When Life Hits Hard: How to Transcend Grief, Crisis, and Loss with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy

by Russ Harris

Overview

Practical skills grounded in acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) to help you bounce back when life knocks you down.

Whether it’s the loss of a loved one or a job, the end of a relationship, a pandemic, or a natural disaster—nothing really prepares us for those moments when life hits hard and turns our world upside down. The good news is that you can move forward. There are tools you can use to find your way back from despair and live a fulfilling life.

In this candid self-help guide, psychotherapist Russ Harris offers powerful and doable skills grounded in evidence-based ACT to help you recover from grief, loss, and crisis; transcend your pain and suffering; and build a rich and meaningful life—even in the face of adversity. You’ll also find tools to help you deal with painful memories, create your own healing “grief rituals,” and transform difficult emotions into unexpected allies.

Finally, you’ll learn how mindfulness and self-compassion can help keep you grounded, even when it seems like your world is in free fall. If you’re ready to start building the resilience needed to heal from loss or thrive in the face adversity, this guide will show you how to get there, one step at a time.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9781684039012
Publisher:	New Harbinger Publications
Publication date:	08/01/2021
Pages:	224
Sales rank:	417,573
Product dimensions:	6.00(w) x 7.90(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Russ Harris is an internationally acclaimed acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) trainer, and author of the best-selling ACT-based self-help book, The Happiness Trap, which has sold more than one million copies and been published in thirty languages. He is widely renowned for his ability to teach ACT in a way that is simple, clear, and fun—yet extremely practical.

Table of Contents

Part 1 Regroup

1 When Life Hurts 3

2 First Things First 11

3 Kind Words 19

4 Drop the Struggle 31

5 When Storms Arise 39

6 Psychological Smog 51

7 Notice and Name 63

8 Live and Let Be 71

9 Our Allies Within 77

10 A Curious Look 85

11 A Kind Hand 97

12 When Memories Hurt 109

Part 2 Rebuild

13 Making Life Meaningful 121

14 One Small Step 137

15 The Challenge Formula 145

16 The Prison of Resentment 153

17 It's Never Too Late 157

18 Breaking Bad Habits 161

Part 3 Revitalize

19 The Stage Show of Life 175

20 The Full Experience 183

21 Joy and Sorrow 189

Appendices

A Neutralization 197

B Mindfulness of the Breath 203

C Goal Setting 205

Resources 211

Acknowledgments 214

Interviews

Harris resides in in Melbourne, Australia.

Editorial Reviews

Personal and practical, When Life Hits Hard offers concrete, science-based strategies to help you navigate life’s most turbulent waters—and does so in a way that is approachable and heartfelt. Reading it is like getting advice from your wisest, most down-to-earth friend if that friend also happened to have a PhD in coping with grief and loss. While nothing may be able to prepare us for life’s most painful losses and identity-shattering events, there are things that can help guide us through the aftermath—this book is definitely one of them.”
—Jenna LeJeune, PhD, licensed psychologist, affiliate faculty at Oregon Health and Sciences University, and coauthor of Values in Therapy

Jenna LeJeune

This book is a true gem. Not only is it packed with practical and manageable suggestions on how to cope with crisis, loss, and grief; it takes you through an easy-to-read, at times deeply personal, down-to-earth, compassionate, and loving journey too. Read this book. You are going to need it when life hits hard.”
—Rikke Kjelgaard, psychologist, author, and ACT trainer

Rikke Kjelgaard

When Life Hits Hard is a lovely book for clients and clinicians alike. Harris’s writing voice conveys deep empathy and compassion for the universal pain and suffering that comes with being human, and offers simple, patient, and practical tools to help guide the reader along in whatever difficult journey he or she may be travelling.”
—Susan M. McCurry, PhD, author of When a Family Member Has Dementia, and research professor at the University of Washington School of Nursing

Susan M. McCurry

When Life Hits Hard is a vital resource—a practical book for those who wish to rebuild a meaningful life after devastating loss, illuminated by Russ’s warm and friendly voice. First, Russ will show you how to gradually learn to deal more effectively with loss in a way that is as effective as it is counterintuitive: unhooking from unhelpful thoughts and making kind space for painful emotions. Next, Russ will show you how to rebuild a valued life—a life richer in depth and meaning—which stands as a living monument to what most matters to you and yours.”
—Benjamin Schoendorff, MA, MSc, director of the Contextual Psychology Institute in Montreal, QC, Canada; coeditor of The ACT Matrix; and coauthor of The ACT Practitioner’s Guide to the Science of Compassion

Benjamin Schoendorff

This book will be a vital companion for anyone struggling with the pain of loss. It offers hope and a solid, evidence-based pathway through life’s hardships. Russ Harris writes from the heart with a wonderful balance of wisdom and gentleness, translating key processes from the latest behavioral science into everyday language and practical tools. You’ll learn how to embrace your pain with courage and compassion, and how to live well and thrive in the face of adversity. I cannot recommend this book enough and I will be encouraging my clients, relatives, and friends to get a copy.”
—Mike Sinclair, DPSych, clinical director at City Psychology Group, and coauthor of Mindfulness for Busy People, The Little ACT Workbook, The Little Depression Workbook, and The Little Anxiety Workbook

Mike Sinclair

Russ Harris is a master of helping us apply the life-changing power of acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) in our day-to-day lives, and When Life Hits Hard is no exception. This clear, well-written, and timely book gently guides us to a deep understanding of how to work effectively with life’s most difficult experiences. Lots of us are struggling right now. Filled with clear explanations, real-world vignettes, and pragmatic suggestions, this book will help.”
—Russell Kolts, PhD, professor at Eastern Washington University, and author of CFT Made Simple and The Compassionate-Mind Guide to Managing Your Anger

Russell Kolts

It’s a difficult thing to communicate complex ideas in a way that people can easily understand and relate to. It’s particularly difficult when addressing a subject as significant as grief and loss. Russ Harris is an author who has this ability in spades, and he covers how to manage some of the most painful experiences we can have in his usual accessible style. This book is refreshingly honest and validating about the pain of loss, as well as being very useful in offering an evidence-based set of tools for charting a way through that pain.”
—Richard Bennett, ClinPsyD, clinical psychologist, lecturer in the Centre for Applied Psychology at the University of Birmingham, and coauthor of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Self-Esteem

Richard Bennett