★ 04/06/2015
Psychotherapist Grover pulls no punches in this parenting manual, labeling out-of-control children and teens as bullies and identifying the parents they mistreat as victims. He categorizes child bullying styles (defiant, manipulative, anxious) and unproductive parenting styles (guilty, anxious, fix-everything). He also provides a helpful map of the interactions that can lead to the escalation of bullying, from developmentally normal behaviors like boundary-testing to crisis situations such as illness, divorce, and unrecognized learning issues. Grover breaks down the basics of healthy emotional development, including self-esteem, structure, and role models. He challenges parents to better communicate with their children while also practicing improved self-care and examining their own family histories, mental landscapes, and coping mechanisms. Overall, Grover’s empowering, motivating approach is highly compassionate to suffering, burnt-out parents without letting them off the hook for becoming self-aware adults who can make consciously better choices for themselves and their children. Agent: Carol Mann, Carol Mann Agency. (June)
If you want to fix your rebellious and disrespectful child, you need to start by fixing yourself.
Are your kids pummeling you with demands and bossing you around with impunity? Have your once-precious preschoolers become rebellious, entitled, and disrespectful to authority? While there are plenty of so-called experts who might try to validate your convictions that you have done all you can to “fix” your “difficult” children, the hard truth is, they're not doing you any favors by placing the responsibility solely on your children. Parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors.
In*When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume their leadership roles once again. Parents will discover:
- Three common bullying styles used by kids
- Parenting styles that contribute to power balances
- Critical testing periods in a child's development
- Coping mechanisms that backfire
- Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario
The solution to any problem begins with learning to control what you can control. In parenting, you've already learned how impossible it is to control your kids. Begin by controlling you!
If you want to fix your rebellious and disrespectful child, you need to start by fixing yourself.
Are your kids pummeling you with demands and bossing you around with impunity? Have your once-precious preschoolers become rebellious, entitled, and disrespectful to authority? While there are plenty of so-called experts who might try to validate your convictions that you have done all you can to “fix” your “difficult” children, the hard truth is, they're not doing you any favors by placing the responsibility solely on your children. Parenting struggles rarely originate from just one side. Instead, they erupt at the volatile intersection of a child's personality with a parent's own insecurities and behaviors.
In*When Kids Call the Shots, therapist and parenting expert Sean Grover untangles the forces driving family dysfunction, and helps parents assume their leadership roles once again. Parents will discover:
- Three common bullying styles used by kids
- Parenting styles that contribute to power balances
- Critical testing periods in a child's development
- Coping mechanisms that backfire
- Personalized plans for calmly exerting authority in any scenario
The solution to any problem begins with learning to control what you can control. In parenting, you've already learned how impossible it is to control your kids. Begin by controlling you!
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When Kids Call the Shots: How to Seize Control from Your Darling Bully -- and Enjoy Being a Parent Again
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