With a Little Help from Our Friends: Creating Community as We Grow Older

by Beth Baker

Overview

In this book, an award-winning journalist tells the story of people devising innovative ways to live as they approach retirement, options that ensure they are surrounded by a circle of friends, family, and neighbors. Based on visits and interviews at many communities around the country, Beth Baker weaves a rich tapestry of grassroots alternatives, some of them surprisingly affordable:

• a mobile home cooperative in small-town Oregon
• a senior artists colony in Los Angeles
• neighbors helping neighbors in "Villages" or "naturally occurring retirement communities"
• intentional cohousing communities
• best friends moving in together
• multigenerational families that balance togetherness and privacy
• niche communities including such diverse groups as retired postal workers, gays and lesbians, and Zen Buddhists

Drawing on new research showing the importance of social support to healthy aging and the risks associated with loneliness and isolation, the author encourages the reader to plan for a future with strong connections. Baker explores whether individuals in declining health can really stay rooted in their communities through the end of life and concludes by examining the challenge of expanding the home-care workforce and the potential of new technologies like webcams and assistive robots.

This book is the recipient of the annual Norman L. and Roselea J. Goldberg Prize for the best project in the area of medicine.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780826519870
Publisher:	Vanderbilt University Press
Publication date:	05/05/2014
Pages:	256
Product dimensions:	6.10(w) x 9.00(h) x 0.90(d)

About the Author

A former hospital worker herself, Beth Baker is a freelance journalist and a regular contributor to the Washington Post Health Section and the AARP Bulletin. Baker is the winner of two Gold National Mature Media Awards for her reporting on aging.

Table of Contents

Acknowledgments ix

Prologue: The Oncoming Train 1

Part I A Time like No Other

1 The End of Denial: Taking Charge of How We Live 7

2 Interdependence: Reconsidering "Aging in Place" 19

Part II A Wealth of Options

3 The Village: Neighbors Helping Neighbors 29

4 Cohousing: Creating Community from the Ground Up 40

5 Cooperatives: Living Affordably 56

6 NORCs: Retiring Naturally 67

7 Community Without Walls: Weaving a Web of Friendship 86

8 Generations of Hope: Living Well by Doing Good 99

9 Affinity Groups: Settling with Your Tribe 109

10 House sharing: Finding Companionship with Friends-or Strangers 131

11 The New Family: Balancing Togetherness and Privacy 144

Part III Getting from Here to There

12 Design for Life: Building Homes and Neighborhoods that Serve Us 159

13 How Will We Pay?: Planning for the Unknown 170

14 Who Will Help Us?: Advocating for Direct Care Workers 178

15 Is There a Robot in Your Future?: Accepting Non-Human Help 186

16 "What If?": Mapping Our Plan B 197

Epilogue 217

Appendix A Glossary of Alternative Models 219

Appendix B Questions to Help Guide Our Choices 221

Notes 223

Index 233

Editorial Reviews

"Beth Baker courageously and empathetically asks the question many Baby Boomers avoid: How will we make it through our aging years with dignity, independence and pleasure? The answers she receives from folks around the US, straight and LGBT, reassure us that there are already promising paths being carved."
—Michele Kort, Senior Editor, Ms. Magazine

"[Baker] provides a well-informed, thoughtful, intelligent, and insightful analysis of why all of us should not be afraid to look forward into our future and make critical decisions now about how we wish to live our lives in old age. [...] She has done a masterful job of telling stories that have integrated her relationship with her interviewees into the larger picture of how and why housing systems and facilities for older adults are constructed and the social and political policies that may or may not exist to assist persons living into old age. [...] Baker's book provides something for everyone, and then some."
—PsycCRITIQUES, American Psychological Association

"With a Little Help from Our Friends is a thoughtful and clear-eyed look at the opportunities and challenges of aging in community. Every Baby Boomer who wants to 'age in place' should read this book. So should their children."
—Howard Gleckman, author of Caring for Our Parents, Resident Fellow, the Urban Institute

"The audience for this must-read book is [baby] boomers—and everyone else."
—Library Journal

"With a Little Help from Our Friends is timely and instructive. By weaving together stories about nine ways to think about community building, Beth Baker helps Boomers imagine alternatives as they prepare for living arrangements more permanent than Woodstock and less scary than where their (grand)parents ended up."
—W. Andrew Achenbaum, Deputy Director of the Consortium on Aging at the University of Texas Medical School

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