Table of Contents
Introduction: The Truth Is the Beginning 11
Part 1 Be a Truth-Teller, Not a Taskmaster
1 Unseen and Unheard 21
Acceptance through Refuge 27
Acceptance through Reframing 34
Acceptance through Respect 44
2 Rejected 54
Belonging through Pledging 61
Belonging through Detecting 69
Belonging through Reaching 74
Part 2 Be an Encourager, Not Enforcer
3 Adrift 89
Anchoring through Empowerment 97
Anchoring through Invitation 106
Anchoring through Protection 116
4 Micromanaged 129
Independence through Confidence 138
Independence through Communication 147
Independence through Opportunity 155
Part 3 Be a Guide, Not a Half-Listener
5 Worried 169
Resilience through Overcoming 180
Resilience through Relating 189
Resilience through Listening 198
6 Not Enough 210
Worthiness through Discovery 220
Worthiness through Affirmation 229
Worthiness through Knowledge 237
Conclusion: "One Window," by Natalie Stafford 251
Afterword: We Are Okay 257
Acknowledgments 263