Table of Contents
Introduction Nan Bauer-Maglin 1
Part I Prologue-Expectant Widows
What We Were Afraid Of: A Memoir Alice Goode-Elman 17
The Queen Has Spoken Kelli Dunham 29
Living a Life Penelope Dugan 33
Preparing for the Journey through Grief Melanie K. Finney 41
Deserted/Dumped for a Second Time Nan Bauer-Maglin 48
From Pre-Widow to Merry Widow Ellen Schrecker 52
Part II Recent Widows
A Widow's Notes: The First Six Months Nan Bauer-Maglin 65
My Other Half Raquel Ramkhelawan Interviewed Maxine Marshall 72
The Cloak Lauren Vanett 78
"The Most Precious Fit": A Dialogue with C. S. Lewis's A Grief Observed Alice Derry 88
On Grief Michele Neff Hernandez 98
Wedding Rings Elisa Clarke Wadham 103
The Afterlife of an Archive Deborah G. Kaplan 110
A Healing Garden P. C. Moorehead 115
You See, I Told You So! Mimi Schwartz 117
Yes, I Miss My Husband, but I'm Also Discovering the Pleasures of Living Alone Anne Bernays 120
Part III Long-Time Widows
The Grief Convention Edie Butler 127
10 Scary Things I Have Done since My Husband Died Debby Mayer 133
Being Alone Sonia Jaffe Bobbins 140
Re-creating My Life Barbara E. Harwell 143
Becoming Maggie Maggie Madagame 149
Who I Am Revealed Roni Sherman Ramos 155
Losing the Artist, Living with His Art Doris Friedensohn 159
After the Aftermath Nancy H. Womack 168
Three Poems Joan Michelson 170
Part IV Unique Takes or Digging Deeper
Widow-to-Widow Tracy Milcendeau Merle Froschl Andrea Hirshman Molly McEneny Heather Slawecki 175
Parenting as a Widow Kathleen Fordyce 185
Memories of a Widow's Daughter Patricia Life 190
Lost Acts… Nancy Shamban 199
Dealing with Double Loss: Husband and Hearing Susanne Braham 204
Synchronicity and the Secular Mind Alice Radosh 211
Mourning American-Style Parvin Hajizadeh 216
The Rocks That Bind Jean Y. Leung 219
On Not Feeling Sad Joan Gussow 224
What They Don't Tell You Kathryn Temple 229
Nine Things Resilient People Do after Losing a Spouse or Partner Carrie L. West 235
Make Lemonade?! Lise Menn 243
Part V Epilogue
The Missing Vow Christine Silverstein 255
Acknowledgments 259
Artist's Statement Tara Sabharwal 261
Notes on Contributors 263