Your Struggling Child: A Guide to Diagnosing, Understanding, and Advocating for Your Child with Learning, Behavior, or Emotional Problems

by Robert F. Newby PhD, Lynn Sonberg

Overview

Here is a practical, compassionate book parents can turn to when they first recognize that their child has a "problem" –– but aren't sure what it is or where to seek help.

At this very moment, millions of children across the U.S. are falling behind in school, acting out impulsively at home, having problems making friends, suffering dramatic mood swings, and more. Their parents are frustrated and afraid, aware that something's wrong, but not sure where to turn for help or how to cope with their child's behavior. "Is it a learning disorder, ADHD, anxiety disorder, or some combination?" they wonder. "Are these moods and behaviors normal or abnormal? Will my child outgrow them?"

This book by a noted neuropsychologist explains the different and overlapping symptoms of learning, mood, and behavior disorders and guides parents in getting the right diagnosis and treatment. Dr. Newby demystifies the process and empowers parents. Step by step, he explains:

––How to observe and chart your child's behavior––a critical diagnostic tool

––What to expect during the evaluation and treatment process

––How to partner with medical and school professionals to assist your child and what to do when conflicts arise

Clear and comprehensive, this supportive guide will be every parent's first line of defense in helping a troubled child.

Product Details

ISBN-13:	9780062117731
Publisher:	HarperCollins
Publication date:	08/02/2011
Sold by:	HARPERCOLLINS
Format:	eBook
Pages:	336
File size:	1 MB

About the Author

Robert Newby, Ph.D. is currently Associate Clinical Professor of Neurology and Pediatrics, Medical College of Wisconsin, and formerly co-director of the Neuropsychology Clinic at the Medical College of Wisconsin, one of the leading such clinics in the country. He has conducted more than 3,000 neuropsychological evaluations of children. He lives with his family in Whitefish Bay, Wisconsin.

Lynn Sonberg has authored several bestselling nutrition counters, including The Complete Nutrition Counter and The Quick and Easy Fat Gram Counter, as well as a comprehensive reference, The Health Nutrient Bible: The Complete Encyclopedia of Food As Medicine. As a book producer, she specializes in developing books that deal with nutrition and complementary approaches to health problems. She lives with her family in Manhattan and Sag Harbor, New York.

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Your Struggling Child

A Guide to Diagnosing, Understanding, and Advocating for Your Child with Learning, Behavior, or Emotional Problem

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By Robert Newby

HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Copyright © 2006 Robert Newby
All right reserved.
ISBN: 0060735228

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Chapter One

Helping You Better
Understand Your Child

You sense that your child has a problem. Maybe Jack's a whiz in math, but by second grade he's still not reading. Mary has a phenomenal vocabulary for a fourth grader, but she's still having trouble tying her shoes. Jody is a helpful eighth grader around the house, with lots of friends -- but he's constantly sitting in the principal's office. At seventeen, Sally still can't pay attention long enough to finish her homework, so she's getting frustrated and discouraged. Or maybe you have a teenager who seemed to do fine in elementary school, but now that he's facing more challenging work in high school, he's starting to have problems and you're wondering if he has an undiagnosed learning disability.

You know something seems to be wrong -- but what? So many times parents have told me, I just had a feeling that something wasn't right. All too often, parents with these vague concerns don't know what to do with their intuitive feelings. In some mild cases, a teacher may not mention your child's problems at all. At other times, a teacher may notice something going on at school that doesn't happen at home, and suddenly you get a surprise call from a teacher because your child's progress isn't what it should be. Here you were thinking everything was going well, and suddenly you've got a teacher with another point of view entirely.

If this sounds like your situation, take heart! Your feelings of confusion or uncertainty are really quite common, but so often unaddressed. The problem is that many behavioral or learning issues aren't obvious or straightforward. It's hard for parents to figure out if their child's skills or behavior are simply at the far end of "normal," or if the child really has a problem. And if your child does need help -- where do you start?

That was the dilemma for Sandra, a single mom who was worried about her only child, seven-year-old Celeste. "When Celeste was in kindergarten and first grade, she seemed fine," her mom reported. She made friends, enjoyed school, and was reading above grade level. But by the end of first grade, something had changed. Her teacher noticed that Celeste had started to withdraw and stare blankly out the window. She wouldn't eat lunch with her friends. By the third grade the problems had only gotten worse.

"After a month of school that fall," her mother reported, "her teacher called and said something had to be done." Celeste was acting spacey and was barely speaking in class. When the teacher asked her what was wrong, she'd just shrug. "I noticed these changes at home, too," Sandra said, "but I didn't know what to do or where to turn."

Was Celeste just bored? Unchallenged? Slow? Could she have a brain disease?

The Guilt Game

Sandra's story isn't unique. In fact, lots of parents sense something isn't quite right with their child about the same time that the child starts to have problems at school. Often, this begins in late preschool or in the early elementary grades. When you see your child struggle, it's easy to feel guilty or worried. Parents ask themselves, "Did we do something wrong? Are my child's problems my fault?"

It can be even more upsetting if you think there's a problem, but the school either doesn't recognize a problem or shrugs off your valid concerns. At that point, you're left with a haunting dilemma: Is it me? Is my child actually okay? Am I just overreacting? Maybe the school knows best . . .

Between the confusion about what might be wrong and not knowing where to go for help or whom to ask, it's not surprising that you feel lost, anxious, and frustrated. At this very moment, millions of children across the United States are falling behind in school or acting out impulsively at home. Some of these kids don't have any friends. They don't get along with their brothers and sisters. They may be troubled by dramatic mood swings; perhaps they're hostile, hyperactive, listless, apathetic, easily distracted, withdrawn, antisocial, or destructive. And their parents are frustrated and afraid because they feel they've lost control and they don't know how to find out what's wrong. They don't know where to turn for help, how to get a diagnosis, what treatments are available, or how to cope with their child's challenging behaviors and moods. They don't know whether their child's struggles are normal or abnormal.

Why I Wrote This Book

If this sounds like what's going on with your family, don't worry -- there's hope! That's why I've written this book -- to help you find the answers to all the heartrending questions that many other parents just like you have asked me over the years:

What's wrong with my child?
Will my child make it through school?
Will my child ever be normal?

All these questions were on Sandra's mind after she had spoken to Celeste's teacher. Something was definitely going on with this student, the teacher insisted. So Sandra took Celeste to her pediatrician, and then to another pediatrician, and then to a child psychologist -- but none of them seemed to understand her daughter's problems. One recommended that Celeste start taking antidepressant medication after a mere five-minute interview. "She might be depressed," the doctor suggested, but Sandra resisted the idea of medicating her child before she really knew what the problem was.

Sandra had a growing intuition that this problem wouldn't go away on its own, but she needed more information. Eventually, Celeste was referred to our clinic for an evaluation.

Continues...

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Table of Contents

	Acknowledgments	xi
	Preface	xiii
1	Helping You Better Understand Your Child	1
2	Charting the Problem: Notes, Checklists, and Behavior Diaries	23
3	How to Work with Your Child's School	40
4	Getting an Outside Opinion: Teaming Up with Professionals	59
5	It's Test Time: What You and Your Child Can Expect	85
6	Learning Difficulties: Thinking, Academics, Language, Speech, and Motor Skills	105
7	Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder and Other Disruptive Behavior Patterns	142
8	Autistic Spectrum Disorders	167
9	Anxiety and Traumatic Disorders	192
10	Mood Difficulties: Depression and Bipolar Disorder	209
11	Rarer, Complicating, and Controversial Diagnoses	223
	Epilogue	236
	Glossary	243
Appendix A	For More Information...	249
Appendix B	Helpful Organizations and Associations	255
	References	293
	Index	303

What People are Saying About This

Lynn Bennett Blackburn

“Dr. Newby succeeds in...providing parents with a “map” to guide their journey from concern to effective intervention. ”

Robert J. Miller

“A valuable introduction to this often bewildering topic not only for parents, but also for teachers and...pediatricians.”

Russell Barkley

“Exceptionally informative. . .should easily guide parents through the maze of services. . .their child may need.”

Peter L. Stavinoha

“An easy-to-read and comprehensive guide...to navigate the complex maze of disorders, evaluation options, and treatment strategies”

Editorial Reviews

Exceptionally informative. . .should easily guide parents through the maze of services. . .their child may need.” — Russell Barkley, Ph.D., Research Professor of Psychiatry, SUNY Upstate Medical University, Syracuse, NY

“An easy-to-read and comprehensive guide...to navigate the complex maze of disorders, evaluation options, and treatment strategies” — Peter L. Stavinoha, Ph.D., Director of Neuropsychology, Children's Medical Center of Dallas, Associate Professor in Psychiatry, University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center

“A valuable introduction to this often bewildering topic not only for parents, but also for teachers and...pediatricians.” — Robert J. Miller, M.D, Ph.D., FAAP, Pediatrician; former Vice-President/Chief Medical Officer of Children's Hospital of Wisconsin

“Dr. Newby succeeds in...providing parents with a “map” to guide their journey from concern to effective intervention. ” — Lynn Bennett Blackburn, Ph.D., ABPP, Pediatric Neuropsychologist, St. Louis Children’s Hospital

From the Publisher

Dr. Newby succeeds in...providing parents with a “map” to guide their journey from concern to effective intervention.

Lynn Bennett Blackburn

A valuable introduction to this often bewildering topic not only for parents, but also for teachers and...pediatricians.

Robert J. Miller

Exceptionally informative. . .should easily guide parents through the maze of services. . .their child may need.

Russell Barkley

An easy-to-read and comprehensive guide...to navigate the complex maze of disorders, evaluation options, and treatment strategies

Peter L. Stavinoha