When Aidan Became a Brother

by Kyle Lukoff, Kaylani Juanita (Illustrator)

Overview

Stonewall Book Award Winner - American Library Association (ALA)

This sweet and groundbreaking picture book, winner of the 2020 Stonewall Book Award, celebrates the changes in a transgender boy's life, from his initial coming-out to becoming a big brother.

When Aidan was born, everyone thought he was a girl. His parents gave him a pretty name, his room looked like a girl's room, and he wore clothes that other girls liked wearing. After he realized he was a trans boy, Aidan and his parents fixed the parts of life that didn't fit anymore, and he settled happily into his new life.

Then Mom and Dad announce that they're going to have another baby, and Aidan wants to do everything he can to make things right for his new sibling from the beginning—from choosing the perfect name to creating a beautiful room to picking out the cutest onesie. But what does "making things right" actually mean? And what happens if he messes up? With a little help, Aidan comes to understand that mistakes can be fixed with honesty and communication, and that he already knows the most important thing about being a big brother: how to love with his whole self.

When Aidan Became a Brother is a heartwarming book that will resonate with transgender children, reassure any child concerned about becoming an older sibling, and celebrate the many transitions a family can experience.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781620148372
Publisher:	Lee & Low Books
Publication date:	06/04/2019
Pages:	32
Sales rank:	93,061
Product dimensions:	9.10(w) x 10.20(h) x 0.60(d)
Age Range:	5 - 8 Years

About the Author

Kyle Lukoff is the author of Too Bright to See, winner of a Newbery Honor; another middle-grade novel, Different Kinds of Fruit; and many picture books and early readers, including the Max and Friends series. A longtime bookseller and children's librarian, he now writes full-time from his home in Philadelphia. You can find him on the web at kylelukoff.com and on Twitter at @kylelukoff.

Kaylani Juanita describes her mission as an artist as “supporting the stories of the underrepresented, and creating new ways for people to imagine themselves.” Her work has appeared at the Society of Illustrators and on the BBC website, as well as in her first picture book, Ta-Da!, written by Kathy Ellen Davis. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area. Look for her online at kaylanijuanita.com and @kaylanijuanita on Twitter and Instagram.

Editorial Reviews

★ 04/15/2019

Everyone thought Aidan was a girl when he was born, but Aidan knows that “he was really another kind of boy.” “He felt like his room belonged to someone else. And he always ripped or stained his clothes accidentally-on-purpose.” Finally, Aidan cuts his hair short, dons clothes that suit him better, and tells his parents (“It took everyone some time to adjust, and they learned a lot from other families with transgender kids like him”). #OwnVoices author Lukoff (A Storytelling of Ravens) writes with sensitivity and candor as Aidan takes his first steps toward claiming his identity. When his mother is expecting another child, Aidan excitedly prepares for his big brother role and seeks to welcome his sibling in a way that “could fit this new person no matter who they grew up to be.” Juanita (Ta-Da!) illustrates with fine ink outlines and loose patterns, filling Aidan’s revamped bedroom with cozy fabrics, and populating a family baby shower with balloons that spell out an inclusive, triumphant sign: “it’s a baby.” The creators’ exploration of one transgender child’s experience emphasizes the importance of learning “how to love someone for exactly who they are.” Ages 5–6. (June)

Publishers Weekly

"A thoughtful, delightfully illustrated book about being seen, heard, and loved." — Jacqueline Woodson, MacArthur Fellow & award-winning author

"This is the best of what picture books can be, melding powerful storytelling with an awareness of what quality representation can do for readers." — Alex Gino, author of Melissa and You Don't Know Everything, Jilly P!

* "A trans man himself, Lukoff writes with authority and a loving spirit. Juanita's cheerful digital illustrations are a nicely harmonious match with the text, expanding it in meaningful ways. Together, the text and pictures create a heartfelt celebration of love that will be an ideal selection for trans children and for any who are expecting a new sibling." — Booklist, starred review

* "Joyful and affirming, Aidan's story is the first of its kind among books for welcoming a new baby." — Kirkus Reviews, starred review

* "Lukoff writes with sensitivity and candor as Aidan takes his first steps toward claiming his identity. . . The creators' exploration of one transgender child's experience emphasizes the importance of learning 'how to love someone for exactly who they are.'" — Publishers Weekly, starred review

* "Lukoff (himself a transgender man) nails the nuances of Aidan's conflict, providing believable reassurance through Aidan's mom, who offers support specific to her son's experience and proves universally calming advice. . . A much-needed and appealing addition to the picture book canon; both emotionally and visually satisfying." — School Library Journal, starred review

"Lukoff 's straightforward approach to his character's gender transition rings with authenticity, and the acknowledgment that 'it took everyone some time to adjust' is honest and supportive. . . Lukoff puts his child-centered story and character ahead of message; the word transgender is used only once, and gender not at all. Celebrating the family's close, affirming relationship, Juanita's vibrant digitally rendered illustrations take their cues from the text, which models how to avoid the male/female binary." — The Horn Book

Stonewall Book Award Winner - American Library Association (ALA)

ALSC Notable Children's Books - American Library Association (ALA)
Best Books - Kirkus Reviews
Best Books of the Year - School Library Journal
Best Children's & Young Adult Books of the Year - Bank Street College of Education
Best Children's Books of the Year - Bank Street College of Education
CCBC Choices - Cooperative Children's Book Center (CCBC)
Charlotte Huck Award for Fiction Honor - National Council of Teachers of English (NCTE)
Editors' Choice - Booklist
Great Lakes Great Books Award Honor - Michigan Reading Association
Rainbow Book List - American Library Association (ALA)
White Raven Selection - International Youth Library

From the Publisher

★ 06/01/2019

PreS-Gr 2—This well-illustrated and sweet family tale centers on the experiences of a transgender boy. Like Erica Silverman's Jack (not Jackie), this title portrays parental support and love between siblings. In this story, Aidan has not yet met the baby who will be his sibling, and that's what has him worried. Will the baby like sea horse or penguin-themed outfits better? If Aidan helps paint the nursery to look like the sky, maybe his new sibling won't ever feel trapped the way Aidan did in his old room, before his parents knew he was a boy. Aidan does everything he can to prepare (short of accepting his dad's offer to practice changing diapers), but his excitement shifts to anxiety. What if he's making mistakes and the baby also ends up feeling misunderstood? Lukoff (himself a transgender man) nails the nuances of Aidan's conflict, providing believable reassurance through Aidan's mom, who offers support specific to her son's experience and proves universally calming advice: "We made some mistakes but you helped us fix them….This baby is lucky to have you and so are we." Juanita's playful watercolors make great use of clothing patterns and nature motifs, airily fashioning the sunny world of Aidan's mostly brown-skinned family and their friends, while framing curious or intrusive strangers from a child's-eye view. VERDICT A much-needed and appealing addition to the picture book canon; both emotionally and visually satisfying.—Miriam DesHarnais, Towson University, MD

School Library Journal

★ 2019-03-17
A transgender boy anticipates his new job as a big brother by helping his parents prepare for his baby sibling's arrival.

Aidan "felt trapped" in his old name, clothes, and room before he told his parents "what he knew about himself." Some girls never wore dresses, "but Aidan didn't feel like any kind of girl" because he was "another kind of boy." With his parents' support, he embraces his identity and takes on a new, important role, becoming a big brother. More than anything, he wants the baby to feel loved and understood. This picture book sets a new standard of excellence in transgender representation by centering the feelings of Aidan, a biracial (black and South Asian) transgender boy. Juanita's (Ta-Da!, 2018) digital illustrations have the look of ink and watercolor, and they bring the love in Aidan's family to life. Bright, mixed patterns in Aidan's clothes capture the vibrancy of his personality and his excitement to welcome a baby into the family. Lukoff (A Storytelling of Ravens, 2018) breaks away from binary language and stereotypical gender roles, highlighting within the text and in an author's note that there is more than one way to be a person of any gender. The hopeful message at the end emphasizes love and the importance of staying open to learning.

Joyful and affirming, Aidan's story is the first of its kind among books for welcoming a new baby. (Picture book. 3-7)

Kirkus Reviews