grown children and lives with her husband in Baltimore.

David Thompson, illustrator of What to Do When It's Not Fair, is a third-generation artist living in Baltimore, Maryland, with his wife and two daughters. 

Table of Contents

Introduction to Parents and Caregivers
Chapter One: Yo! Ho! Ho!
Chapter Two: Put Down Your Spyglass
Chapter Three: Steer Your Ship
Chapter Four: Keep Your Ship Sailing
Chapter Five: Pull Up That Anchor
Chapter Six: Lighten Your Load
Chapter Seven: When Other People Envy You
Chapter Eight: All About You
Chapter Nine: Taking Care of Yourself
Chapter Ten: You Can Do It
 

Editorial Reviews

Gold Medal, 2013 Mom's Choice Awards

"The black-and-white illustrations and spot-on text in the thought and speech bubbles combine to create an appealing volume. The author successfully incorporates examples that will ring true with the intended audience, making this book valuable for home and school use."—School Library Journal

"This particular book is a wonderful workbook that parents can use with their child to think through and work through those strong emotions."—LetsTalkKidsHealth.org

From the Publisher

09/01/2013
Gr 1–4—This kid-friendly text uses pirates to help readers understand the concepts of envy and jealousy. The book begins with an introduction for parents and caregivers and has 10 chapters designed to help children comprehend the different faces of these emotions. For example, "Lighten Your Load" explains the concept of "every time" thoughts ("Every time there is an award Joe gets it") and encourages youngsters to lighten their loads by changing their thoughts to "This Time" thoughts ("Mrs. Jones thinks Joe did a great job today"). The text does not belittle or minimize the reality of these feelings. Activities appear in every chapter and include making a spyglass, creating a list of envy triggers, and practicing yoga to release stress. The black-and-white illustrations and spot-on text in the thought and speech bubbles combine to create an appealing volume. The author successfully incorporates examples that will ring true with the intended audience, making this book valuable for home and school use.—Stephanie Farnlacher, Trace Crossings Elementary School, Hoover, AL

School Library Journal